Birth rape?

Snippylynn · May 2012

Oh Mica. That's freaking epic.

The only time I've ever been alone in a room with a doctor has been here in Sweden, where it's impossible to get sued for any reason.

LaurenHH · May 2012

Yeah, that's what I figured. You know, to keep all those rogue doctors from raping their unsuspecting patients.

FutureMrsMDJahnke · May 2012

When the time comes assuming I can get pregnant! I'll have to have a Csection because I had major surgery on my uterus when I was 18. My specialist says it would be very dangerous for me to labor. I'm so happy that it is an option! It's unfortunate when things don't go according to plan...but such is life!!

FutureMrsMDJahnke · May 2012

Bah, I don't know why, when I post on my phone, it removes things like parenthesis! Sorry if that didn't flow well! Also, my mom had an emergency csection with my older brother and her incision ruptured before she even went into labor with me. So having a vaginal birth after a csection can definitely be dangerous.

zigspective · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_birth-rape?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:75fcb7e0-2606-47c8-8ecc-bf1c4bdcd169Post:3f8a5998-0045-4186-b014-46ad5372e2e5">Re: Birth rape?</a>:
[QUOTE] It gives doctors a bad name, and puts unneccessary fear into people's heads. The last thing you (general you) want someone to be feeling when they go into labour is that they have to watch their practitioner like a hawk, lest they be somehow inappropriately man-handled. There comes a time where you need to trust your medical team, and trust that they are making the right choices for you. It's also on you, as a patient, to be educated and to ensure that you have someone with you in situations where you can't be an advocate for yourself. There's a real sense of people being victims of healthcare, when in reality, your doctor works for you.
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</div><div>Twenty years of my father working the ICU rotation and I would say a doctor needs to prove themselves to me first. I have heard of way too many "oops" moments.</div><div>
</div><div>Unfortunately with the way most OB practices are set up, you may not have even met the doctor who goes on to deliver your baby. I think that were problems start. You're at one of the most vulnerable times of your life and you may be asked to put two lives in the hands of someone you may have never seen before. Honestly it's a recipe for miscommunication and confusion.

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TheBaney · May 2012

A lot of the cases that I've read where women have described their experience as "birth rape," have actually had the female nurses who were the perpretrators. I've read anecdotes (taken with a grain of salt) of mothers whose nurses shoved a hand inside in order to scrape blood clots from the uterus, not only failing to get permission, but also failing to stop when the mother began screaming in pain, and climbing up the bed to get away. There were the mothers who were derided and told that they were babies and needed to just suck it up. I don't think that just because you are having a baby that means that you should be expected to allow medical professionals to completely override your autonomy of your body. Obviously, I am not a doctor, and need someone else's expertise. But I think we all know that sometimes doctors and nurses will choose expedience of patient care, and when that comes in the form of unexplained penetration against your will, then that's not okay. When you have mothers unable to enjoy their new babies because of PTSD caused by the trauma of their birth experience, I think that's not okay. While I wouldn't consider it rape myself, I also wouldn't tell a woman who had this kind of horrific, demeaning, traumatic experience that she can't call it how she sees it.

TheBaney · May 2012

Also, while I think being gassed against your will for a C-section (if the article is factual), I *definitely* don't think that's in the same category.

ETA: gassed against your will for a C-section *is terrible*

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