Pregnant?

Elle1036 · November 2010

If you have a typical 28 day cycle, you ovulate 2 weeks after the first day of your period. It's really hard to get pregnant, even with ejaculation, from sex that occurs more than a day or two before you ovulate. The immune system recognizes sperm as a foreign substance and it's hard for them to live inside the female body for very long.

meamolly · November 2010

plan b is just a super sized BC pill. If you are willing to do condoms and BC pills it is allong the same line.....

Elle1036 · November 2010

Oh and YG(a very short)PM

ToTheMoonAlice · November 2010

It's too late for Plan B anyways, since it's been a week. But Elle explained my reasoning for why I wouldn't use it.

Thanks for all the advice ladies! It just feels really good to be able to express that worry and get some advice from people other than BF.

Elle- YGPM again.

hetshup · November 2010

This is going to be super random, but what is unsafe? The reason I ask is, sometimes for the first time, people feel if they are using ONLY BCP or condoms they feel they aren't safe. If you were using either one, you are probably fine.

Now it sounds like you were playing just the tip, you are likely fine, but you need to relax. Likely, you are not, but there is always the chance. I highly recommend that you sit down with BF and have a conversation about how you would like to proceed with BC from here on out, it's important and responsible to do so. Either way, best of luck, but don't stress yourself out.

PandaBurr · November 2010

I was going to say everything that Elle said. My first thought question was, was there any ejaculation?

I think that the myth that you can get preggers from pre-cum is still pretty prevalent, but recent research has showed that unless the dude very recently had sperm in his tube to begin with, it's not possible. So if it was just pre-cum, and no actual ejaculation, I wouldn't stress too much about it. Well, actually, either way, like the PPs said, you shouldn't stress out about it otherwise you're gonna freak yourself out by causing a missed period.

ToTheMoonAlice · November 2010

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[QUOTE]This is going to be super random, but what is unsafe? The reason I ask is, sometimes for the first time, people feel if they are using ONLY BCP or condoms they feel they aren't safe. If you were using either one, you are probably fine. Now it sounds like you were playing just the tip, you are likely fine, but you need to relax. Likely, you are not, but there is always the chance. I highly recommend that you sit down with BF and have a conversation about how you would like to proceed with BC from here on out, it's important and responsible to do so. Either way, best of luck, but don't stress yourself out.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

Unsafe means nothing. No BC, no condoms. Stupid, I know.

"Just the tip"? If by that you mean, not far in at all, then that's right. We're going to talk about BC for the future this weekend when we see each other, but we've already had the "what if pregnancy" talk.

And again, no ejaculation. None. Just pre-cum, which I know is possible, but unlikely.

I can already feel the stress level declining just from posting, so again, thanks.

hetshup · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant? : Unsafe means nothing. No BC, no condoms. Stupid, I know. "Just the tip"? If by that you mean, not far in at all, then that's right. We're going to talk about BC for the future this weekend when we see each other, but we've already had the "what if pregnancy" talk. And again, no ejaculation. None. Just pre-cum, which I know is possible, but unlikely. I can already feel the stress level declining just from posting, so again, thanks.
Posted by ToTheMoonAlice[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>yeah, just the tip. The tip of penis? It's a not fun game, I recommend full penetration WHILE SAFE!! But yeah, relax, have a drink. And be careful</div>

PandaBurr · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant? : Unsafe means nothing. No BC, no condoms. Stupid, I know. "Just the tip"? If by that you mean, not far in at all, then that's right. We're going to talk about BC for the future this weekend when we see each other, but we've already had the "what if pregnancy" talk. <strong>And again, no ejaculation. None. Just pre-cum</strong>, which I know is possible, but unlikely. I can already feel the stress level declining just from posting, so again, thanks.
Posted by ToTheMoonAlice[/QUOTE]

Oh man, you're totally gravy. Don't even stress about it.

PaigeMcC · November 2010

I wouldnt' be too concerned. Don't go on a drinking binge (JIC) but I wouldn't start painting the baby's room just yet. I would say you're probably fine.

palmettogirl924 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]I'd say find out ASAP to be sure and then get started on multivitamins, going to doctors, saving up, that kind of thing.
Posted by mzm153[/QUOTE]
This you do NOT need to do.

Honey, you're perfectly fine!! Don't worry to much! Look into BC though for the future (I stress again) so you're prepared!!

loves2shop4shoes · November 2010

Honestly, while it's not impossible for you to be pregnant, it's extremely unlikely if there was no ejaculation.

Relax, have a glass of wine. All will be well....and next time, cover the stump before you hump.

palmettogirl924 · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pregnant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3856ee5e-b136-4d87-959c-b3cc55c5905fPost:69e65de4-b89e-4950-96cd-1cfdde32bf75">Re: Pregnant?</a>:
[QUOTE]Honestly, while it's not impossible for you to be pregnant, it's extremely unlikely if there was no ejaculation. Relax, have a glass of wine. All will be well....and next time, cover the stump before you hump.
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]
I like that!! Haha, haven't heard that one!

sapphirebaby926 · November 2010

I think you're going to be fine - it's very unlikely you'll get pregnant with no ejaculate and if I'm counting right you're not really in your most fertile phase either. Sperm can live inside you for maybe 2 -3 days but only if you have fertile quality fluid present. If there isn't they'll die in a few hours because they don't have anything to live on.

Don't stress yourself out about this. Stress can cause you to ovulate later than usual and will cause a later period than what you would expect.

As PP's have said before you have sex again have a birth control plan in place so you don't have to worry about this again. Also it might be beneficial to read Taking Charge of Your Fertility - it's an enlightening book about how your body works.

MLekathLEEN · November 2010

It sounds like you have nothing to worry about but take a test in a few weeks to make sure.

Next time- Be more careful and be sure to put a helmet on that soldier. Better to be safe than sorry. Every time you take a chance like that, you'll probably worry about getting pregnant before every period. Before I was on BCP, when FI and I would fool around (ie- not going all the way in) I would be nervous about being pregnant every month before I had my period. GL hun!

rllevy · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pregnant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3856ee5e-b136-4d87-959c-b3cc55c5905fPost:24d70716-924d-448d-98b6-6a72aa121ec3">Re: Pregnant?</a>:
[QUOTE]This is going to be super random, but what is unsafe? The reason I ask is, sometimes for the first time, people feel if they are using ONLY BCP or condoms they feel they aren't safe. If you were using either one, you are probably fine. Now it sounds like you were playing just the tip, you are likely fine, but you need to relax. Likely, you are not, but there is always the chance. I highly recommend that you sit down with BF and have a conversation about how you would like to proceed with BC from here on out, it's important and responsible to do so. Either way, best of luck, but don't stress yourself out.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

Not to get snarky about it or lecture you personally, but more for the eduction of the OP... using either BCP or condoms (or even both) is not 100% foolproof. With "typical" use, condoms and BCPs have an 85% and 90% efficacy rate respecitively. Even if you are practicing safer sex with 2 forms of protection and perfect use, there is still a very very small chance you will get pregnant.

This is not to scare you, but to underscore how serious it is to talk about protection with your boyfriend and to respect yourself and insist on the method(s) that will allow you and your partner to feel secure.

More info on birth control methods and options:
<a href="http://brighamandwomens.staywellsolutionsonline.com/RelatedItems/1" rel="nofollow">http://brighamandwomens.staywellsolutionsonline.com/RelatedItems/1</a>,2975

ToTheMoonAlice · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant? : Not to get snarky about it or lecture you personally, but more for the eduction of the OP... using either BCP or condoms (or even both) is not 100% foolproof. With "typical" use, condoms and BCPs have an 85% and 90% efficacy rate respecitively. Even if you are practicing safer sex with 2 forms of protection and perfect use, there is still a very very small chance you will get pregnant. This is not to scare you, but to underscore how serious it is to talk about protection with your boyfriend and to respect yourself and insist on the method(s) that will allow you and your partner to feel secure. More info on birth control methods and options: <a rel="nofollow" href="http://brighamandwomens.staywellsolutionsonline.com/RelatedItems/1">http://brighamandwomens.staywellsolutionsonline.com/RelatedItems/1</a> ,2975
Posted by rllevy[/QUOTE]

Thanks for the info, but of course the only 100% foolproof method is abstinence (outside of surgery). Also, I'm fairly confident that hetshup's point was trying to clarify what I meant by "unsafe". And we did have the talk, a couple days ago now.

whereyat · November 2010

As just an FYI, taking 5 BCP's at the same time has (I believe) the same effect as taking Plan B.

So if you're "against" Plan B, are you against BCP's? It's essentially the same effect - as another poster said, it's just like a mega-dose of BCP.

I just feel like Plan B has gotten a bad rep or branded as OMG IMMORAL, when it's the same darn thing as just taking lots of BCP's. (It's just that most women don't have 5 extra BCP's to spare).

Anyway. Carry on.

ToTheMoonAlice · November 2010

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[QUOTE]As just an FYI, taking 5 BCP's at the same time has (I believe) the same effect as taking Plan B. So if you're "against" Plan B, are you against BCP's? It's essentially the same effect - as another poster said, it's just like a mega-dose of BCP. I just feel like Plan B has gotten a bad rep or branded as OMG IMMORAL, when it's the same darn thing as just taking lots of BCP's. (It's just that most women don't have 5 extra BCP's to spare). Anyway. Carry on.
Posted by whereyat[/QUOTE]

I actually don't like BCPs at all. It isn't about it's bad reputation or anything like that, it's a personal choice for me.

hetshup · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pregnant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:3856ee5e-b136-4d87-959c-b3cc55c5905fPost:374f169c-3e7d-4623-9d23-f38a4d5a2e3b">Re: Pregnant?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant? : Not to get snarky about it or lecture you personally, but more for the eduction of the OP... using either BCP or condoms (or even both) is not 100% foolproof. With "typical" use, condoms and BCPs have an 85% and 90% efficacy rate respecitively. Even if you are practicing safer sex with 2 forms of protection and perfect use, there is still a very very small chance you will get pregnant. This is not to scare you, but to underscore how serious it is to talk about protection with your boyfriend and to respect yourself and insist on the method(s) that will allow you and your partner to feel secure. More info on birth control methods and options: <a href="http://brighamandwomens.staywellsolutionsonline.com/RelatedItems/1" rel="nofollow">http://brighamandwomens.staywellsolutionsonline.com/RelatedItems/1</a> ,2975
Posted by rllevy[/QUOTE]

My point was more that first time "users" sometimes feel unsafe if they use only one or the other. Many times, they feel better if they've used both. I am aware of the statistics, however, Alice is aware that she could be, but statistically if she was using one or the other, her chance would be much lower.

whereyat · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant? : I actually don't like BCPs at all. It isn't about it's bad reputation or anything like that, it's a personal choice for me.
Posted by ToTheMoonAlice[/QUOTE]

Fair enough - I wasn't really directing that at you per se (lol sorry), just *in general*, people seem freaked out by the notion of Plan B when, like I said, it's the same darn thing as BCP. I think they confuse Plan B with RU-486 or whatever that is called, when it's <strong>not</strong> the same.

/end hijack
Sorry, carry on (again).

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