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Wedding is going to make us broke as a joke

gdfishergdfisher
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My fiance and I are getting a bit stressed. We are doing well and love each other so much. We want to give each other an amazing wedding, but not one that is over the top. And we do well when it comes to our incomes. But with us paying for our own wedding, and no word if family will help us out at all.....weddings are stupid expensive. I am sad at the idea that we may have to cut back on our already slim budget and that we won't be able to have the simple garden party wedding we want. I am very sad thinking about this. Any tips on how to deal with the stress or find ways to save more money? Our wedding is not until next March 19.
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  • MrsMyrtleMrsMyrtle member
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    Postpone the wedding and save up until you can have the wedding you want AND can afford.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    deal with the stress -- don't cut out absolutely everything.  save a lot for the wedding, save a little bit to play with -- a movie, something off itunes, whatever.

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  • jojobrnjojobrn member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wedding-going-broke-joke?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:2d1f4c81-509b-4910-bf1d-4cf916e43ee3Post:3e592920-6693-4780-88ca-a8dd07dc1eff">Wedding is going to make us broke as a joke</a>:
    [QUOTE]My fiance and I are getting a bit stressed. We are doing well and love each other so much. We want to give each other an amazing wedding, but not one that is over the top. And we do well when it comes to our incomes. But with us paying for our own wedding, and no word if family will help us out at all.....weddings are stupid expensive. I am sad at the idea that we may have to cut back on our already slim budget and that we won't be able to have the simple garden party wedding we want. I am very sad thinking about this. Any tips on how to deal with the stress or find ways to save more money? Our wedding is not until next March 19.
    Posted by gdfisher[/QUOTE]

    <div>Cut your guest list, use less expensive flower types, change the time of day and have a luncheon or brunch instead of a sit down dinner, DIY when you can.</div><div>
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    Duh.  Everyone has a budget of at LEAST $10k.  YWIA.
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  • kpwedkkkpwedkk member
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    I agree with the previous posters, if you can postpone your wedding so that you and your fiance can have the wedding you've always wanted, but at the price that you can afford.  Also for tips to save money now...

    I don't know what your living situation is, but if it's practical, then these are just suggestions:

    - carpool, save on gas
    - eat out once a week together, this helps alleviate stress :)  Get frozen foods on sale, or cook and freeze for lunches and dinners....
    - try to cut out unnecessary spending, give a weekly allowance, if it's needed - that doesn't cover food...
    - have a budget, and look at your current bills.  If going green helps with electricity and water bills, look into that.  what about your cellphone bills, maybe your provider has the same plan at a lesser value, so it could save you $5 a month, to spend on media - mp3s etc...

    This site is an ehow to try to save you money :)http://www.wikihow.com/Save-Money

    Hope that helps!

    "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wedding-going-broke-joke?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:2d1f4c81-509b-4910-bf1d-4cf916e43ee3Post:29025dfa-b852-4a3c-9af9-2ec31805db7b">Re: Wedding is going to make us broke as a joke</a>:
    [QUOTE]I agree with the previous posters, if you can postpone your wedding so that you and your fiance can have the wedding you've always wanted, but at the price that you can afford.  Also for tips to save money now... I don't know what your living situation is, but if it's practical, then these are just suggestions: - carpool, save on gas - <strong>eat out once a week together</strong>, this helps alleviate stress :)  Get frozen foods on sale, or cook and freeze for lunches and dinners.... - try to <strong>cut out unnecessary spending</strong>, give a weekly allowance, if it's needed - that doesn't cover food... - have a budget, and look at your current bills.  If going green helps with electricity and water bills, look into that.  what about your cellphone bills, maybe your provider has the same plan at a lesser value, so it could save you $5 a month, to spend on media - mp3s etc... This site is an ehow to try to save you money :) <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Save-Money" rel="nofollow">http://www.wikihow.com/Save-Money</a> Hope that helps!
    Posted by kpwedkk[/QUOTE]

    ::headdesk::

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  • jojobrnjojobrn member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wedding-going-broke-joke?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:2d1f4c81-509b-4910-bf1d-4cf916e43ee3Post:1801c4e4-65d4-42aa-9c63-9c81df180151">Re: Wedding is going to make us broke as a joke</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding is going to make us broke as a joke : ::headdesk::
    Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]

    <div>I am just ignoring it all now. She gives me a headache.</div>
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  • seesawgirlseesawgirl member
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    You can do it! My fiance and I only have a budget of 1500-2000 and that is with 100 guests. We are having our ceremony and reception at his mother's work for free. Its a shipping company's home offices that have a BEAUTIFUL courtyard with tons of flowers and a fountain in the middle, with a huge empty room to the side where our reception will be. So that took care of the location AND decorations. We seriously have not had to hire a single person for anything other than the cake. These are the best bits of advice I can offer-
    1)If people offer to help, ACCEPT IT!! Don't think you'd be imposing on them if they offered. If you've seen their work and like it then fabulous. Even if they wind up being just an extra set of hands when you're making centerpieces, etc, thats an extra set of hands.
    2) Scour craigslist-lots of people have gotten married and have EXACTLY what you are looking for, for CHEAP. Your candle sticks, votive holders, etc etc etc don't need to be brand new. Run them thru the dishwasher (or hand wash if it's crystal) and there you go. Also posting in the "wanted" section can yield amazing results.
    3) Decide what is important to you. For instance, most people think that they have to chose between real or silk flowers, I'm doing a mix of the two. My bouquet will be real, because I will be turning it into potpourri. Bridesmaids bouquets will be silks that we got at a factory close out store. Also if you are set on having red roses (I am), do you really need to have huge bundles of them at every table? We are doing clear vases with 1 or 2 blooms (bought in bulk from Sam's Club) and some greenery in each vase. With the black table clothes and damask runners and some tea candles....it looks quite stunning.
    4) When deciding on your location, if there is a cheap place with NO decor and a slightly more expensive place with lots of landscaping and views...go with the slightly more expensive one. You can completely forgo having to decorate your site, other than your tables, and NO one will know the difference!!! Let the natural beauty be the decor, and save yourself TONS of money, and a huge headache if you were planning on DIY-ing all of your decor.
    5) Does your area have a cooking school nearby? Sometimes (like with a beauty school) they will do the work at a fraction of the cost, just for the experience.  Do it buffet style, stick with simple entrees and have some of your friends and family bring some side dishes in nice containers and you have an intimate dinner, with a personal flair.



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