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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_aatb-post-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:caadc963-aec9-40a9-aa04-07a4a1fb749cPost:d6ee972d-3e0f-4e35-9d53-44102d0b9055">Re: AATB post 2</a>:
    [QUOTE]I also think getting upset over OB's is silly. I chat on fb and the ss place, but that has always been open to anyone who wants in.  There will always be OB's and such and there always will be.  <strong>I dont see the problem with continuing a friendship off TK with people who you like and like you.</strong>
    Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

    Well...I like them.  It remains to be seen how much they actually like me ;)

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    [QUOTE]well I think its silly for newer people to feel hurt over anything on FB or other places... you forge friendships as you go. ok I am off... dinnertime.
    Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

    And that is fine if you feel that way, but you are in a very different position than someone who just started lurking, so it may be easy for you to feel that way, but  a newb may feel very differently. KWIM?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: AATB post 2 : Well...I like them.  It remains to be seen how much they actually like me ;)
    Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

    Yeah I mean, there could be a OB to an OB ::looks around wildly and brain explodes::
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: AATB post 2 : Well...I like them.  It remains to be seen how much they actually like me ;)
    Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

    Ditto ;)
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    [QUOTE]I know a lot of people have formed friendships IRL that would continue if TK shut down tomorrow. I'm just saying that this may not make some newbs (or even those on the newb/reg borderline) feel welcome because they feel a little shut out, even if it is done unintentionally.
    Posted by allisong23[/QUOTE]

    I know I won't articulate this well, but I kind of feel that some of the newer posters see the offboard friendships that some of the veterans have forged (most over the course of months, if not <em>years</em>), and are trying to create the same thing for themselves a little too quickly.  It doesn't affect me so I don't care, really -- I guess I consider myself a bit of an outsider, insofar that I'm friendly with a lot of people but not really close to anyone -- but it<em> </em><em>is</em> kind of surreal to see people who met yesterday suddenly proclaiming their undying love for each other on the boards.  It feels forced to me.

    I think we have this thing going on where the old regs see the new regs as overeager -- attempting to forge relationships too quickly -- whereas the new regs see the old regs as kind of standoffish and occasionally judgmental because they aren't as receptive to those fast friendships.

    Then again, I could be overanalyzing and totally off base.

    Personally, I really liked SB right after the Great Migration.  It reminded me of growing up in DOD schools.  Everyone moved around so much that we all took turns being the new kid, so there was never any pressure to fit in or conform.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: AATB post 2 : And that is fine if you feel that way, but you are in a very different position than someone who just started lurking, so it may be easy for you to feel that way, but  a newb may feel very differently. KWIM?
    Posted by allisong23[/QUOTE]

    And here you have the knot evolution. I think I am going to write a manual :)
  • Celles actually means, "I make good sense" in knot language.
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    [QUOTE]I also think getting upset over OB's is silly. I chat on fb and the ss place,<strong> but that has always been open to anyone who wants in.</strong>  There will always be OB's and such and there always will be.  I dont see the problem with continuing a friendship off TK with people who you like and like you.
    Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

    Just sayin' that when the FB group was brought up a week or two ago, several people asked how to get on to it. Some people had posts in response that they were being sent the info via PM, but others  were ignored. And like I said before, I see no problem with people being friends offboard and on FB and such. I think it is actually pretty cool that people have formed such deep friendships from a freaking wedding board.
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  • Celles wins the contest today for who can read my mind. You just put into words what I think we've been talking about for days, but just couldn't articulate.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: AATB post 2 : I know I won't articulate this well, but I kind of feel that some of the newer posters see the offboard friendships that some of the veterans have forged (most over the course of months, if not years ), and are trying to create the same thing for themselves a little too quickly.  It doesn't affect me so I don't care, really -- I guess I consider myself a bit of an outsider, insofar that I'm friendly with a lot of people but not really close to anyone -- but it   is kind of surreal to see people who met yesterday suddenly proclaiming their undying love for each other on the boards.  It feels forced to me. I think we have this thing going on where the old regs see the new regs as overeager -- attempting to forge relationships too quickly -- whereas the new regs see the old regs as kind of standoffish and occasionally judgmental because they aren't as receptive to those fast friendships. Then again, I could be overanalyzing and totally off base. Personally, I really liked SB right after the Great Migration.  It reminded me of growing up in DOD schools.  Everyone moved around so much that we all took turns being the new kid, so there was never any pressure to fit in or conform.
    Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

    This exactly.  Every freaking word of it.  I think you summed it up perfectly, Celles.
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  • Celles, yes, yes, a thousand times yes.  I'm pretty damn sure that's exacty what we've all been trying to say, but a lot more...bipartisan-ly? 

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    [QUOTE]well I think its silly for newer people to feel hurt over anything on FB or other places... you forge friendships as you go. ok I am off... dinnertime.
    Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

    There's an element of personal responsibility here, too. 

    I know you guys (general you!) hate it when I talk about the Game That Shall Not Be Named, but I see this in my Game That Shall Not Be Named guild all the time.  New members come in, hang around for a couple of weeks and then leave -- complaining on their way out that they didn't make friends and felt excluded or out of place.  More often than not, these are people that never made an effort to reach out to others, even to talk in guild or voice chat, but rather expected everyone else to do the reaching.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: AATB post 2 : Just sayin' that when the FB group was brought up a week or two ago, several people asked how to get on to it. Some people had posts in response that they were being sent the info via PM, but others  were ignored. And like I said before, I see no problem with people being friends offboard and on FB and such. I think it is actually pretty cool that people have formed such deep friendships from a freaking wedding board.
    Posted by allisong23[/QUOTE]

    Hey Alli, as the point person for the FB group I am truly sorry if I missed you. There were a lot of requests and I was really busy at work. Anyway, not even sure if you were talking about me, but I do apologize if I missed you!! It was certainly not intentional.
  • Oh, hey.  I made sense.  Cool.  :)
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  • Are you trying to say you don't love me too Celles? =(

    But yeah, I definitely agree. And I'm definitely guilty of doing it. But like I said, I'm just here to make friends so I imagine I would. 

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  • Are you talking about Twister? Because I fucking hate it when I can't make friends in Twister.
  • I agree Celles, although I liked the boards a few months after the initial blow out. During the initial blow out I wasn't sure if I was liked on both boards, hated on both boards, etc and it was really annoying.
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    [QUOTE]Are you talking about Twister? Because I fucking hate it when I can't make friends in Twister.
    Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

    <div>How do you not make friends in Twister? Hands are in places, backs are bent, you're always guaranteed to make a "special" friend.</div>
  • I really don't have anything useful to add other than I genuinely think its adorable how much all posters on TK can discuss the flow of the different boards. And I mean adorable in a good way. I completely love it that people stick around :)
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  • Andplusalso, I really want to repeat that I think the friendships people have formed is really cool, and I don't think people should kill the FB group or offboards or anything else. I just wanted to give you my 'outsiders' perspective. I enjoy this board, and most of the people on it. I generally feel that if someone on here likes me, that's cool, and if not, oh well *shrugs* I generally have fun when I am on here, and I like coming here, but I won't lose sleep if someone doesn't like me.

    My post was definitely not directed at any particular person or people. It is just a general vibe I have been getting recently.
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  • FWIW, Katie, I liked you on both boards!  
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: AATB post 2 : How do you not make friends in Twister? Hands are in places, backs are bent, you're always guaranteed to make a "special" friend.
    Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

    One word. Fart. That's how.
  • Celles wins. I couldn't figure out how to say what I wanted to say, and there it is! Thank you!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: AATB post 2 : Hey Alli, as the point person for the FB group I am truly sorry if I missed you. There were a lot of requests and I was really busy at work. Anyway, not even sure if you were talking about me, but I do apologize if I missed you!! It was certainly not intentional.
    Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

    Nope, definiitely not pointing fingers at anyone. I think it was a few people sending them out from what I remember.
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  • This is a weird thread, but I'm glad it happened. I feel like people have obviously been thinking and talking about their feelings on this off the board and are getting a chance to express themselves. I don't know if there's something else that "no one wants to say," as Blue suggested, but I'd hope if there was it would be okay to just say it here.

    I agree with much of what has been said in this thread by Cew, and by Missy about the vibe being weird, and Blue about the feeling of a divide. I know I probably fall into the "elder reg" category as far as this incarnation of SB is concerned, and I would hope that I would never make someone feel like they didn't belong here. I know lately I've mentioned missing elements of the olden days, and I talk about it here because I know others miss it too, and part of me hopes we can recapture some of what made it awesome over here. It's no one's fault for anything, it just is what it is.

    Holy novel, but one more thing: Deciding to be an SBer is something that was very hard-won for many of us, and I think it can make changes in board dynamic and tone feel personal to those of us who went through it. I don't mean this in a "we had to walk uphill both ways, barefoot in the snow so that you could be here," but more like an "I remember this place before it was put together and it's near and dear to me" kind of way.



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    [QUOTE]Andplusalso, I really want to repeat that I think the friendships people have formed is really cool, and I don't think people should kill the FB group or offboards or anything else. I just wanted to give you my 'outsiders' perspective. I enjoy this board, and most of the people on it. I generally feel that if someone on here likes me, that's cool, and if not, oh well *shrugs* I generally have fun when I am on here, and I like coming here, but I won't lose sleep if someone doesn't like me. My post was definitely not directed at any particular person or people. It is just a general vibe I have been getting recently.
    Posted by allisong23[/QUOTE]

    but but, you keep me sane on the Cape board. and I heart you for it <3
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: AATB post 2 : One word. Fart. That's how.
    Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

    <div>Touché. </div>
  • Cew- you dont make friends at Twister because you keep bringing that damn dildo and scaring everyone off.
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