It's one week before my wedding, and my very pregnant MOH (eight months) has just been admitted to the hospital for minor complications with her pregnancy. It seems likely that she will be confined to bed rest, however long that may be. In any case, it's most definite she won't make it to wedding day.
Of course, she wasn't pregnant when I asked her to be MOH. When she told me about the pregnancy, I have to admit that I was a little concerned - only because I knew she would be SO far along and very uncomfortable. But I never asked her to step down, even though I was secretly worried about the very real possibility she could go into labor at the wedding and even though she has bitched nonstop throughout the planning process about how things will affect her. Now, I really wish I had, and ignored the advice on The Knot and other wedding sites that you can't ask a pregnant woman to step down. I totally think it depends on the situation.
To make matters worse...through the whole planning process, she hasn't lifted a finger to help, not even when I asked her for something as simple as an opinion. I realize she is nesting, but it hurts that she wasn't there for me at all. I never said anything to her, didn't want to upset her during pregnancy.
Now she wants me to come and visit her, while she is in bed rest. Am I a bad person because I don't want to? I feel if I go, I will appear bitter and absorbed in my wedding details ... I have no idea what to even say to her. What should I do?