I'm having an afternoon ceremony, so all my bridesmaids are meeting me at my house at 7:00 to get ready. They all have to travel from PA to NYC, so I imagine they'll be staying overnight the night prior. One of them has a son who will be just turning 1 around the wedding. Would it be rude to ask her to have her husband watch their son while we're getting ready/through the ceremony? Forgive me, but I know absolutely nothing of children or their developmental stages, and I'm not sure if there are still breastfeeding issues or something like that at this stage. I'm already going to be very very stressed that morning (I have moderate social anxiety and being the center of attention for hours is daunting), and I'd really rather not have a child there if I can help it.
Also, she really wants to have her son be ring bearer. We weren't planning on having children in the wedding, but I'm not opposed to it if it will make her happy. He's wearing a little suit anyway, so I was thinking of getting a pillow with fake rings and letting her carry him up with her if he's in a good mood, and just scrapping it if he's fussy. She would just hand him off to daddy once she gets up front, so it would be all of two minutes, and it would make a cute picture for her.
Any insight would be very much appreciated!