NOT registering. Why are people so weird about this?
We decided not to register because we are 38 and 41, have 2 households that we're combining into my very small one bedroom condo, and seriously can't think of anything we need. I mean, we're working hard to get rid of stuff just so we can have space to move around! Also I have always found the idea of registries tacky - I don't like asking people to buy me gifts. I will admit that there is a part of us that hopes people will give us cash, because that would be far more useful to us than more stuff, but we are NOT telling anyone that.
Here's the thing. People have been getting almost hostile with me when they find out we're not registering! I admit that as a wedding guest I love the registry because it makes things so simple, but I don't know what I'm supposed to say. If people feel moved to get us a gift, that would be lovely, but I'm not going to order them what to buy. And if they bring nothing, that's fine too! We are throwing a party for friends and family and that's what it's about to me, not getting a bunch of stuff.
Am I crazy? Is there anyone else out there who's not registering? And how do you respond to people's blank stares when they find that out?
Re: NOT registering. Why are people so weird about this?
If your not having a shower, then I wouldn't bother registering. Just be prepared as some people do not like to give cash and may bring gifts to the wedding. Hopefully in your case receipts will be included
They are not mandatory by any means but sometimes people like to wrap items and bring gifts. It is 100% up to you what you choose to do but in the end dont be surprised if you end up with gift cards to stores you don' t like or multiples of items you have no clue where they came from so you are stuck with.
Just be warned that if you don't register, you may end up with 10 blenders when you didn't even need one to begin with. Prepare to do lots of returning/exchanging.
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[QUOTE]The only thing is that people may give you something you don't want/like. You could have family spread the word that you would rather have money to save up for something, and create a small registry of things you want to upgrade around the house.
Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]
this. You can always use an upgrade on items and you can't possibly have everything, no one does.
[QUOTE]I gotta say, I really don't need anything either. I registered for upgrades of things and for fun stuff, like a deep fryer or panini press, because i wouldn't go buy that myself. But really, where am i going to put all this stuff!! Registering is great for people who are just moving in together or have nothing, because literally people buy you all the necessary stuff. So I think what I'm going to do and you may want to do is the Honeymoon Registry. So on my bridal shower invite I'm going to put if people would like to contribute to our honeymoon fund please do so. its an idea
Posted by cusi229[/QUOTE]
This board has a sticky about honeymoon registries that you might want to check out: <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_thinking-of-honeymoon-registry" rel='nofollow'>http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_thinking-of-honeymoon-registry</a>
Also, showers are really for physical gifts--you shower the bride with gifts, not with money--and everyone watches the bride open the gifts. If you don't want any physical gifts, you shouldn't have a shower. I would reconsider your idea.
[QUOTE]I gotta say, I really don't need anything either. I registered for upgrades of things and for fun stuff, like a deep fryer or panini press, because i wouldn't go buy that myself. But really, where am i going to put all this stuff!! Registering is great for people who are just moving in together or have nothing, because literally people buy you all the necessary stuff. So I think what I'm going to do and you may want to do is the Honeymoon Registry. So on my bridal shower invite I'm going to put if people would like to contribute to our honeymoon fund please do so. its an idea
Posted by cusi229[/QUOTE]
<div>I think a HM registry is fine as long as you can afford the HM if nobody contributes. However you shouldn't have a shower if you don't have a registry with tangible gifts. I did receive a few things from my HM registry at my shower (as well as gift cards and cash) but most of the presents were something to open. Watching somebody open a bunch of cards is not very exciting.</div>
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FI and I have lived by ourselves for a long time, so we have everything we need. But it's mine or his and most of it is hand-me-downs or cheaper stuff we bought when we were younger. Some items we have are nice and we won't upgrade (knives, pots and pans), but some stuff it will be nice to have something that is both of our taste, not just mine or his. Like our bedding- he has a plain tan comforter (boring!) and I have a floral print comforter (girly). Neither of us likes the other's comforter, so we're registering for a new one that will be both of our style.
Don't feel pressured to register.