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July 2012 Weddings
hellosunshine12
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Do You Ever Feel Guilty?
For the amount of money you are spending on your wedding? This is a battle I have with myself daily..I want it to be beautiful & special but I feel guilty for spending so much on the day..don't get me wrong...I am also beyond excited at the same time!
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Re: Do You Ever Feel Guilty?
[QUOTE]Yes. I think I feel more quilty about it since my parents are paying for it. I hate that they are spending that much on me for one day even if they tell me over and over that they have money set aside for it.
Posted by AllyG303[/QUOTE]
Seriously. My mom's paying for the whole thing (my father passed away a long time ago) and I feel terrible about it. Especially because both fiance and I are lawyers. She won't let us pay for it, though. She insists and everytime I bring it up she says that paying for our wedding would be "what my dad would want." How can you argue with that!?
[QUOTE]We are keeping it well within what we can afford but for 1 day, it is so much and sometimes it doesn't seem rational.
Posted by penny12986[/QUOTE]
Exactly. Sometimes I'm really jealous of those people who go to a courthouse or have a super low key wedding at a restaurant, and later go on an amazing honeymoon with all the money saved. But then my annoying sentimental self kicks back in and reminds me how much I'd regret not having all the little extras we're paying for. *sigh* FI is caught in the middle too, he thinks a wedding is soo much money when we could just go on an awesome trip.. but then he's like.. but but I want a kick-ass party though!!! hahaha
[QUOTE]Y.E.S! lol I feel even more guilty when someone says " you could use the money for a down payment on a house" or " save the money and go to the courthouse" ugh! -_-
Posted by hmacsine[/QUOTE]
EXACTLY! My mother says this constantly especially when FI brings up wanting children now but within almost the same breath she says how beautiful the wedding will be. It is alot and yes it could be a down payment on a home or more yet it's the ONE day we will cherish for the rest of our lives that we became one with our love's.
[QUOTE]Y.E.S! lol I feel even more guilty when someone says " you could use the money for a down payment on a house" or " save the money and go to the courthouse" ugh! -_-
Posted by hmacsine[/QUOTE]
My fiance and his family say this all the time...Its annoying
Do I feel guilty? Yesss right now I'm unemployed and trying to get back into school theres a program I really want to do and it costs the same amount I have in my wedding savings...HOW TEMPTING! But I know 20yrs down the road I'll be so thankful I wore the dress, ate the cake and said "I do" infront of my family and close friends :)
I still secretly hope that he will change his mind. I want to marry him, he is my world and he will do and has done anything and everything without me asking for help.
I'm doing this for him. I detest every moment of my wedding plans, being broke and always looking for the next sale on groceries.
I remind myself everyday that I'm doing this for him. He gets very excited when he talks about the wedding it's really cute.
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Maybe if we didn't already have a house or if our parents were paying I would feel a little guilty. But when I look at it in the grand scheme of things we will be working 35 more years before retirement, so if it takes less than 1 year's salary to have a great wedding and honeymoon then I think we are doing pretty good.
My parents are paying for the whole thing, but they gave us a budget to work with, so it's not like we're getting too crazy or anything. My parents had a really nice wedding that my grandparents paid for, so for my mom, I always knew she wanted to do the same for me and to do something even nicer. She's loving the entire planning process, and she's such a perfectionist, she's insisting on extra expenses that I've told her multiple times that I don't even care about (one big, costly example is the photobooth that she insists on). So, it would be easier to feel guilty about it if she weren't so into the whole thing, I suppose.
As mom keeps saying, you're only having one wedding. Make it everything you could ever want.
I've only felt guilt about two things so far: spending money on the super nice invites that I love when everyone is only going to throw them away later (so I decided I may design my own to save my parents some money) and spending $400 on a cathedral veil that I will only wear for the ceremony. Yeesh.
[QUOTE]Yes. I think I feel more quilty about it since my parents are paying for it. I hate that they are spending that much on me for one day even if they tell me over and over that they have money set aside for it.
Posted by AllyG303[/QUOTE]
My thoughts exactly.....I feel bad about even accepting a Christmas present from them! Its so much money for ONE day!
Yes, it's an absurd amount of money... but it's a once-in-a-lifetime celebration. Any time you have that many people getting together, of course you're going to shell out a ton of money. For me, it's totally going to be worth it.
We both work hard and we want to enjoy this time in our lives. We'll have the rest of our lives to worry about money.