To Wear or Not to Wear the E-Ring at the Bachelorette Party?

kittykatkoo · September 2012

My bachelorette party is coming up, and have been given mixed ideas about whether you should wear the engagment ring to the B-Party or not.

Some say you don't need to wear it at all since its your last night out, and that if the man doesn't wear a ring why should you.

The others say its the most appropriate time you should be wearing your e-ring. To not do so would be like showing you don't care to show your engaged etc.

Please give me your thoughts

Thanks

[Deleted User] · September 2012

I've never heard of not wearing your engagement ring to your bachelorette party.

I don't really get the sentiment that your bachelor/ette party is your last night out. You are in a serious committed relationship, so it's not like you can go out and bang every guy you see.

I will be wearing mine proudly!

wrigleyville · September 2012

Just because it's your "last night out" doesn't mean you aren't engaged. I think my FI would be hurt (and a bit suspicious) if I didn't wear my e-ring for a night on the town.

The man not wearing a ring has nothing to do with it. If those people have an issue with their FI not wearing an e-ring, that's something they need to discuss with their FI.

Meegles4 · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_to-wear-or-not-to-wear-the-e-ring-at-the-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0703720c-143b-4f11-8925-1298f681f932Post:a0a05de8-9adc-4844-bcc2-0bbc6d9584c5">To Wear or Not to Wear the E-Ring at the Bachelorette Party?</a>:
[QUOTE]My bachelorette party is coming up, and have been given mixed ideas about whether you should wear the engagment ring to the B-Party or not. <strong>Some say you don't need to wear it at all since its your last night out, and that if the man doesn't wear a ring why should you.</strong> The others say its the most appropriate time you should be wearing your e-ring. To not do so would be like showing you don't care to show your engaged etc. Please give me your thoughts Thanks
Posted by kittykatkoo[/QUOTE]

Um, the bolded? Is lame. So what if it's your last night out? It's not as if you're going to go crazy and hook up with a bunch of guys and legit pretend to be single because it's your "last night".

And if you're going to use the whole "a man doesn't wear a ring" argument, then why have an e-ring at all. Seriously.

To more directly answer your question: I never even considered NOT wearing my e-ring every day I was engaged, including the day of my b-party.

Lolagirl2012 · September 2012

My ring is so gorgeous I never want to take it off.

I've never heard of not wearing it for the b-party. Even though it was "my last night out", I'm still committed and wearing or not wearing my ring woudln't change anything.

Unless you're planning on getting wild and worrying about losing it if you wear it? I don't know how crazy you're planning on getting. I wore mine and I would wear mine again.

Girlie1030 · September 2012

This is one of the oddest questions I've seen asked. Why wouldn't you wear it? You've been wearing it your entire engagement right?

KellyBrian2013 · September 2012

Agreed with wrigley (love the Pug, btw) - my DH would have thrown a FIT if my bachelorette was the one night I chose not to wear my engagement ring.

I wore it proudly to my bach. party. And despite it being "my last night out" as an unmarried woman, I turned down drinks from other men and dances with other men. Bachelorette party doesn't mean you're suddenly single for the evening...

AdeleDazeem · September 2012

What? I'd wear my ring. I can't see any reason NOT to wear the ring, unless you are looking to tell guys that you're single and want to hook up. Weird, weird, weird.

I never take my engagement or wedding rings off. I'm perfectly content with my husband and have no desire to be something I'm not.

Loopyseven · September 2012

Once that ring went on my finger it never left. I do not see the point in taking it off for a bparty. Especially if they're going to deck you out in penii. Penises? Just because it's a bachelorette doesn't make you not engaged for the evening. Lame.

Kate61487 · September 2012

yeah I have definitely never heard of this. I think the only time during an engagement I've heard of not wearing the ring is as you're walking down the aisle - b/c some people want to have the wedding ring go onto a bare finger / put the e-ring after it / have them soldered together, etc.

If I had purposely left my e-ring off for my b-party pretty sure it would have raised some eyebrows. Your last night out as a single woman was the last night you went out before you and your FI started seriously dating; because every time after that: e-ring, wedding ring, or no ring; you were/are taken.

lcatterton · September 2012

I get bummed when I take my ring off at night to go to bed, so no I would never take it off to go out. I wear it even if I'm just running to the gas station and I haven't put it on yet for the day. I feel very uncomfortable not wearing it and I'd feel as if I was being unfaithful by NOT having it on at my bachelorette party. Even if I didn't do a single thing wrong. I'd feel like I lied to every person who looked at my hand. And if that were to include guys who thought I was available, that would make it all the worse.

Really dumb question. I hope you aren't considering this....

Miss Esa · September 2012

Just because it's a bachelorette party doesn't mean you are not engaged for the evening.
I would never even consider going to my own B-Party without my E-ring.

Avion22 · September 2012

Yeah, there is no way anyone WON'T know it's a bachelorette party and that you're the bride. I can't think of why you would even want to hide that anyway. If you think the activities of that night are going to hinge on guys not knowing that you are engaged, then you seriously need to rethink the idea of getting married inthe first place.

midgetthemighty · September 2012

Yeah, this is bizarre. Wear your engagement ring. Being engaged is kind of the entire reason you're even getting married and having a bachelorette party.

RebeccaB88 · September 2012

Ditto everyone else. Taking off the ring for a party is not an option. I'm still in a relationship, and if I'm not proud of that fact then I don't need to be in one at all.

jemmini6 · September 2012

If you are planning not to wear your ring, does that mean you are trying to advertise that you are available for some 'fun' at your bachelorette party? If yes, then you shouldn't be getting married. If no, then I don't see why you'd specifically not wear it.

Yes, most men don't wear e-rings, but that's not specific to their bachelor party, so the point is moot. Now that my H does wear a ring, if he were to specifically take his wedding ring off for a night out with the boys, I'd be pretty damn suspicious.

msuprincess04 · September 2012

I love my ring, and can't imagine not wearing it!

And FI wears an e-ring too.

KellyBrian2013 · September 2012

DH wore a ring the entire time we were engaged, too. He called it his "practice ring" (haha)... and you better believe I would have been suspicous if he'd taken it off before heading out with his buddies.

Peledreamsofrain · September 2012

People hide rings for two reasons:

1.) to not be discriminated against for a job interview (yes it happens despite being illegal)
2.) to cheat on their SO

Go ahead and hide your ring if you want every single person who sees you to assume you are trying to accomplish goal #2. Including your FI.

Meegles4 · September 2012

I actually do take my e-ring off in certain circumstances. It's on the tight side, which is fine for regular wear, but when working out my fingers swell. So I rarely/never wear it when working out. In addition, it's a solitaire that's set really high, so I take it off before bed. FWIW, I always wear my wedding band except in the shower, but obviously before we were married there were certain times I'd take the e-ring off.

So I think it's a little extreme to see only the 2 reasons Pele says as valid, but her point is right.

I really want the OP to come back and defend her friends' reasoning that this is a normal thing to do.

TaraKeeley · September 2012

<div>I would wear mine. But I agree with the "if the man doesn't wear a ring, why should you?" statement, though... which is why my fiance has an engagement ring that he wears with love and pride! :o) The only time we take ours off is if we're going to the beach, hiking, etc... doing some kind of activity where we're likely to lose or damage the rings.</div><div>
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</div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_to-wear-or-not-to-wear-the-e-ring-at-the-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0703720c-143b-4f11-8925-1298f681f932Post:a0a05de8-9adc-4844-bcc2-0bbc6d9584c5">To Wear or Not to Wear the E-Ring at the Bachelorette Party?</a>:
[QUOTE]My bachelorette party is coming up, and have been given mixed ideas about whether you should wear the engagment ring to the B-Party or not. Some say you don't need to wear it at all since its your last night out, and that if the man doesn't wear a ring why should you. The others say its the most appropriate time you should be wearing your e-ring. To not do so would be like showing you don't care to show your engaged etc. Please give me your thoughts Thanks
Posted by kittykatkoo[/QUOTE]

Fancypantsamy · September 2012

I took mine off for my batchelorette party - but then again, instead of bar hopping my girls took me go kart racing and I was afraid something would happen to it (pebbles from the out door track flying up and hitting it, etc)

I'm sure FI was quite concerned about me picking up the pimply 17 year old go kart attendant, haha.

Fancypantsamy · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_to-wear-or-not-to-wear-the-e-ring-at-the-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0703720c-143b-4f11-8925-1298f681f932Post:23e82f51-2e25-40e0-a5fc-bfc826b292e8">Re: To Wear or Not to Wear the E-Ring at the Bachelorette Party?</a>:
[QUOTE]People hide rings for two reasons: 1.) to not be discriminated against for a job interview (yes it happens despite being illegal) 2.) to cheat on their SO Go ahead and hide your ring if you want every single person who sees you to assume you are trying to accomplish goal #2. Including your FI.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I took mine off for my bachelorette - but instead of barhopping, my girls took me to a go kart racing track they booked for me and I was worried about something happening to it. I totally would have worn it if we had gone to a bar though. </div>

StephBeanWed61502 · September 2012

In Response to Re:To Wear or Not to Wear the ERing at the Bachelorette Party?:[QUOTE]I took mine off for my batchelorette party but then again, instead of bar hopping my girls took me go kart racing and I was afraid something would happen to it pebbles from the out door track flying up and hitting it, etcI'm sure FI was quite concerned about me picking up the pimply 17 year old go kart attendant, haha.nbsp; Posted by Fancypantsamy[/QUOTE]

To me, this is totally different from what the OP is talking about. You presumably would've removed your ring to go go karting regardless of whether or not the event was designated as your bach party. You weren't removing it so you could "enjoy your last night as a single girl," you were removing it based on common sense concerns about the safety of the ring. What you did seems fine to me. What OP is suggesting does not.

lcatterton · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_to-wear-or-not-to-wear-the-e-ring-at-the-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0703720c-143b-4f11-8925-1298f681f932Post:8e8fdc17-e8da-4468-84fb-e368ee985ab2">Re: To Wear or Not to Wear the E-Ring at the Bachelorette Party?</a>:
[QUOTE]I actually do take my e-ring off in certain circumstances. It's on the tight side, which is fine for regular wear, but when working out my fingers swell. So I rarely/never wear it when working out. In addition, it's a solitaire that's set really high, so I take it off before bed. FWIW, I always wear my wedding band except in the shower, but obviously before we were married there were certain times I'd take the e-ring off. So I think it's a little extreme to see only the 2 reasons Pele says as valid, but her point is right. <strong>I really want the OP to come back and defend her friends' reasoning that this is a normal thing to do.
</strong>Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

Me too Meegles! I'd love to hear her opinion now!!!

Peledreamsofrain · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_to-wear-or-not-to-wear-the-e-ring-at-the-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0703720c-143b-4f11-8925-1298f681f932Post:8e8fdc17-e8da-4468-84fb-e368ee985ab2">Re: To Wear or Not to Wear the E-Ring at the Bachelorette Party?</a>:
[QUOTE]I actually do take my e-ring off in certain circumstances. It's on the tight side, which is fine for regular wear, but when working out my fingers swell. So I rarely/never wear it when working out. In addition, it's a solitaire that's set really high, so I take it off before bed. FWIW, I always wear my wedding band except in the shower, but obviously before we were married there were certain times I'd take the e-ring off. So I think it's a little extreme to see only the 2 reasons Pele says as valid, but her point is right. I really want the OP to come back and defend her friends' reasoning that this is a normal thing to do.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

Yes, I take off my ring to sleep and bake, etc. Which is why I phrased things the way I did. I said people HIDE their rings for those reasons. Which is what the OP is talking about doing.

Calypso1977 · September 2012

this is about as silly to me as people that buy fake "placeholder" rings to wear on their honeymoon so theri real ones dont get lost/stolen.

you are engaged. wear your e-ring as you normally would. now if you normally dont wear it to bars, then take it off.

audrewuh · September 2012

For a year, my BFF would quietly slip her rings into her purse between dinner and drinks when we would go out. I didn't notice it at first and wondered why she was so flirtatious and handsy with guys at the bar. Her divorce was finalized two months ago.

FI saw all of this behavior and asked me to stop hanging out with her because of it (before they decided to get divorced). He was so upset by what she was doing, I know we would have issues if I even thought about doing that for my bach party.

brilibby4 · September 2012

Do you want to take it off so you can pretend you aren't engaged? If you feel that way then maybe you shouldn't be engaged.

hoffse · September 2012

Yeah I don't get this. I don't wear my e-ring all the time because I don't wear much jewelry on a daily basis, and sometimes I'm worried it will get damaged with cleaning products, fall down the drain, etc. I also can't sleep with it on, but that's just a quirk of mine. I do have days where I don't put it on at all, but that has nothing to do with my status... I always try to remember to put it on when I go in public. It's usually when I'm home that I leave it off. I would never purposefully leave it off for a B-party though. Besides... are you planning on wearing one of those little crowns or sashes that say "bride" on them? Because if you are, everybody will know you're engaged whether you have a ring or not.

And the whole men not wearing one is totally pointless. Most of them don't have e-rings themselves, so it's not like they've removed it to be a free agent for a night.

egeurts · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_to-wear-or-not-to-wear-the-e-ring-at-the-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0703720c-143b-4f11-8925-1298f681f932Post:c2a0436b-d91d-4c62-b271-0009e39c9c63">Re: To Wear or Not to Wear the E-Ring at the Bachelorette Party?</a>:
[QUOTE]this is about as silly to me as people that buy fake "placeholder" rings to wear on their honeymoon so theri real ones dont get lost/stolen. you are engaged. wear your e-ring as you normally would. now if you normally dont wear it to bars, then take it off.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

<div>Why are placeholder rings silly? </div><div>
</div><div>I used my honeymoon time as the week to send my e-ring and wedding band off to get soldered (soddered? spelling that word screws me up) together, and wore a different ring of mine during our honeymoon in mexico. I figured it was the best time since it was right after the wedding and needed to be done AND that way nothing could happen to my real ring, like getting lost, stolen, or broken while out of the country. But, I still wanted to look married, so I wore a "placeholder" ring. </div>

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