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Update...

I had posted about a week ago about needing advice on how to plan a shower and to see what all I could get done now-ish because I'm getting married in May and the bride demanded that I have her shower in June so that her guests could pay for honeymoon since the payment is due in July (click).

I received a text message from her on Saturday, the day we were supposed to go BM dress shopping for her wedding, letting me know that she couldn't get past me telling her that registering for her HM is tacky (I never said those words, EVER, I did however say that I didn't understand the point of having a shower if she's not registering for physical gifts) and saying that she shouldn't be engaged while they're living with her mother (again, NEVER SAID THAT!). 

I also apparently made her feel uncomfortable when we went BM dress shopping for my wedding -- when in reality I was extremely accommodating. We went to Alfred Angelo and they didn't have enough of a selection of sizes and I could see it was making her feel bad so I immediately got on the phone and we went to DB afterwards where she and another BM purchased their dress.

So, she doesn't want to be friends with me anymore and therefore I'm no longer her MOH and she's no longer one of my BMs. 

Honestly, I am so relieved. It's been pure hell dealing with her for the past 6 months. She turned into such a different person when she got engaged. She's a HUGE drama queen and you can't say a thing to her or she takes it as you're attacking her. I feel like all of the negativity has disappeared from my life and a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. 

Thanks for the advice on planning the shower even though I won't be needing it anymore! 



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  • I just read the original post and it sounds like you handled the situation well. It never ceases to amaze me how certain people will act. She sounds VERY immature (not to mention a little nuts). It's always hard to lose a friend, but unfortunately people will come and go from our lives as we grow up and things change. I'm glad you can have this stress removed from your life and can focus on and enjoy the rest of your engagement!
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  • edited January 2013
    Wow! I had a really similar situation a few years ago - I ended up going through with the wedding, but sorta wish I hadn't.

    I agree - people just get to be so unreasonable when they start to plan their weddings. M

    Her wedding was in December of 2010, and since that time, I have only seen her twice.
    You will not miss this person in your life. Believe me. My planning process has been so non-stressful - I remember having to talk to her about all these crazy things, and I've experienced none of that.
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  • Honestly it sounds like you dodged a bullet.
     
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  • I took a friend out of my wedding party because I knew she was going to make it challenging. It was mutual, and in the end I was so glad. Since my wedding we've talked only a few times. It's brought up some stuff from the past that drives me nuts. It sounds like it all happened for the best!
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  • What a crazy drama llama.  Definitely sounds like you are better off, and handling it well.  Sorry it had to go down that way but glad if it had to happen, it was sooner rather than later. 

    Good luck with the rest of your planning!
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  • Thanks, ladies. You're all right, this is definitely for the best. 



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