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Guest Keeps Changing Mind - Wedding on Saturday!
I invited a long-lost friend to my wedding (haven't seen in 8 years). He was single, so I didn't include a date on his response card. He accepted.
4 weeks before wedding, he got a girlfriend. He asked to invite her but, since we're paying over $100 per person, I had to say no. He continued to ask several times, in different ways ("Can we eat the same dinner?" "Can I not eat and she eats?") Finally, he said he would not attend if he couldn't bring her. I removed him from the guest list.
The wedding is in 5 days. Last night, he calls to say that he's been dumped, so he wants to attend the wedding again. But I already put in the final count to the cater! Is he being rude to keep changing his mind so soon to the wedding, or should I let him back in? I'm kind of fed up with him, since I haven't seen him in so long anyway (we're not that close), and I think he's being rude to continually change his mind (even if it's due to events somewhat beyond his control).
4 weeks before wedding, he got a girlfriend. He asked to invite her but, since we're paying over $100 per person, I had to say no. He continued to ask several times, in different ways ("Can we eat the same dinner?" "Can I not eat and she eats?") Finally, he said he would not attend if he couldn't bring her. I removed him from the guest list.
The wedding is in 5 days. Last night, he calls to say that he's been dumped, so he wants to attend the wedding again. But I already put in the final count to the cater! Is he being rude to keep changing his mind so soon to the wedding, or should I let him back in? I'm kind of fed up with him, since I haven't seen him in so long anyway (we're not that close), and I think he's being rude to continually change his mind (even if it's due to events somewhat beyond his control).
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Re: Guest Keeps Changing Mind - Wedding on Saturday!
"You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
Attempting to finagle an invite for his current flavor of the week and changing his own RSVP at the last minute = rude, IMO.
But I know how much this sucks. I had a friend who originally was only going to come to the ceremony. Then she said she and her husband can both make it to the reception as well. Then two days later, she said that she was coming to the reception, but not her husband. Then the day before the wedding, she said she and her husband are both only coming to the ceremony. I was pissed because I had included them both in the final head count and we had to pay for both of their meals anyway. Looking back, I wish I had just told her "no" after she changed her mind the 2nd time.
Oh, and she decided that 15 minutes before the ceremony would be the perfect time to barge into the room I was getting ready in at the church and "catch up", since she wouldn't see me at the reception. Um, no.
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[QUOTE]No, he's being the rude douche. Not you.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
I agree with this. Don't worry about it.
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I'm glad you told him he couldn't come. You don't want to waste precious Wedding Day Time on someone like that!