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It's Facebook Official.

As you all know, it's been a long, weird process for Rich and me in regards to letting people know about our relationship. We basically spent our entire relationship avoiding his coworkers, and avoiding my former fellow-students because our relationship started when I was his TA.

Long story short, a former fellow student of mine put the pieces together a while back. She lives in Germany, so we didn't think it would be an issue---but, she recently came back to the states to visit--and mentioned it to the professor she used to TA for, assuming everyone must know by now. Except they didn't. So, over the last few weeks, Rich has been meeting with his colleagues one-on-one to fill them in on our relationship and marriage--and, the feedback has been wonderful; everyone is truly happy for us.

The most reassuring part, however, has been that every person has been more than understanding as to why we kept our relationship under wraps.

And tonight, we made it Facebook official---which makes me feel like a high schooler!
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  • Congrats! It's about time :) You better thank the blabbermouth friend!
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  • Squee!! That's what you say to high school things, right? For real though, I'm so happy for you guys!
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  • Hooray! 

    Also, I have a question.  How is Rich a nickname for Dion?  Is it his middle name?  I was very confused when I saw your M&Ms in your (gorgeous) murried bio.
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    [QUOTE]Congrats! It's about time :) You better thank the blabbermouth friend!
    Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]

    I tried to catch her before she went back to Germany!! (I think she feels bad for spilling the beans, but I swear...I feel like I owe her my first born.)
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  • Oh yay, girl, I'm so happy for you!  :)
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    [QUOTE]Hooray!  Also, I have a question.  How is Rich a nickname for Dion?  Is it his middle name?  I was very confused when I saw your M&Ms in your (gorgeous) murried bio.
    Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

    His middle name is Dionysus---so, for short he goes by Dion. First name is Richard---but, I don't think anyone has ever called him by it (but it did sound better with Rach....much better than RachNDion.)
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: It's Facebook Official. : His middle name is Dionysus---so, for short he goes by Dion. First name is Richard---but, I don't think anyone has ever called him by it (but it did sound better with Rach....much better than RachNDion.)
    Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

    That is an AWESOME middle name. 

    But Rach & Rich does flow better, I agree!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: It's Facebook Official. :<strong> That is an AWESOME middle name.  </strong>But Rach & Rich does flow better, I agree!
    Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

    I think so too!! I tell him he should go by his full middle name....and carry around bottles of wine to hand out to people when he introduces himself.
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  • Yay! Congrats! I didn't know the back story on this until now, but that must have been so hard to keep a secret. 
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  • Finally! That's bad ass, Rach :P Congrats to you guys!
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  • Congrats!

    PS. My DH was my TA when we met as well.
  • So happy for you Rach. I'm glad it all worked out. It must feel like a weight lifted.
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  • Woo hoo!  That makes me feel like dancing for you!
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    [QUOTE]Woo hoo!  That makes me feel like dancing for you!
    Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

    I think you should. I also think you should video tape it, and send it to me. Then I'd be super happy! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-kiss.gif" border="0" alt="Kiss" title="Kiss" />

    Navy---I had no idea your H was your TA....you guys seem so close in age?
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  • Rach -- He's 3 years older than me.  He taught the baby bio class I took when I was a sophomore.
  • Aww, yay Rach! That's a huge weight off your shoulders! :)
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    Hooray!!!
  • That's pretty frickin awesome :)
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  • huh. so i guess its just me that thinks its really odd that you a. have not only been lying about being together, but also lied about getting married to the majority of people he interacts with on a daily basis, on top of avoiding people you went to school with, (yeah yeah, i get it, you were his TA, and thats illegal in 45 states or something.) and b. Only admitted it publicly because someone else spilled the beans and forced your hand.

    No? Still just me? Ok then. Carry on with being happy you can admit via FB you are married, finally.
  • Oh facebook statuses, what have they become :P One of these days I want to change mine to single just to watch the chaos, but nah...

    I feel you on the Ta secrecy thing. When I was in college I dated one of my once ta's then boss then collegue for 8 months until he moved out of state. 4 years later people are just still just figuring out that we dated, it was just easier that way.
  • Yayyyy!!!!1

    I remember the day my husband was forced to admit to his coworkers that he married me.

    Best.Day.Ever!
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    It's like Haley's Comet, only better. Look!  In the sky!  It's a bird!  It's a plane!  It's, it's AlmondWhittle!  And you're a bronze poster now?  What is up with that?

    Anyway, no, I don't think it's just you.  I don't know the backstory on this at all, but I think it is odd too.  I don't get how the cat wasn't let out of the bag after the TA position ended.  For all people know, the relationship didn't start until after that anyway.  I'd be hurt and angry if I had to hide my relationship.

    ETA:  Colleen too?! It is a banner day indeed.
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  • I'm happy for you Rach :) Congrats!
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  • No, it's not just you.
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  • Dammit.  Of course this pops up while I'm asleep, BUT...  This is the biggest load of shiit I've ever heard, and how no one else here can think, "Hey man, that's insanely controlling and fucking weird!" is ridiculous.
  • I kind of remember the backstory, but I was under the impression that after you got married, it was okay to tell everyone you were married.  I don't get why it had to remain a secret after that point.  If this girl hadn't come around and said something, how much longer would you have waited - indefinitely?
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  • Why yes, yes it was a giant load of shiit that we lied. And had the beans not got spilled, chances are we wouldn't have told his co-workers; we;re moving in two months and it would not have mattered at the end of the day to us.
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