XP on Etiquette
I am going to be switching vendors for my invitations and need a little help with how to do it. CN at bottom.
My friend,who has a side business doing invitations and cards offered to do my invitaions, programs, etc back when FI and I got engaged. Over the last 6 months we've had several meetings to design, go over numbes needed of each item, etc, and she always says she'll have something to me soon and quotes from the printer. All these meetings have basically been repeats of each other as she seems to misplace her notes from the prevous one. I've only ever received three monogram choices (all of which were sloppy) and the "sample invitation" she sent through was the wording FI and I had finalized and sent to her in Microsoft Word saved in a PDF and sent back to me.
Back on February 18th she said she was sorry for taking so long, but that work/life had been super busy and she hadn't had a chance to get around to it, but that she would definitely send me a proof that week. To this day I have nothing. I understand that she has a 1 year old, a husband who is frequently out of town on business, a full time job and has been struggling with PPD and as such I have been very "hands off" and not bugged her about it at all. However, I'm starting to think that because we're friends she seems to think that my invitations aren't a priority and can just be left until the last second.
I've started to look into other vendors in my area and the one I'd ideally like to go with has told me the design to print process can take up to 3 months. Add on time to get the envelopes to and back from the calligrapher and time to mail them out I feel like I should get this all sorted out now.
How do I tell my friend (who has a tendency to hold onto hurt feelings) that I'm going to go with another vendor without damaging our friendship?
CN: A friend was supposed to do my invitations and hasn't been able to produce any results in a fairly lengthy period of time. How do I delicately tell her I'm going to go another way without destroying our friendship?
