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My Fiancee Hates Cake!

emmayeuxemmayeux member
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My Fiancee absolutely hates cake. He doesn't even eat cake for his own birthday parties. The only cake I've ever seen him eat is a cookie cake, and to me that isn't even a cake. What should we do for the Groom's cake? My mom suggested cupcakes, but I know he doesn't eat those either. Does anyone have ANY suggestions on what we should do?
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  • samanthajeremysamanthajeremy
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    edited December 2011
    You could try a cheesecake of some kind. 

    If your FI doesn't care much for cake, he will probably only eat the small piece you share when cutting the cake anyways.  If I were you, I'd just order a cake that fits his personality, any flavor and filling.  It will obviuosly serve more of your guests than your FI.  At least by getting a cake that fits his personality, it shows it was not just any cake bought off the shelf. 
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  • sarahk915sarahk915
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    edited December 2011
    My FI hates cake, too...I'm not a big cake fan either, but we're having a "normal" wedding cake.  I've never been to a wedding with a groom's cake, but I'm having one...It's going to be a rice krispy treat cake with buttercream frosting (Redskins theme).  FI loves rice krispy treats and the Redskins.  If your FI likes cookie cake, why not do that..?
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    edited December 2011
    Mine does too. Hates cheesecake as well. He loves blackberry cobbler, so we're having Groom's Cobbler instead (with ice cream).  I'd have loved to get him a special personalized groom's cake (he's a huge Pittsburgh Steelers and Snoopy fan), but I just don't think it's fair to him to get him something he doesn't like.  So, cobbler it is. 
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  • meep2meep2 member
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    edited December 2011
    I've never been to a wedding with a groom's cake so I don't see why it's necessary for someone who doesn't like them, but I see you're from New Orleans and I know they're a bigger tradition in the south. I agree that a cobbler would be good, or a pie, cheesecake, or basically any other dessert your fiance likes! Ooh, or a bread pudding! It would be a fun twist on the breaking bread origins of the wedding cake.
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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    edited December 2011
    Cheesecake, Pie, Brownies-just to name a few.

    Also like PPs have said, a groom's cake isn't absolutely necessary-could easily do without.
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  • peanutty2peanutty2 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think the grooms cake is a regional thing, not sure, but I know they're pretty much unheard of around me.  We are having a traditional wedding cake and then some pies, canolis, cookies on the side.  If he doesn't like any cake type items, how about a pie?  or just a variety of cookies? brownies?  fruits?  you could do a fruit basket type thing (where they hollow out a watermelon and put cut up fruits in side it)
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  • Magdala9Magdala9 member
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    edited December 2011
    My DH wanted an ice cream cake.  The reason it is a groom's cake is because the groom gets to pick.   At one wedding that I attended, the groom's 'cake' was a circle of ribs because that is what the groom picked.

    Have fun with it!
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  • LauraT25LauraT25
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    edited December 2011
    I think you can do a cookie cake for the groom's cake, there's nothing wrong with that.  If you prefer not to do a groom's cake, I would probably have some other type of dessert that he likes (cookies, pastries, etc) available, unless he doesn't care about missing dessert, in which case the wedding cake is fine and he just doesn't have to eat it.
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  • emmayeuxemmayeux member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm going to take some of y'alls advice and ask him what he would like to have. He is a die hard Pittsburgh Fan- Penguins AND Steelers. We'll try to incorrporate that into it too. Would cupcakes in the shape of a cake, or in tiers or something be a bad or tacky idea? I didn't realize that grooms cakes were only a southern tradition. 
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  • TEA&CoTEA&Co member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd do cookie cake!
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  • sarahk915sarahk915
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_fiancee-hates-cake?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:1c6dfc10-58b2-44d4-bc1b-4f4e4336c9ccPost:4438e0d4-dd67-4d33-af87-311c2609829d">My Fiancee Hates Cake!</a>:
    [QUOTE]My<strong> Fiancee absolutely hates cake</strong>. He doesn't even eat cake for his own birthday parties. The only cake I've ever seen him eat is a cookie cake, and to me that isn't even a cake. What should we do for the Groom's cake? <strong>My mom suggested cupcakes, but I know he doesn't eat those either</strong>. Does anyone have ANY suggestions on what we should do?
    Posted by emmayeux[/QUOTE]

    <div>If your FI hates cake/cupcakes, I wouldn't have them for his groom's cake.  If you do a groom's cake, just make it something he likes...such as a cookie cake.  You can have it decorated in some sort of Pittsburgh theme.  IMO, it would defeat the purpose if you did cupcakes.</div>
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    What about making like an Oreo cake?
    YOu know, the oreo's on the bottom for the crust, and then the middle is a vanilla pudding/cheesecake kind of thing.
    I've seen it on the back of the boxes.

    You could make it a compromise between you two and have a vanilla cake with finely ground oreos in it, and a thick THICK icing in the middle (and you could decorate it however you want he probably won't care because the insides will taste like oreo!).

    Of course, if he isn't an oreo fan either...
    Did you ever ask why he doesn't like cake? I asked my brother once and found out he didn't like the bostom creme filling those cheap supermarket cakes have. That's so not a reason to hate all cakes...
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  • bltatabltata member
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    edited December 2011
    If he doesn't like cake, I would avoid cupcakes.


    I vote for trying cheesecake.  OR you could go with brownies.  I've actually seen a cake before that looked like a normal cake and was frosted and everything, but was actually layers of brownies.
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_fiancee-hates-cake?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:1c6dfc10-58b2-44d4-bc1b-4f4e4336c9ccPost:b233273c-50f9-4df8-a12b-5e7064ac86aa">Re: My Fiancee Hates Cake!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Cheesecake, Pie, Brownies-just to name a few. Also like PPs have said, a groom's cake isn't absolutely necessary-could easily do without.
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  • julbgordojulbgordo member
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    edited December 2011
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    edited December 2011
    I've been to a lot of weddings in Virginia/North Carolina and have never seen a groom's cake, although friends have been to weddings with grooms cakes before.  I've also seen them in a local wedding magazine.  FI hates the idea of them- his feeling is "we're celebrating our marriage, the wedding cake is OUR cake, why do I need my own?"  lol.  We don't really understand the reasoning behind it I guess.  Looked it up and I guess it's supposed to be a gift to the groom from the bride.  Interesting.

    Wikipedia says it's a tradition of the American South.  I had never even heard of it until I moved to VA (from NY).

    Don't do cakes or cupcakes if he doesn't like cake.  A cookie cake would be fun, and I love the frosted rice crispies idea too.  Cheesecake could work as well.  If we were doing one, I'm sure it'd be cheesecake! :)
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  • kristinrotondokristinrotondo member
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    edited December 2011
    Why not a cookie cake? Or some other dessert or food he loves?
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  • slbinpinkslbinpink
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    edited December 2011
    I'd do a cookie cake, or brownie. You can have a large "sheet cookie" or make a larger "cake sculpture" make of lots of small cookies, brownies, or even candy.

    You can make a cake out of anything really, we are going to have something like this at our wedding:




    Just please don't do cake or cupcakes, if you already know he won't enjoy it... A groom cake is about the groom.
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  • Muffin'sMomMuffin'sMom
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    edited December 2011
    Google brownie wedding cakes or cookie wedding cakes.  You'll be amazed at what you see.  If I had known about the brownie thing...I'd have been talking my daughter into it!!!
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  • cupcakesfrostingcupcakesfrosting
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    edited December 2011
    Is the groom's cake a surprise? If it's not, have you asked HIM what he'd like?
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  • tesskerrtesskerr member
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    edited December 2011
    lolly cake
    rocky road cake
    chocolate and vanilla rice crispy cake
    macaron cake

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  • JoLeigh87JoLeigh87
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    edited December 2011
    My brother is having peanut butter-swirled fudge for his groom's "cake".  I've also heard of doing a donut pyramid or having rice krispie treats!! There are a lot of different things you can do instead of cake!
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  • needle&threadneedle&thread member
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    edited December 2011
    My FI hates cake too!! I'm just gonna try different ethnic deserts on a dessert table.  My wedding cake will only be 3 tiers, instead of 5. I'm having a candy table and a chocolate fountain. 

    If he can't satisfy his sweet tooth there, theres always the honeymoon! LOLInnocent

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  • sstrom22sstrom22
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    edited December 2011
    A cookie bar!!  That's what we're doing!  We're not fans of cake either, so we're doing a cookie bar with different big jars of a variety of cookies, all made by the matriarchs of the family.  I'm asking each mom/grandma to make three dozen cookies that are about bite size and I'll make a bunch too.

    I've heard this is a German tradition....
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  • rkatz8rkatz8 member
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    edited December 2011
    definitely give him the cookie cake if that's what he likes! the groom's cake is one of the few things in the wedding that is really just for him, so i would definitely not do a cake or cupcakes. at my brother's wedding, his "groom's cake" was actually a pizza cut in a heart shape because he loves pizza and doesn't really like cake that much. it was a big hit! all the guests were cracking up. groom's cake is one opportunity to do something a little funny and quirky.
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  • faith415faith415 member
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    edited December 2011
    We're doing a small 2 tiered cake for cutting and then an ice cream cake. It's your wedding so do what you want and you both like.
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  • nicolenmike2012nicolenmike2012 member
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    edited December 2011
    I was at a wedding this weekend at the paramount country club and they did a large creme brulee that my friends torched together instead of slicing the cake. It was so cute! The chef put their initials in the center and they fed eachother a scoop afterward.
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  • LleeIsOnlineLleeIsOnline member
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    edited December 2011
    I've seen a rice krispie groom's cake before. That's what my guy wants!
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  • kalizoombakalizoomba
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    edited December 2011
    no one says you must have cake at a wedding. You could have cookies, pie, cobbler, cheesecake, brownies, donuts, ice cream, or any other sort of dessert.
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  • suedoylesuedoyle member
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    edited December 2011

    I'm doing a cookie-cake for our rehersal.  We have a running joke that slice-n-bakes aren't really homemade, so my daughter is baking a 'real from scratch' cookie for him.  We're decorating it with a set of cake topper items - a tent, canoe and campfire - that represent our first date and then where he first told me he loved me.  Hugely personal -- and it represents US. 

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