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I am going to NEED that honeymoon.
This is purely a rant/vent and I'm sure I'm being immature. It just feels good to type it all out, haha.
But the FIL's are going to Maine for a week two weeks before our wedding. They leave the rental the Sat before the wedding. They live in FL so going all the way home doesn't really make sense. They are insisting on staying with us for the whole week before the wedding. Never mind that they have multiple friends in the area that they could stay with. Or that one of FI's groomsmen and his girlfriend are already staying with us (not a huge fan of that, but it's a long story and they're not a problem tolerate, haha).
The big problem is that we live in a house they were renting and then they moved to FL, but were stuck in the lease. So we're paying them rent (not the whole thing because we would never pay that much to live anywhere) to help them out and we're living there for slightly cheaper than getting our own place and that helps us out. So they feel entitled to stay there even though they always insist that it's "our place" not theirs.
I might have to see how much a hotel room for the week would cost and just go stay there for that week. Ugh.
But the FIL's are going to Maine for a week two weeks before our wedding. They leave the rental the Sat before the wedding. They live in FL so going all the way home doesn't really make sense. They are insisting on staying with us for the whole week before the wedding. Never mind that they have multiple friends in the area that they could stay with. Or that one of FI's groomsmen and his girlfriend are already staying with us (not a huge fan of that, but it's a long story and they're not a problem tolerate, haha).
The big problem is that we live in a house they were renting and then they moved to FL, but were stuck in the lease. So we're paying them rent (not the whole thing because we would never pay that much to live anywhere) to help them out and we're living there for slightly cheaper than getting our own place and that helps us out. So they feel entitled to stay there even though they always insist that it's "our place" not theirs.
I might have to see how much a hotel room for the week would cost and just go stay there for that week. Ugh.
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Re: I am going to NEED that honeymoon.
I can't imagine anyone coming into our home the week before the wedding. I was so freaking busy and stressed that someone would have died. It was bad enough when my relatives wanted to "hang out" the day of my RD. I flipped and was just like "Look, I love you guys and I'm so glad you came, but I have 5 million things that need to get done in the next 12 hours. I promise that Sat/Sun I will spend all day with you but I just can't right now."
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Andress, I'm sorry I missed you yesterday
I didn't get to camp out with them Saturday night because I had a hair appointment at 11 Sunday, and then Max had to be sprung by 5:30.
Was it crazy wild in town? For some reason, I can't find the message he sent telling me what bar they ended up going to before finding their host town. It had an odd name, though.
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I'm not sure if I'm joking or not...
Otherwise, I think it's ok if your FI calls them and says, "Hey guys, so excited to see you! We'd love to have you stay with us Monday-Wednesday, but we really need to crack down on Thursday and Friday for the wedding, so it would be great if you could stay with the Andersons. I'm sure you guys remember how busy things were before your wedding!" It's "their" place, but it's your wedding and your sanity.
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Except, like Poli suggested, put them to work to relieve some of your stress. And maybe book yourself a spa appt for the day before the wedding or something to destress and have some time to yourself.
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[QUOTE]Andress, I'm sorry I missed you yesterday :( I didn't get to camp out with them Saturday night because I had a hair appointment at 11 Sunday, and then Max had to be sprung by 5:30. Was it crazy wild in town? For some reason, I can't find the message he sent telling me what bar they ended up going to before finding their host town. It had an odd name, though.
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Aw it's ok! I was out of town until 5-6pm so I went downtown later and it was definitely crazy. They had a great concert and people were everywhere. Really fun though! H worked the door at a couple of the bars.. I can think of a few with odd names.
But had it of been more than one person, or most other family members, I would have gone nuts.
"Great! Well, since you're going to be here, I'm going to need your help with X, Y, and Z."
If that doesn't work, either to get stuff done or for them to decide that it's too much work, then I'd go for the hotel. Our wedding was an hour from home, and we checked into the hotel on Thursday, because I didn't want to be driving back and forth at that point. The only improvement on that plan would have been to check in earlier.
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