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What are your dad's wearing?

So a while back FI said he didn't think his dad would wear a tux. We're having a pretty casual wedding, but the groomsmen are still going to be in tuxes. I didn't think anything of it at the time. But now that I'm thinking about it and looking at tuxes for the guys, I want my dad to wear a tux, I mean he's walking me down the aisle. I mentioned this to FI and he said he wasn't going to make his dad wear a tux because it's too much hassel. My grandma suggested that the ushers wear tuxes too (my brother will be one of these and she insists he stands out a bit). He thought this was silly. So I asked what was his dad going to wear, a button down shirt with a tie and slacks? FI responded saying probably a polo and nice pants. I freaked a little. Am I being bridezilla over this? I know you can't dictate what people wear, but in general I thought the dad's wore tuxes. I feel like it'd look ridiculous in photos if his dad was wearing a polo and mine was in a tux. 

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  • We're not picking what the dads wear.  If they want to rent a tux, great, if not, they can wear a nice suit.  I'd probably object to anything less formal than a suit.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_dads-wearing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:41ab9743-d869-44ba-92ad-6ec5b9c79162Post:8cd87047-9a01-47bb-adfc-a1ae83b8a714">Re: What are your dad's wearing?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If your FFIl and FMIL are still married, does she typically pick out his clothes? (At least in my family the wives end up picking out clothes for the men)
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    <div>They're divorced. And FFIL lives across the country. I've only met him twice so it'll be pretty awkward to call him up and ask about what he wants to wearing to the wedding. FMIL remarried, so I don't know if FI's step-dad should be in a tux or a suit or what. FMIL is casual too, and that's fine, so I know that she's not going to go out and buy a fancy MOG dress. I just hope she dresses up. So getting her to get FFIL or FI's step-dad to dress up is unlikely :/
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  • Eh, if they're that resistant, I'd say to kindly suggest to your own family what they should wear and not worry about his. Maybe your FI can drop a hint to his family. If they show up underdressed, they're the ones who look inappropriate, and I don't think that refects on the B&G.
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  • Our dads are wearing suits in the same color as the groomsmen, but we are allowing them to pick their preferred style.
  • My dad is wearing a tux because he is walking me down the aisle.  My FI's dad and the step-dads will just wear a suit of their choosing.  They know they will be in pictures and they should wear suits, other than that I do not care what they wear.  One step dad said he wanted to coordinate with the bridal party so he is wearing a dark suit and he got a really nice pink tie, but if the other dads do not want to coordinate I don't care, I highly doubt anyone will notice, even in pictures, as long as they are in suits.
  • I feel that there should be some form of unity in the clothing of the important members of the wedding.  If groomsmen are wearing a tux then i think the fathers should at least wear a suit the same color or with a similar color tie.  if the weding party was much more casual then a polo could work.  since everyone else would be in a tux your FFIL will look very out of place, almost like he is at the wrong wedding, or a guest that didnt feel like dressing for a wedding.  considering ppl are wearings tuxes the wedding isnt completly casual so i think even the guests should at least wear a button down shirt and not a polo.  When i think polo i think beach wedding or a wedding where the bridal party is wearing slacks and a button down.  I think your FFIL could feel very out of place and possibly uncomfortable in a polo and slacks while everyone else is in a suit or tux.
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  • My Dad is wearing a tux, but we're having a fairly formal wedding.  My fiance's Dad said he was probably going to go out and buy a tux too.
    I don't think it's exactly appropriate for him to wear a polo to a wedding.  That's a bit too casual.  He should at least be in a suit.
    You may just have to convince your fiance to call his Dad and tell him to at least put on a suit.

  • If you told him that the wedding is going to be casual, he probably thinks that casual clothing is appropriate. Have your fi let him know what your dad and the other men are wearing and ask him if he would like to rent a tux to match. He might be embarrassed if he shows up under dressed. A suit would also be fine, especially for a casual wedding,  but you really can't tell him how to dress.

                       
  • Our groomsmen, ushers, and dad's will be in tuxes. They don't mind. Honestly I think it will make both fathers feel more included and it looks better in pictures. Just run it by your FFIL and see what he says. If your dad is wearing a tux tell FFIL that. Maybe it will steer him in that direction, and (evil grin) make him feel a little more obligated since your dad is wearing one. (I'm sure he'd feel out of place if he is the only not in a tux.)
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  • My Dad is wearing a tux b/c my Mom says he has to (ha!) since he's walking me down the aisle.  My fiance's dad is wearing a suit.
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  • Mine is wearing a tux... not sure about FFIL, but I'm about 98% sure he'll wear one too.  And I'll get him and my dad matching ties... (oooh... something I haven't really looked for yet!) probably in purple, which is the same as the GMs.  Ushers get orange, b/c that's the color of our flowers, and I found some fabulous ones!

    I'm just fine with people wearing suits... but I know my mom (who has lost her marbles a bit) is "strongly suggesting" tuxes for the dads.  I should probably let them know - I guess that's what Sunday night is for (dinner with the in-laws almost every Sunday).  I'm sure they'll be fine with it.  Purple would work for their ties too, because that's the color their daughters are wearing (my sis/MOH and his sis/BM)...

    I'll make it happen. Laughing
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