Dollar Dance

RaeRae1126 · April 2011

Go for it sweetheart. If you like the idea, think its cute..think the guests will enjoy and get a laugh, then by all means have the dance. Its not that serious ladies.

zitiqueen · April 2011

My main issue -- which I stated in my first post in this thread -- is all the hypocritical Knotties who go on and on about how they're oh-so-tolerant and open-minded when it comes to the traditions of a heritage and/or a region that's different than theirs... unless, of course, those traditions don't 100%-dovetail with the traditions of their heritage and/or regions.

"It's perfectly acceptable for you to have a dollar dance since it's common in your region or your heritage or it's a long-standing family tradition... but it's rude and tacky and you should stop doing it because I've never been to a wedding where it was done and I've never heard of it being done where I live."

And yes, 30 minutes for a dollar dance is flipping ridiculous.

bbrown185 · April 2011

I don't know much about the etiquette surrounding the dollar dance, so I say that you should decide based on the type of people you are having at your reception. If you don't have a dancing crowd, obviously the dollar dance would be a bad idea. It really comes down to being about personality. I personally would never do it, but my personality makes me think things like "What if no one wants to dance with me, that would be embarassing" or "These people already bought me a gift, why should I ask for more money and put them on the spot like that?" That is just me however. Just think about the types of people you are inviting and try to make a decision based off of that. In the end, tacky or not its your reception.

jemmini6 · April 2011

They are incredibly common in my area/social circle and I've never been to a wedding that didn't have one. It's really not about the money for people here though as most only give $1 - $5 to dance...so if you are doing it because you think it's a cool way to make extra cash even though no one in your social circle has ever had one before, then yes, it's tacky. But if you are doing it because that's the tradition in your family and you want one on one time with your guests, then it's fine.

I'm still on the fence about doing one for our wedding though. I really don't care to dance with my creepy uncle or FI's 11 year old cousin, but we're already cutting the bouquet/garter toss and my mom already flipped about that so I'm sure she'll press for the dollar dance, we might just give in a do it to make her happy.

npenkava · April 2011

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Money_dance

The money dance, dollar dance, or apron dance is an event at some wedding receptions in various cultures. During a money dance, male guests pay to dance briefly with the bride, and sometimes female guests pay to dance with the groom. The custom originated in Poland in the early 1900s in immigrant neighborhoods.

missnimrod · April 2011

We weren't going to do a dollar dance at my sister's wedding, well actually it didn't occur to us, until a guest came up to me and insisted we do the dollar dance at once. So we did, it was a great success and everyone that was giving me money to dance with my sister kept saying they were wondering when the dollar dance would start.

I plan to do one at my wedding too since a lot of the same people will be at my wedding, that and it's one of the few ways to get my grandpa on the dance floor.

I don't think it's rude, it's fun, for some folks it may be the only way they would feel comfortable to get a dance in with the bride or groom.

Best of Luck and Good Wishes!

aerinpegadrak · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_dollar-dance-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:57f57a8f-c80d-4ead-a5f1-1e5a0b985f15Post:cc68a85d-aab2-4141-8ed1-631c244f4e73">aerinpegadrak heres a link for ya</a>:
[QUOTE]<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Money_dance" rel='nofollow'>http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Money_dance</a> The money dance , dollar dance , or apron dance is an event at some wedding receptions in various cultures. During a money dance, male guests pay to dance briefly with the bride, and sometimes female guests pay to dance with the groom. The custom originated in Poland in the early 1900s in immigrant neighborhoods.
Posted by npenkava[/QUOTE]
For all anyone knows, you're the one that just made that edit. Wikipedia is not a valid source. Try again.

worshambe · April 2011

My sister's husband wanted to have a dollar dance at their wedding and my family totally freaked out (including myself) and said, NO! It's tacky! But now I'm engaged to a man whose family sees it as an integral part of their reception...as integral as the bride & groom's first dance.

We were at his sister's wedding in October and they did a dollar dance where the best man & maid of honor stood out on the dance floor with a tray of shots and a money bag. You went up, did a shot, put your dollar in and danced with either the bride or groom. It was a TON of fun (and the shots were an interesting twist).

I can see where it is part of his family's culture and not a part of mine. I think I originally objected to it because it sounds tacky when you describe it. But when you see it in action, it's really a lot of fun (at least that was my experience). So I say DO WHAT YOU WANT! It's your wedding reception and if it sounds like a fun idea, DO IT! I am having it at my reception....not to get money or pay for my honeymoon.....but as something fun!

mmejstrik · April 2011

My fiance and I have been debating the same thing. I would have to agree with most responses that unless it means a lot to you, I would just skip it. We have been to a few dances where the dollar dance took an hour and we deicded that we wanted our guests to be able to continue their own dancing ventures and enjorment instead of watching us and waiting in line. But, that's just our preference.

npenkava · April 2011

Hey, no need to snub wiki. I guess some people dont look at it as being a valid source but even theknot.com has articles that say the very same. I just want people to know the backround so it gives a different point of view. I dont normally comment on forums but I knew a little something on this subject. Good luck to all. Here's some other articles if you want to know the history.

http://www.ourweddingday.com/advice/Traditions/the-dollar-dance/834.aspx

http://www.weddingandpartynetwork.com/blog/wedding-traditions/dollar-dance-wedding-tradition/

eev028 · April 2011

Thank you for all your comments. Very few were constructive however and most sound like comments from stuck up, snobby little twits that think their oppinion is the only "right" oppinion. When I go on these forums to ask for advise or to seek the outward help of a whole group of people, I dont expect to be told how incredibly tacky I am to think of doing this dance, or how I need to "lurk" around to see that "the knot" doesnt accept this tradition, as if your the spoks woman for "the knot". Ladies get off your high horse and understand the world doesnt bow at your feet. As for the open-minded ladies, thank you for honest thoughts and constructive comments. My FI is polish but traditionally I wasnt thinking of that. It was just meant to have fun.

eev028 · April 2011

You dont make sense. But good try in the insult catagory! Good luck to ya!

trix1223 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_dollar-dance-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:57f57a8f-c80d-4ead-a5f1-1e5a0b985f15Post:d76fd4b4-0451-4d4a-9836-6a49d7a58476">Re: Dollar Dance</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you for all your comments. Very few were constructive however and most sound like comments from stuck up, snobby little twits that think their oppinion is the only "right" oppinion. When I go on these forums to ask for advise or to seek the outward help of a whole group of people, I dont expect to be told how incredibly tacky I am to think of doing this dance, or how I need to "lurk" around to see that "the knot" doesnt accept this tradition, as if your the spoks woman for "the knot". Ladies get off your high horse and understand the world doesnt bow at your feet. As for the open-minded ladies, thank you for honest thoughts and constructive comments. My FI is polish but traditionally I wasnt thinking of that. It was just meant to have fun.
Posted by eev028[/QUOTE]

I happen to think that most of the comments were constructive. I don't think that I'm a snobby little twit, and I don't think that a single person feels that the world bows at their feet.

It appears that in your lexicon: "Open-minded" means "those who validate my opinion". Sorry, but that's not what open-minded means.

If you were truly "open-minded", you'd realize that just because someone doesn't agree with an idea that many (clearly) think is in poor taste, they are not snobby little twits.

Funny how you call those who don't validate your idea a "snobby little twit". Pot: meet kettle.

banana468 · April 2011

EEv, what's up with you using that insult on these boards? It wasn't cool on invites and it's not cool here.

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