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Wedding Etiquette Forum
jessicamk302
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Can I invite guests to reception only?
Hey guys,
Really need some help with this. We are getting married at our college chapel and it only holds 165 people to the max. (it holds 150 but then can get an extra 15 in there i was told). Our guest list is at 235 and I'm assuming 20% won't show, which still puts me at the 188 mark. Which leaves us no choice but to invite some guests to the reception only.
Is this rude? Some people told me no, I personally have never been invited to a reception only wedding. We were going to word the invites something like (this is not exact verbiage): please celebrate with us at our reception after an iminiate ceremony.... is this okay or would people be offended?
We are not willing to change our ceremony site. Thanks for the help!!!!
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Re: Can I invite guests to reception only?
Your choice is not to invite the reception only, but to cut your gust list to fit within the size of venue you chose. If you aren't willing to change venue, that is. Reception only is rude as it implies they are good enough to attend the gift giving portion of the event, but not the whole reason behind the celebration.
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[QUOTE]Hey guys, Really need some help with this. We are getting married at our college chapel and it only holds 165 people to the max. (it holds 150 but then can get an extra 15 in there i was told). Our guest list is at 235 and I'm assuming 20% won't show, which still puts me at the 188 mark. Which leaves us no choice but to invite some guests to the reception only. Is this rude? Some people told me no, I personally have never been invited to a reception only wedding. We were going to word the invites something like (this is not exact verbiage): please celebrate with us at our reception after an iminiate ceremony.... is this okay or would people be offended? We are not willing to change our ceremony site. Thanks for the help!!!!
Posted by jessicamk302[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>If you are not willing to change the ceremony venue, you need to cut your guest list. You cannot invite people to the reception and not the wedding. It's rude.
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[QUOTE]I'm in the minority of people who would love to only get invited to the reception/party, but I agree with the PPs that you really can't call 165 people intimate. If you wont change the venue, then make the ceremony actually intimate with 10-20 of your closest friends/family. Then invite everyone to the reception.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]
Look amy, this is an ETIQUETTE board. Lurk for awhile. Learn what actually is correct (and incorrect, such as here), and then post.
[QUOTE]I said the same thing as DNBeach....I don't see you calling her out.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]
<div>On this post you were right. Every other post you have made on this board has been urging brides to say screw etiquette and do what they want. If that's your stance, so be it. But then please don't post on this board. </div><div>
</div><div>Also, I never said I would be happy to be only invited to the reception. </div>
[QUOTE]Amy, I seriously don't understand why you would "love" to be singled out as the lowest rung of guest.
Posted by SirJuliusVonHaast[/QUOTE]
Since my answer would not be etiquette friendly, I'm not allowed to answer your question. You can PM me if you'd like.
[QUOTE]Amy, just answer here. The only reason I can think of for wanting to only be invited to the reception is because you only care about the party and not about the reason for the party. Sorry, but it's the only thing I can come up with.
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry Drama, this is not a place for real life opinions. I'm only allowed to answer if I lurk long enough to regurgitate the proper etiquette rules from the Knutties.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : I'm sorry Drama, this is not a place for real life opinions. I'm only allowed to answer if I lurk long enough to regurgitate the proper etiquette rules from the Knutties.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]
Oh FFS.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : I'm sorry Drama, this is not a place for real life opinions. I'm only allowed to answer if I lurk long enough to regurgitate the proper etiquette rules from the <strong>Knutties.</strong>
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]
soo true! LOL!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : I'm sorry Drama, this is not a place for real life opinions. I'm only allowed to answer if I lurk long enough to regurgitate the proper etiquette rules from the Knutties.
Posted by amys325[/QUOTE]
<div>Ghoti said it best. Wow.</div><div>
</div><div>PS - there is a difference between an opinion and accepted proper etiquette.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I invite guests to reception only? : Ghoti said it best. Wow. PS - there is a difference between an opinion and accepted proper etiquette.
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]
Yes, that's what I said. Me = Winning!!! Duh!