Ok, so my younger brother and I are both getting married next year. I got engaged first, and we are having a seating chart because we have 2 meal options. Some how, my brothers future wife found out about this, and is pissed because she is not sitting next to my brother. Here is the thing, My brother "D" is in the wedding party, and I asked him BEFORE I even knew about his at the time girlfriend "L". She has been a royal pain to me since day one. I met her in person once (we live about 4 hours apart), and tried to be friendly and get to know her because I thought it was great that D found someone that he loves and wants to get married to. She wouldn't even talk to me. To make a long story short, about a year ago, I was talking to her online, and I told her that I missed seeing D all the time, and she got really defensive and said my whole family hates her, and I need to watch boundaries because she is going to be his wife. And I said I'm not trying to upset you, I was just saying that I missed seeing him all the time like we used to. And I wish that we could spend some holidays together. And she actually came back and said to me "spending time with your family is a sacrifice for me spending time with my family" After that I told her ok, I'm sorry, and I have to go. Of course a few minutes later D called me and asked me why I have an issue with L. I said I don't I just said that I missed seeing you.
Anyway, its been rough on our family because she feels that we all hate her, I tried to ask her why but she didn't have much to say. That is fine, one day D will realize what is going on and hopefully it won't break apart their relationship, or ours. I wonder though if it has something to do with how close we all were when the 2 of them met.
Ok, so back to my wedding, this girl is PISSED! that she can't sit next to D, what does she expect me to do, change our whole idea of a head table to keep her happy? Our head table obviously has the wedding party, which again was decided before D and L got engaged, and before our family even found out about L (they are getting married after knowing each other about a year). and my FI and I had already decided to have a parents table (each table seats 8). I have a "broken" family so I have 2 sets of parents, and FI's parents are still married, so that has 6 people at that table, on top of that, FI's nephews, who are in the wedding are going to sit at the parents table as their parents are in the wedding party. so L is mad that one, she doesn't get to sit by D and 2 that she isn't being allowed to sit by my dad and his wife, who are D's parents. I know this is our day and i shouldn't let a girl who seems to be a spoiled brat attempt to ruin it, but it does bother me that she is acting this way.
IF she wasn't going to marry my brother, I wouldn't invite her to our wedding, I am very worried that she will cause a scene and ruin our day. They are getting married before us, and I plan to do nothing but be nice, even though I feel a little left out because I am not in ANY way included in their wedding. But that is their choice. I would rather not be involved being how she is acting. My other 2 brothers are upset that they said yes they would stand up because she is treating them bad as well.
I don't get it, is she jealous of my FI and I, or the closeness of our family? but why would she be? Why would she judge us without knowing us? What should I do about her at our wedding? Just have someone "keep an eye out" for her to do anything to try and ruin our day? I don't plan on doing anything but be nice to her at their wedding, I want to have a good relationship with her...I just don't get it...