I have 4 bridesmaids and I love each of them.
My fiance has asked members of his family to be his groomsmen including my little brother.
I just found out that my brother, who JUST turned 18, will be in bootcamp for the Navy during my wedding. I am incredibly bummed that my brother will no longer be able to be apart of the wedding.
I know that it doesn't really matter if I have 4 people standing up for me and FI has 3, but for asthetic reasons, I'd really rather have them be equal. If you knew me, you'd understand my need for equality!
I decided that I would ask my old roommate to stand down, partly because in January she talked to me about being unable to afford being a bridesmaid. I told her that she shouldn't worry too much since the majority of her expenses won't come until after she graduates college this May and I will be paying $100 per girl out of my pocket to go towards the down payment on their dresses, leaving only like $20-30 for them when we order dresses in April.
Now that my brother can no longer be apart of the wedding, it'd be easier to ask her to stand down because of her financial concerns, I have known her for a shorter time than the other 3, and now that she and I are no longer roommates (as of February) we haven't really even been talking - which I find very disappointing.
How can I best un-ask her to be a bridesmaid? I would like to note that I live about an hour away now, and I don't know when I'll see her again before I get the girls together for ordering their dresses mid-late April.