Morning Eeners!!

midgetthemighty · June 2012

All of the chatty threads have been getting lost in the shuffle lately due to all of the mostly repeat questions people are posting. It really seems to have sky-rocketed.

Wow, A. Who does she think is going to pay for things the baby actually needs?

pokepoke27 · June 2012

Hey Steffi - it's....not going yet haha.

pokepoke27 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]All of the chatty threads have been getting lost in the shuffle lately due to all of the mostly repeat questions people are posting. It really seems to have sky-rocketed. <strong>Wow, A. Who does she think is going to pay for things the baby actually needs?</strong>
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm guessing her parents and her ILs.</div>

midgetthemighty · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Midge, yeah. I get charged a flat fee for 11-18 hours, and anything after that is charged at a slightly discounted hourly rate. In other words, my university wants another $1000 from me by mid July.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

Eeek. Mine wasn't quite that bad, I don't think. I'm pretty sure it was just a flat fee for going over the recommended 17 hours.

StefffiC · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Hey Steffi - it's....not going yet haha.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

LOL I hate to pack.

pokepoke27 · June 2012

I'm just catching up on those threads right now. Some of the questions are just dumb.

"Can I invite someone to the RD and not pay for them???"

*bitchslap*

midgetthemighty · June 2012

Poke, my ILs originally wanted to do that. I managed to dodge that bullet by saying that could use the hall in our church basement if they so desired.

I'm getting more sarcastic people on my FB feed than anything about the Supreme Court ruling. One of my friends just posted this picture.

pokepoke27 · June 2012

LOL Midge - someone on my wall posted that as well.

StefffiC · June 2012

On the radio this morning they were talking about how married couples handle their money.

They were laughing at a couple where one person handles the money and the other one gets a spending allowance. We do things that way. He's a saver and I'm a spender. I spend my allowance, he saves the bulk of our money. We're happy, we don't fight.

Are we that weird?

adamar15 · June 2012

They were DELICIOUS, Poke.

Midge, the government and her parents. Also, I'm still confused as to why they can't find out the sex at a normal ultrasound. I didn't really think that was a "perk." I guess I should ask my mom.

pokepoke27 · June 2012

I don't think you're wierd. I mean, if you are both happy then it's not up to anyone else to judge how you handle your finances.

dumdumfroggie · June 2012

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[QUOTE]They were DELICOUS, Poke. Midge, the government and her parents. Also, I'm still confused as to why they can't find out the sex at a normal ultrasound. I didn't really think that was a "perk." I guess I should ask my mom.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

<div>They can, I think it's just if the kid isn't feeling particuarily showy during the regular U/S, they can request another one just to find out the sex. I think that's how it works at least.</div>

pokepoke27 · June 2012

I'm glad it turned out well for you Adamar!

StefffiC · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I don't think you're wierd. I mean, if you are both happy then it's not up to anyone else to judge how you handle your finances.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

I think it makes me look irresponsible with money. But, wait, I am. LOL

We have our strengths and weaknesses. I can sign on the house account, but I don't use it or carry the card to it. It does work for us, but people side eye it because it seems 'controlling'.

I make almost triple what he makes. Not that it matters, he's just a better money manager.

specialk84 · June 2012

Stefffi, if it's any consolation, I think you're weird, but your money management decisions are only a small portion of that.

Weird does not mean bad.

pokepoke27 · June 2012

Steffi - IMO it's only controlling if it's not a decision the both of you made. If you know you're not good with money so then you say to your H that you want him to handle the finances, how is that controlling? I can see people thinking he's controlling if you're always complaining that he controlls the finances and you don't get any spending money, but that doesn't seem to be the case.

Honeslty, that's pretty much how it's going to be for us when I move. Well, I won't be working right away so it makes sense that he gives me some of his money to spend and not just give me everything - but still.

mari0225 · June 2012

Steffi H and I are the opposite, I'm the saver and I do our finances he knows he cannot do them well. We all have our strengths and weaknesses.

Sorry i'm just popping in randomly today.

cookie0803 · June 2012

Sorry, random, but Poke, that steak marinade I told you about in yesterday's afternoon thread was awesome! I definitely recommend it.

specialk84 · June 2012

H does the overwhelming majority of our banking. However, I still have my own savings account and checking account. All of our other accounts are held jointly.

He has never, ever been a douche about it, even though he works and I SAH. While I can't go on spending sprees, neither can he. We each get to splurge every now and then, but it's rare. He has never told me I could not use OUR money to buy something I needed.

StefffiC · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Stefffi, if it's any consolation, I think you're weird, but your money management decisions are only a small portion of that. Weird does not mean bad.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

Me weird? LOL I strive for eccentric. LOL

Poke - he's a good husband and we have fun toys and he never gripes about paying the horse's bills. Or the cat's bills. That's huge to me.

pokepoke27 · June 2012

Glad to hear it Cookie - it did sound yummy.

specialk84 · June 2012

I don't think I could handle being put on an allowance.

It's one thing if H says, "Hey, due to the A/C needing to be repaired, we're a little strapped until the next payday. We need to make $150 work for gas, groceries, bills, etc. for another ten days." Then yeah, I'm not going to go spending money we don't have.

If he says, "You're allowed to have $150 for the next two weeks," I'm going to be pissed. I work my ass off at home (I do all the housework), and I'm a FT student (I will likely make significantly more than him in ten years). We're both working just as hard for the good of our family, and it sickens me to think he would be able to say it was HIS money and not OUR money.

Edit: Please realize that I could not handle an allowance. I'm not saying no one could. It just would not fly in the Special household.

pokepoke27 · June 2012

Pretty much, H will be paying all the bills and he'll give me money if I ever go out anywhere without him. Which won't happen very often. So it's not really an allowance. Once I get a job I'll probably just keep the money I earn. Probably save it for when we go to America and occasionally use it for date nights.

midgetthemighty · June 2012

All this talk is reminding me that I need to sit down with my beautiful budget spreadsheet and figure it all out again. I'm getting a raise, H got a brand new job that came with a raise and a hell of a lot less driving. Time to recalculate with the H.

adamar15 · June 2012

This might be TMI, but I have been super gassy lately and it's really unpleasant. I don't know what the deal is with my digestive system.

mari0225 · June 2012

Ugh because I wouldn't do CW work for her she asked another CW to do it, heaven forbid she do her own work!

Poke that's what H's GM did, she saved all her paychecks and she hasn't had to worry about money ever! They used her H's money for bills and etc. Not that i'm saying be like her (you are much too sweet), but it's a good thing to do.

specialk84 · June 2012

Midge, you two took some financial classes together, right? That should help, especially if you two are on the same general page about spending v. saving.

Speaking of spending, my favorite yarn site is having a major sale. I have Christmas projects to plan/start. I must practice self control (or at least moderation).

pokepoke27 · June 2012

Special - H said he would pay for me to have some knitting classes as soon as he has some extra money. I'm excited.

ETA - what is your favorite yarn site? If I do get into it, it would be nice to be able to order some.

StefffiC · June 2012

We have a household account that our paychecks go into. He pays for his gas, food, etc... out of this account and all of our bills. He also pays for all of our dates, gifts, anything we do as a couple. I can sign on the house account.

I have an account that X amount goes into that I pay for my gas, my work lunches, nails, shopping, etc... If I want to buy something and I don't have money for it I'll call DH and ask him if we have money for it and we'll swap money over. Or if it's a big purchase we'll wait until he comes home.

It prevents impulse buying on my part.

midgetthemighty · June 2012

Sure did Special. That's where the basic outline of the budget spreadsheet came from. I tweeked it because I love formulas but anyway. H is actually a spender and I'm a saver but we work random spending into the budget and he's pretty good at following it.

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