i am not going to register

GeauxTigers17 · April 2011

My future mother in law is all but begging us to register because we've only met once and she's worried I won't like anything they got us.

Guess she's just trying to sink me into the pit of American greed. Because you're right, it is sooooo wrong to want to give someone a wedding gift, and have it be something they actually like....

I love registries as a guest - I like knowing that the couple is actually going to use/like the gift.

[Deleted User] · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_am-not-going-register?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:9ca9dc90-9298-4be0-9d36-49a9f7bcb41dPost:468b5564-aae4-41fa-9857-fd0e3dc16009">Re: i am not going to register</a>:
[QUOTE]americans are pretty spoiled if you look at the way the rest of the world lives. that said,<strong> i am a proud american, and i love this country</strong>, but not the behaviour of some of the folks in it. or the lifestyles of those folks. but that's another story. actually in front of family i would feel pretty comfortable ranting about entitlement, sorry if your family isn't that cool. and they would understand exactly what i mean. i don't understand how you can "reconcile" distaste for consumerism with registering. registries are consumerism at it's very worst. sorry if you don't like that, but it's true. i'm not preaching, just reaching out to others who feel the same way and don't want to register. i bet there are people lurking right now who don't like the idea and are wondering if they are obligated to do it because they invited 150 guests and are buying them dinner. this is also why we're doing a small private ceremony. so no, i don't think we will be receiving 5 toasters.
Posted by kgettingmarried[/QUOTE]

I don't believe this for a second.

SirJuliusVonHaast · April 2011

This has to be a troll.

VioletRose519 · April 2011

You might want to register somewhere so you do not end un returning unwanted gifts to 50+ stores!!

hlq2011 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_am-not-going-register?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:9ca9dc90-9298-4be0-9d36-49a9f7bcb41dPost:84d99b58-6bf6-46d4-88d3-2f2a43616ab2">Re: i am not going to register</a>:
[QUOTE]You might want to register somewhere so you do not end un returning unwanted gifts to 50+ stores!!
Posted by VioletRose519[/QUOTE]

But she'd doesn't want any gifts at all, being so anti-consumerism.

MNVegas · April 2011

Wow, with your attitude I doubt very much if you will have to worry about anyone even wanting to buy you any gifts or even want come to your wedding for that matter!

futurepivko · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_am-not-going-register?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:9ca9dc90-9298-4be0-9d36-49a9f7bcb41dPost:468b5564-aae4-41fa-9857-fd0e3dc16009">Re: i am not going to register</a>:
[QUOTE]americans are pretty spoiled if you look at the way the rest of the world lives. that said, i am a proud american, and i love this country, but not the behaviour of some of the folks in it. or the lifestyles of those folks. but that's another story. actually in front of family i would feel pretty comfortable ranting about entitlement, sorry if your family isn't that cool. and they would understand exactly what i mean. i don't understand how you can "reconcile" distaste for consumerism with registering. registries are consumerism at it's very worst. sorry if you don't like that, but it's true. i'm not preaching, just reaching out to others who feel the same way and don't want to register. i bet there are people lurking right now who don't like the idea and are wondering if they are obligated to do it because they invited 150 guests and are buying them dinner. this is also why we're doing a small private ceremony. <strong>so no, i don't think we will be receiving 5 toasters. </strong>
Posted by kgettingmarried[/QUOTE]

WOW. OK, so 5 crockpots maybe?

GoodLuckBear14 · April 2011

So... you're going to take everything that people give you anyway to a local shelter for people who can really use the gifts. Right???.....

mob2689 · April 2011

My daughter is running into the same thing, she didn't register because they will be moving out of the country 2 months after thier wedding,and will be downsizing considerably because they can only take so much with them. All guests know this. Luckly most have asked what they would like, One of her responses was a quilt because she knew the woman makes fantastic quilts and where she is moving to is very cold, plus it is "small" enough to take with them. Now you all are making me nervouse for her with the nightmares of 12 toasters and snow cone machines LOL I think we better rethink this and fast.

Summer2011Bride · April 2011

You preach about consumerism and materialism, but yet you also say you are more than happy to go buy yourself a bunch of things. And if you keep the gifts given to you, aren't you just buying into what you are criticizing? Like a PP said, if this is how you really feel, you should donate all your gifts and only live on the bare essentials, which doesn't sound like what you do when you go on about being able to support yourself and buying yourself everything you need.

regan117 · April 2011

DIAF.

mkvandriel · April 2011

Your choice to register or not is simply yours.. but to imply that the only reason people register is because they can't afford these things on their own.

MOST adults can carry for themselves.. and wouldn't be getting married if they couldn't carry their own and buy their own things like and adult.

A wedding registry is simply to give your guest and idea of what things you like or need.. not begging for gifts. Some people coming to your wedding, in alot of cases, don't know your taste or any idea what to get you.

Have you ever been to a wedding where you had no idea what to get the couple? I went to a bridal shower of the fiance of my ex husband (of 10 years and is still one of my great friends today) last weekend.. and even though I was married to him.. and I see them almost every other day (kids) I had no idea what they would want or need. It gave me ideas.

I am proud of you that you can go buy all your own stuff, by all means.. go ahead. But when you get duplicate gifts of the things "You went out and bought" and you can spend the time returning everything.

J&K10910 · April 2011

IRK.

The word is IRK.

WIth an "i".

OnionBiitch · April 2011

Don't you know that not having a registry invalidates your wedding? No registry = no marriage.

hlq2011 · April 2011

Thank you, J&K. lol.

Also, your cat amuses me endlessly. They all have a thing for boxes, don't they?

J&K10910 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]Thank you, J&K. lol. Also, your cat amuses me endlessly. They all have a thing for boxes, don't they?
Posted by hlq2011[/QUOTE]

Sure do! She amuses me too, when she's not driving me up the wall.

musicalsunlight · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_am-not-going-register?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:9ca9dc90-9298-4be0-9d36-49a9f7bcb41dPost:7034ccc6-6dd0-4ad5-b31a-e4978d3eb0e1">Re: i am not going to register</a>:
[QUOTE]You preach about consumerism and materialism, but yet you also say you are more than happy to go buy yourself a bunch of things. And if you keep the gifts given to you, aren't you just buying into what you are criticizing? Like a PP said, if this is how you really feel, you should donate all your gifts and only live on the bare essentials, which doesn't sound like what you do when you go on about being able to support yourself and buying yourself everything you need.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

This, completely.

I feel you are taking everything a little too seriously, OP.

(She is not a troll, she posts regularly on our local board).

sarah0725 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_am-not-going-register?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:9ca9dc90-9298-4be0-9d36-49a9f7bcb41dPost:87244e2e-7c65-4622-9032-8da571798435">Re: i am not going to register</a>:
[QUOTE]IRK. The word is IRK. WIth an "i".
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

I was kind of thinking of "urk" as a noise you make before you throw up. Which would be kinda appropriate in the context of this post.

And apparently since I registered for gifts, I can no longer consider myself an anti-capitalist. Oh well, guess I'll just enjoy my matching plates while oppressing the worker!

verymegv · April 2011

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