I have a 'friend' who asked me to be her bridesmaid - which I was. The thing is, I knew going into it that she had no one else so she asked an old friend to be her MOH (who was in the same situation as me - knew she had no one else) and myself to be in her wedding party. So this girl, she's fairly nice, but she really did not care at all that it was specifically us two in her wedding party - as long as she had someone.
During the entire process she was pretty rude to both the MOH and myself, she wouldn't let us bring out significant others to her wedding, claiming mine was JUST my boyfriend (thank you I've been with him twice as long as she has been with her new husband, plus we are also common-law). And at one point I told her when I get married, because I'm Jewish, I wasn't sure if I would have bridesmaids - because traditionally they dont, she said to me "well you have to have them because I have to be one of them."
Anyway - long story to say... I am engaged now with my 'boyfriend' and we have now decided we do want bridesmaids and groomsmen - but only because we want our close friends to be included in 'our' day. The problem is, I don't want to ask her - I know why she asked us, and I don't have that problem. I have people I care about and that care about me that can be in our wedding party.
So I'm wondering people's opinions... do I ask her because she asked me?