I have a friend, we'll call her Mary, that well is basically an "arms reach friend". I know it sounds bad but basically we maintain a friendly demeanor and get together once in a while to I guess keep up appearances (or at least I do it to keep up appearances). We used to be close but some things happened a few years ago and well pretty much I can't trust her and most of my family hates her (mom, dad, grandma especially) Not only that but her and my MOH have had it out in the past over FB so she's not a fan of Mary either. The FI thinks she's an obnoxious drama queen so that doesn't help.
So why stay friends with her you wonder? Welllll she can be fun to hang around (in small doses) but she tends to be a VERY volatile person and when she's pissed off, she tends to do things without thinking. Just for an example, her ex pissed her off - so she spray painted his new lexus... and yes she's been arrested a few times when these outbursts happen... So I guess I figure that staying friendly with her saves a lot drama and the potential of harm happening and I'm afraid of what she'll do.
I personally don't mind her coming to the wedding - like I said she can be fun, loves to dance and liven up the party. But I have the feeling that if she is there (and frankly as soon as my family sees her on the guest list) I will here nothing but grumbles and objections. And I may have to run interference between her and my MOH all night. I do not want a knock-down, drag-out fight at my reception. That and I think my MOH would be very hurt/angry that I invited her as it would be me choosing Mary's comfort and desire over hers...
So I've thought of trying the old "we're having a small wedding so there's a lot of friends that won't be invited..." line but unfortunately we have two mutual friends that I really do want there and one of those two is close with my FI too. So I kinda feel like if I try the small wedding line, I won't be able to invite those two friends without her finding out it was a lie.
I have like 7 months or so before I'll be sending out invites so it's not like going to be an issue tomorrow or anything but I have the feeling at some point it will be and I just want to have an idea of how to handle it. Do I fib about the size of the wedding? Do I ignore it unless she confronts me or do I man up and tell her straight up when I send out the invites?
