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Vow Renewal.

KendallR10KendallR10 member
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We talk about them quite a bit on here. 

If you were to go to one what would you be appalled if you saw?

What wouldn't appal you? 


These are just questions. I'm not even planning  my VR yet. 

Hike: If we get enough responses. Sticky maybe?

ETA: spelling
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  • BinxRoseBinxRose member
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    edited December 2011
    I honestly don't care if people decide to do VRs after getting married w/ a JOP. There are a few things that would bother me though:

    *Not telling your guests that you are already married.
    *Expecting gifts (aka making a registry).

    I just think your guests have a right to know that this is a VR and not a wedding. Also, I wouldn't typically give someone a wedding gift if it's not for their wedding, and a VR is not a wedding, so....

    Just my opinions.
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  • iluvmytxrgriluvmytxrgr member
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    I agree with BInx
    - no registries.  The only exception I have to this would be in a situation that a friend of mine was in where she and her husband were married a week before they both deployed.  She went to Iraq.  He went to Afghanistan.  They did a full big bash VR when they got back. 
    - no giving away of the Bride.  You are already married.  There is nothing to give away.
    - If you want a special dance, cool.  Just don't call it your first dance unless you have truely not danced at all since the day you got married. 
    - Tell people you are having a VR.  Don't lie to people and let them think this is your wedding.  It's not. 
    - the bouquet and garter tosses don't really fit in with a VR if you think about the reason you have those in the first place. 
    - unity candles and such don't really apply to a VR.  You have already been united. 
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    ~ registries
    ~ toss'
    ~ first dance
    Those are no's

    ~Someone walking down the isle with the bride. (Maybe the flower girls)
    ~ Sand ceremony this could be done kinda cool
    These are maybe's

    ~What ever color dress she wants
    ~ Telling people its a VR and not a wedding
    These are yes'
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    edited December 2011
    As long as everyone knows its a VR then I don't give a shiiit.  What appals me is the number of people that do lie about it, and that doesn't bother them.. and then they act shocked when people find out and then boycott their VR.
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:cee51f99-c826-4d75-92d9-2942a182b68f">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I agree with BInx - no registries.  The only exception I have to this would be in a situation that a friend of mine was in where she and her husband were married a week before they both deployed.  She went to Iraq.  He went to Afghanistan.  They did a full big bash VR when they got back.  - no giving away of the Bride.  You are already married.  There is nothing to give away. - If you want a special dance, cool.  Just don't call it your first dance unless you have truely not danced at all since the day you got married.  - Tell people you are having a VR.  Don't lie to people and let them think this is your wedding.  It's not.  - the bouquet and garter tosses don't really fit in with a VR if you think about the reason you have those in the first place.  - unity candles and such don't really apply to a VR.  You have already been united. 
    Posted by iluvmytxrgr[/QUOTE]

    <div>All these, except registries. I would not be appalled (note the spelling) by someone registering. </div>
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:08ffa7ef-7a53-4521-8bcd-eaf99f28b9c5">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : All these, except registries. I would not be appalled (note the spelling) by someone registering. 
    Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]
    Thanks for fixing that. I spell checked and it didn't say it was spelled wrong
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:94c781ff-5772-4ae7-b319-f343f0176c06">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : Thanks for fixing that. I spell checked and it didn't say it was spelled wrong
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>I wasn't trying to be nitpicky, glad you fixed it, as genuinely your OP was hard to read. I was like, what the heck is apaled? I mean, I'm so white I'm transluscent, but I wouldn't say that makes me a paled. </div><div>
    </div><div>LOL.

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  • crownsuperstarcrownsuperstar member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:69da00de-e3a7-45f7-9ad7-c6cc833fd095">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]As long as everyone knows its a VR then I don't give a shiiit.  What appals me is the number of people that do lie about it, and that doesn't bother them.. and then they act shocked when people find out and then boycott their VR.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this.  As long as people they are attending a VR, I just see it as their day to do what they want.  Again as long as they are honest in the first place. 

    As far as the sand/candle thing, those are not my taste any way and that is a tradition that I hate.   We didn't do sand/candle at our wedding but then again we didn't want to and that is up to the individual people.  I just didn't see the point in the sand/candle since I had no idea what I would do with a burnt candle or a jar of sand.  Again just me. 
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    edited December 2011
    Crown- Ugh, I know. I hate those too.. I get the symbolism, but I can make the sand thing at home, by myself with a kit from Hobby Lobby, I can also light a candle on my own as well! I wear big girl panties, I don't need my H or a bunch of people watching to help me with the sand, candles or my panties. Wink

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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:bcff375c-6008-434d-bfbf-3e212ae3b908">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : I agree with this.  As long as people they are attending a VR, I just see it as their day to do what they want.  Again as long as they are honest in the first place.  As far as the sand/candle thing, those are not my taste any way and that is a tradition that I hate.   We didn't do sand/candle at our wedding but then again we didn't want to and that is up to the individual people.  I just didn't see the point in the sand/candle since I had no idea what I would do with a burnt candle or a jar of sand.  Again just me. 
    Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]
    I think it can be cute. FI and I are going to get rocks and have people write on them. and put them in a jar instead of the candle or the sand
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    Why rocks? Paper is much cheaper, and easier to write on.
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  • crownsuperstarcrownsuperstar member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:53466bbf-c22d-4ee6-b936-0859a5dd26b7">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Crown- Ugh, I know. I hate those too.. I get the symbolism, but I can make the sand thing at home, by myself with a kit from Hobby Lobby, I can also light a candle on my own as well! I wear big girl panties, I don't need my H to help me either of those.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]

    Haa I know right.  I remember sitting in a church one time and the candle kept going out.  One of my friends looked at me said <strong>"awkward"</strong> and it so was. 

    I live at the beach, I can get my own sand for free and add food coloring.  HAA

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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    edited December 2011
    I guess I don't really understand the point of a VR. I could care less if someone has one but to me, it doesn't make sense.

    Vows are supposed to be forever right? So then why would you have to renew them?

    I should add that if a friend was having a VR, I would love to go. I would support them and be happy for them, I just wouldn't really understand it.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:6cf23b70-d6d2-4904-acd6-a9a411bdc004">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Why rocks? Paper is much cheaper, and easier to write on.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    We live like 2 hours from the beach. We are gonna get them there. <div>
    </div><div>Its gonna be like our unity of our friends and families. Its for the VR. People don't have to if they don't want to. I can't remember the exact name of it but its like a well wishing jar</div>
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  • crownsuperstarcrownsuperstar member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:4c85a0dd-9a01-4032-9a6c-950202597f52">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : I think it can be cute. FI and I are going to get rocks and have people write on them. and put them in a jar instead of the candle or the sand
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    That is not what the unity sand/candle part of the service is.  It is just the bride and the groom pouring sand/lighting a candle together. 

    If I am understanding what you are talking about that is really not the same thing.  I assume you are not going to have people get up during the middle of the service and put a rock in a jar while you stand there.  I mean if you are that's fine it is your VR but I would see something that like at the reception sort of like a guest book. 
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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    Kendall- I'm scared this question will come out the wrong way but I really don't mean it to. How come you are having a VR?
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:c3764c0c-91c3-488b-b9e2-a0653b3227a0">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : That is not what the unity sand/candle part of the service is.  It is just the bride and the groom pouring sand/lighting a candle together.  If I am understanding what you are talking about that is really not the same thing.  I assume you are not going to have people get up during the middle of the service and put a rock in a jar while you stand there.  I mean if you are that's fine it is your VR but I would see something that like at the reception sort of like a guest book. 
    Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]
    We're going to do it before the ceremony and then during the ceremony we are going to have our 2 jars of sand and we are going to pour it in the same jar as the rocks
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  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    We're having a "blessing of the hands" - sort of a moment where our officiant will have us hold hands and look at each other's hands, and talk about what those hands mean now and throughout our marriage (hold us when we're sad, pick up our children, wipe tears from our faces, etc.).  And I really like the idea of a "ring warming" - when the guests hold the rings and think good wishes for the couple before they put them on during the ceremony.  Other than that, I'm indifferent towards those types of things, at either a wedding or vow renewal.

    As long as people know that the couple is already married, I really don't care.  I think having a shower is a bit tacky, but I don't care about a bachelorette (unless it's something very expensive, I never see a need to have a reason for a good party!) or the white dress or whatever.  I mean, I personally wouldn't have my parents "give me away" since I would already be his, but it wouldn't bother me if someone else did it.  Same thought for the garter toss, having bridesmaids, first dance, cake cutting, etc.  I don't care if someone does it or not.

    As far as registries, I feel like people advertise them far too much anyway.  I think for a VR it's fine to register - just don't post it anywhere or advertise it at all.  If people want to find it, they will - I found my friends' on Amazon and Macy's without them ever telling me or having a web page.  It was easy.  If they want to know, they'll ask and you can tell them then.  But a small tasteful registry is fine, IMO.

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  • RethanyRethany
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:5865a735-5f6f-4181-9304-c85648326227">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I guess I don't really understand the point of a VR. I could care less if someone has one but to me, it doesn't make sense. Vows are supposed to be forever right? So then why would you have to renew them? I should add that if a friend was having a VR, I would love to go. I would support them and be happy for them, I just wouldn't really understand it.
    Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

    This.  The only time I can really understand it is if a marriage was having troubles and they worked through it and they wanted to remind each other of their vows they made years ago.  But when people do it like five years down the road I've never understood it.

    Like Hike said, they aren't bad, I just don't understand them sometimes.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:2c788791-1835-4f9f-a32b-c74652cd39f4">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Kendall- I'm scared this question will come out the wrong way but I really don't mean it to. How come you are having a VR?
    Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
    We want to celebrate with our friends. We have a lot of out of town friends and family that can't make our wedding because of how soon it is. We would wait but I'm not sure my grandparents are going to live much longer. It would be terrible for them to not see their only grandchild get married. 
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  • AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:5865a735-5f6f-4181-9304-c85648326227">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>I guess I don't really understand the point of a VR.</strong> I could care less if someone has one but to me, it doesn't make sense. Vows are supposed to be forever right? So then why would you have to renew them? I should add that if a friend was having a VR, I would love to go. I would support them and be happy for them, I just wouldn't really understand it.
    Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

    I don't see the point unless you are at year 25, 50 or 75. Then I think it is sweet, otherwise my impression is an AW.

    But if any of my friend were doing it, I would still go because everyone likes to get dressed up and party.
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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:d03a33e1-ae25-4d49-baef-353432c5bce4">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : This.  The only time I can really understand it is if a marriage was having troubles and they worked through it and they wanted to remind each other of their vows they made years ago.  But when people do it like five years down the road I've never understood it. Like Hike said, they aren't bad, I just don't understand them sometimes.
    Posted by spiffycoolbeans[/QUOTE]

    Maybe I would feel differently if I were the person in the rocky marriage and we came out on top.

    I just feel like I could talk to my H about the hard times and how far we've come.

    I don't know. Maybe I'm just heartless!
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:d633666f-2592-456e-b78d-967ab1b45eb3">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : We live like 2 hours from the beach. We are gonna get them there.  Its gonna be like our unity of our friends and families. Its for the VR. People don't have to if they don't want to. I can't remember the exact name of it but its like a well wishing jar
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    To each their own I guess... No offense, but I think that's ridiculous.  Isn't that the point of like a guest book?  Do it on a frame, or in a scrapbook or a kickass pair of t-shirts, but I'm sorry making people write on rocks is just really silly.
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    I feel like if we ever did a VR, it would be for any given anniversary.  But it would never be a big party.  More likely it would be a trip somewhere just the two of us where we renew our vows on the beach.  Or when we hit a big landmark, like 10 years, have a small ceremony with just us and our children (my parents did that and I loved it when I was 8 years old).

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  • crownsuperstarcrownsuperstar member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:a86c664a-ca70-4ff1-8335-af9a0379ba9a">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : I don't see the point unless you are at year 25, 50 or 75. Then I think it is sweet, otherwise my impression is an AW. But if any of my friend were doing it, <strong>I would still go because everyone likes to get dressed up and party.
    </strong>Posted by AmandaSC1988[/QUOTE]

    I would do the same thing.  I love getting dolled up and putting on my dancing shoes but then again I would do that for a night out.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:3bd412e8-69fb-47e7-a258-b36c95889072">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I feel like if we ever did a VR, it would be for any given anniversary.  But it would never be a big party.  More likely it would be a trip somewhere just the two of us where we renew our vows on the beach.  Or when we hit a big landmark, like 10 years, have a small ceremony with just us and our children (my parents did that and I loved it when I was 8 years old).
    Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

    H and I have talked about doing one since we will have survived a rocky 1st year of marriage entirely apart, but now I was like .. ehh.. Lets wait a while.  We would do it just us and invite like our friends and family (Namely mine who weren't able to come to the wedding), but not make it a big to do.  Probably just the 2 of us. 
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  • crownsuperstarcrownsuperstar member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:81502333-f74e-4319-9965-9decf939a444">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : To each their own I guess... No offense, but I think that's ridiculous.  Isn't that the point of like a guest book?  Do it on a frame, or in a scrapbook or a kickass pair of t-shirts, but I'm sorry making people write on rocks is just really silly.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]

    Again Sami you are in my head.  I have to agree and was trying to picture this and having a very hard time.

    To each his own. 
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  • shan87shan87
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:86bf6955-f826-4fe7-ab84-978919657b1a">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : We want to celebrate with our friends. We have a lot of out of town friends and family that can't make our wedding because of how soon it is. We would wait but I'm not sure my grandparents are going to live much longer. It would be terrible for them to not see their only grandchild get married. 
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]


    Why not just throw a party for your friends and family that missed it?

    IMO, if I wasn't able to see the actual vows the first time, I could care less about seeing a "re do" or "renewal" .. mock ceremony whatever you want to call it. I have problems with VR because I think they are trying to be something they are not, regardless if everyone knows. As soon as the couple stands in front of everyone, or their is any type of ceremony I feel like the couple is implying wedding and it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

    I have friends that did a small ceremony then dinner.... then a couple weeks later threw a party for extended family and friends. I had a blast celebrating their marriage (big step in their lives) with them without being at the wedding. .

    You know what I did for people that missed our wedding? Showed them the video.
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  • AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:5aa2772b-9407-416a-91d1-8dc9f6ba4c93">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : Haa I know right.  I <strong>remember sitting in a church one time and the candle kept going out. </strong>One of my friends looked at me said "awkward" and it so was.  I live at the beach, I can get my own sand for free and add food coloring.  HAA Edit- I need sleep!
    Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]

    This happened at my brother's first wedding... We assumed it was a sign... and it was..they were divorced 4 months later.

    My FI was an alter boy for many a weddings when he was younger... They were directed to burn the candle prior to the bride and groom, so they wouldn't have that problem.. haha
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  • crownsuperstarcrownsuperstar member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_vow-renewal-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:39d3841e-15ad-4f74-a146-da06fd6b6515Post:213c19e0-e960-4924-8fe6-8bec22317cff">Re: Vow Renewal.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vow Renewal. : This happened at my brother's first wedding... We assumed it was a sign... and it was..they were divorced 4 months later. My FI was an alter boy for many a weddings when he was younger... They were directed to burn the candle prior to the bride and groom, so they wouldn't have that problem.. haha
    Posted by AmandaSC1988[/QUOTE]

    Haa that is what we thought too.  Funny they were divorced within the year.  Totally a sign!
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