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how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???

how do you know what kind of ring you want? they all look so beautiful. all i know is i don't want something too busy. if i don't know what i want, how can i drop hints to him? help!
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Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???

  • edited December 2011
    how old are you?
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  • kejkejkejkejkejkej member
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    edited December 2011
    25. we've been dating for 3 years and have started discussing getting married, etc.
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    edited December 2011

    If you've really discussed marriage, the future, finances, kids, etc then be an adult about the ring.  Is he ready? Only you two know that.  Discuss it...budget, what you like, what he likes, etc.  Then he'll make the decision to get what he thinks would work for you. 


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  • edited December 2011
    You should start with a budget - how much is he willing to spend? Start there and discuss it with him. I wouldn't drop hints personally because I'd rather just talk to DH about things rather than try to be sneaky about it.

    As far as picking out what you like I can't really help you there - just look at stuff and if you like it then bookmark it.

    Also just because the two of you have started talking about marriage doesn't necessarily mean he's ready right now to get married
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  • kejkejkejkejkejkej member
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    edited December 2011
    we've discussed everything and are totally compatible. as for being ready, i'm not expecting anything for another 6 months or so! and his taste sucks, he likes t-shirts and jeans. old t-shirts. i don't trust his style which is why i need to figure out what i want.
    anyone have any advice on how to figure out what ring you want? all i know is i want it to be platinum and big!
  • kejkejkejkejkejkej member
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    edited December 2011
    thanks sapphire. i absolutely agree that we're not ready to get married yet. honestly, if he asked today, i'd say no. we need a little more time. but i hate being unprepared, so when he does ask me what i like, i don't want to say "i have no clue!" - god only knows what i'd get then!
  • edited December 2011
    Go look at stuff - DH and I picked my ring out together at a jewelry store

    Also if those are your requirements it might take awhile for him to save up enough money to satisfy you
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  • edited December 2011
    talk to him and find out how he wants to go about it. Does he want to pick it out by himself? If so, then maybe just tell him a few things you like/dont like (stone shapes, etc). If he is willing to have you give him more help-then go to some jewelry stores! You could go with him or just by yourself. Trust me, it helps SOO much to try a few on.
    My bf and I are at a similar spot-starting talking engagement seriously. I went into some jewelry stores the others day (bf knew and said to go ahead). I kinda knew what I wanted, but I was surprised at some rings I would have thought I liked, that-as soon as I put it on my finger, I knew it wasnt for me!

    So bring it up, find out what hes thinking...if he wants to do the picking out, but wants some input, Id recommend going to some jewelry stores together.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:46b8c0a6-424d-49c0-ab2d-8e85ab5a7942">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]talk to him and find out how he wants to go about it. Does he want to pick it out by himself? If so, then maybe just tell him a few things you like/dont like (stone shapes, etc). If he is willing to have you give him more help-then go to some jewelry stores! You could go with him or just by yourself. Trust me, it helps SOO much to try a few on. My bf and I are at a similar spot-starting talking engagement seriously. I went into some jewelry stores the others day (bf knew and said to go ahead).<strong> I kinda knew what I wanted, but I was surprised at some rings I would have thought I liked, that-as soon as I put it on my finger, I knew it wasnt for me!</strong> So bring it up, find out what hes thinking...if he wants to do the picking out, but wants some input, Id recommend going to some jewelry stores together.
    Posted by starryskies407[/QUOTE]

    This was my experience too - there were several styles I tried on that I liked but they looked really weird on my finger
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  • kejkejkejkejkejkej member
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    edited December 2011
    thanks starryskies! i think what you described is exactly what i think i'll go through. i remember my senior prom dress as just that. hideous on the hanger but beautiful on! thanks for your advice!
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    again. ;)

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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:8ba69a61-7035-4f31-b601-0818842bf3fc">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]we've discussed everything and are totally compatible. as for being ready, i'm not expecting anything for another 6 months or so! and his taste sucks, he likes t-shirts and jeans. old t-shirts. i don't trust his style which is why i need to figure out what i want. anyone have any advice on how to figure out what ring you want? <strong>all i know is i want it to be platinum and big!</strong>
    Posted by 269248875003824[/QUOTE]

    Pretty sure you're a troll.

    In case you're not --

    Seriously?

    You're making a horrible first impression.

    You don't sound at all excited about your relationship or your BF.

    You sound excited about something expensive and sparkly.

    Go buy yourself a right hand ring.

    I'd wait on the whole marriage thing until you have your priorities straight.
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm guessing she's a troll too. Thats why her username is just a long line of random numbers.
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  • edited December 2011
    I don't know Narwhal her join date is in 2005 - after the format change a number of people had their names changed to a string of numbers
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  • mrs.rabmrs.rab member
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    edited December 2011
    try one on.

    ??
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  • edited December 2011
    Oh, okay. Then I retract that evidence. :)
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  • edited December 2011
    Not even good MUD.
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  • kejkejkejkejkejkej member
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    edited December 2011
    wow. thanks to the people who have actually tried to help. and for those of you judging, shame on you! i'm the only one in this relationship and it happens to be great. i love my boyfriend uncondtionally even though i wish he dressed better. what woman doesn't wish that something was different about her man? that he picks up his socks, or cuts his toenails over the toilet, or do the dishes. i came on here to ask for advice about finding a style of ring, not for people to judge my relationship or me. ps. i'd like it to be platinum and big because he can afford it. if it isn't, i'd still say yes...every girl has her dreams. stop crushing them!
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:a8682e6f-bd09-4794-9917-964f3255c943">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]wow. thanks to the people who have actually tried to help. and for those of you judging, shame on you! i'm the only one in this relationship and it happens to be great. i love my boyfriend uncondtionally even though i wish he dressed better. what woman doesn't wish that something was different about her man? that he picks up his socks, or cuts his toenails over the toilet, or do the dishes. i came on here to ask for advice about finding a style of ring, not for people to judge my relationship or me. ps. i'd like it to be platinum and big because he can afford it. if it isn't, i'd still say yes...every girl has her dreams. stop crushing them!
    Posted by 269248875003824[/QUOTE]

    You're the only one in the relationship? What about your BF? I'm pretty sure he's a part of the relationship too
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  • kejkejkejkejkejkej member
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    edited December 2011
    sapphire, don't play dumb
  • edited December 2011
    You are one of the worst trolls I've seen on here.  Could you pull out any more cliches?
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    edited December 2011
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    deeeelicious.
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  • edited December 2011
    Hey, I'm only going on what you write

    You came here asking how to pick out a style and then you go to say that you just want it to big and platinum for no other reason than that he can afford it. In my mind that says you just want a big sparkly ring to show off to your friends - it could be hideous for all you care as long as it's big and sparkly and expensive.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:eeaca711-6411-4d5a-98f7-4b355424ddaa">how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]how do you know what kind of ring you want? they all look so beautiful. all i know is i don't want something too busy. if i don't know what i want, how can i drop hints to him? help!
    Posted by 269248875003824[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:20d852af-054e-4040-a1ae-6ecb55743344">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]25. we've been dating for 3 years and have started discussing getting married, etc.
    Posted by 269248875003824[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:8ba69a61-7035-4f31-b601-0818842bf3fc">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]we've discussed everything and are totally compatible. as for being ready, i'm not expecting anything for another 6 months or so! and his taste sucks, he likes t-shirts and jeans. old t-shirts. i don't trust his style which is why i need to figure out what i want. anyone have any advice on how to figure out what ring you want? all i know is i want it to be platinum and big!
    Posted by 269248875003824[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:665e05b0-df92-4873-873c-374514c4f7c0">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]thanks sapphire. i absolutely agree that we're not ready to get married yet. honestly, if he asked today, i'd say no. we need a little more time. but i hate being unprepared, so when he does ask me what i like, i don't want to say "i have no clue!" - god only knows what i'd get then!
    Posted by 269248875003824[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:4def0c20-8349-41fe-9c70-93734b0339c8">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]thanks starryskies! i think what you described is exactly what i think i'll go through. i remember my senior prom dress as just that. hideous on the hanger but beautiful on! thanks for your advice!
    Posted by 269248875003824[/QUOTE]
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:a8682e6f-bd09-4794-9917-964f3255c943">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]wow. thanks to the people who have actually tried to help. and for those of you judging, shame on you! i'm the only one in this relationship and it happens to be great. i love my boyfriend uncondtionally even though i wish he dressed better. what woman doesn't wish that something was different about her man? that he picks up his socks, or cuts his toenails over the toilet, or do the dishes. i came on here to ask for advice about finding a style of ring, not for people to judge my relationship or me. ps. i'd like it to be platinum and big because he can afford it. if it isn't, i'd still say yes...every girl has her dreams. stop crushing them!
    Posted by 269248875003824[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:15c03115-b069-4ede-97ca-fe5e2f093cf4">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]sapphire, don't play dumb
    Posted by 269248875003824[/QUOTE]


    Just in case...
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  • edited December 2011
    good call narwhal Wink
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  • katanne9katanne9 member
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    edited December 2011
    man, all the crazies come out at night. yikes.
  • edited December 2011
    Seriously, go try some on. What would you say your fashion asthetic is? Why do I keep ending sentences with dangling prepositions? If you find that you frequently wear things that most people would not, you are likely going to want something unique. If you like vintage then maybe he should look at estate sale rings. You need to know what you like too!


    PS-- My FI is not the best dresser, but he did an amazing job with my ring. He really knows me, and knew that I wanted something a little different, but timeless at the same time. And in terms of size, that really depends on your hand size. I am frequently asked how I have a 2 carat diamond, it isn't I have small hands. You need to look at cut and shape on YOUR hands. And because it's pretty:



    In the box by itself


    on my hand

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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:8ba69a61-7035-4f31-b601-0818842bf3fc">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]we've discussed everything and are totally compatible. as for being ready, i'm not expecting anything for another 6 months or so! and his taste sucks, he likes t-shirts and jeans. old t-shirts. i don't trust his style which is why i need to figure out what i want. anyone have any advice on how to figure out what ring you want? <strong>all i know is i want it to be platinum and big!</strong>
    Posted by 269248875003824[/QUOTE]

    That just screams of greed. My FI could have given me a 10 dollar CZ ring and i would have said yes. We talked about budget , what i liked , what he pictured , and we went togetehr numerous times. Things i loved on paper looked hideous on me. Platinum is overrated in my opinion - not saying it's not worth it just get off the bus now. Bigger is not always better - especially on everyone's hand or budget. And just because your BF can afford it dosen't mean he should have to or even wants to spend that much. My FI wanted to spend 3x what he did but i told him it's just a symbol of our commitment , and i would rather put that towards our future together. We found something perfect , together , and he still surprised me with the proposal.

    Stop making it about the ring , and more about the relationship and possible lifetime commitment it should be about.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_kind-of-engagement-ring-want?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:2d6242bf-cfc0-46f1-9bfb-8bbbdda77a5aPost:eb3c4fb8-4234-43b1-a6e9-cc67534f9acd">Re: how do i know what kind of engagement ring i want???</a>:
    [QUOTE]I CRUSH DREAMS OF BEEBEES AND SPRINKLE THEM INTO MY COFFEE! deeeelicious.
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    I have no other comments for OP. What I thought has basically been said.
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