Travel Expenses!!

beatlesgirl25 · January 2010

I don't get the million-numbers sn. Is that your social security number? I've seen a few like this, and there's no way I'd ever be able to log in because I'd never remember all that.

nda_roxybabe · January 2010

I didn't even get my first boyfriend till I was 17 (I know, a bit behind there)

EmmaBride2B · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_travel-expenses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b26b633a-3125-45a9-b45a-8d7f25b4ddb5Post:107281e9-45b9-4210-aa24-a276eea952b7">Re: Travel Expenses!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Emma, I was thinking of a shaking/nodding of the head with snaps in a Z. uh huh, you go on girl with your bad mature self.
Posted by pooh8402[/QUOTE]

<div>Exactly. </div>

beatlesgirl25 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_travel-expenses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b26b633a-3125-45a9-b45a-8d7f25b4ddb5Post:e61c0211-ae91-46d0-a9d2-3543870cf209">Re: Travel Expenses!!</a>:
[QUOTE]I guess I was wrong! I'm actually very self sufficient and yes, I'm old enough to travel out of town without my mommy (cute). I guess I'm just a little frustrated because this is the 4th wedding I've been to for his friends and it's getting VERY expensive, since they've all been out of town. I barely know these people. geez! I'll suck it up and be a big girl. Thanks for the reality check! (PS- If I wasnt the mature, self confident woman that I am, I would have been very offended by some of your rude responses and retaliated with some equally rude comments.....but instead, I'll thank you all for the advice!)
Posted by 926225875001914[/QUOTE]

This reminds me of italythomas for some reason. She acts growner than what she is too.

kikibaby · January 2010

Eh, FWIW, when I went to FSIL's wedding in May, FI paid for the hotel. He thought it was only fair since I wouldn't have gone to Mexico if his sis hadn't been getting married there, and he wanted my company.

BUT- we usually split travel expenses 50/50.

squirrly · January 2010

The zillion numbers strings are yet another not glitch for users that weren't imported correctly in the switch.

Engaged at 17? Good for you that you walked away from that, but wow.

playtntsbpg30 · January 2010

damnn I missed this one.. seriously if you don't want to go, say no.. You're bf of over a year, invited you, and wants to split costs, clearly he knows you can afford it, and why wouldn't you want to help pay? That is just odd, say no if this is the 4th wedding and you're getting sick of it.

And as far as that reality check, welcome to the knot!!
I'm a peach so it's all good but seriously, even I wouldn't ask such a thing, he's your bf. You need to deal with him. Or just simply say no. and if there is another wedding brake up with him.

wow..

tlv204 · January 2010

I thought that the string of numbers came from creating an account without choosing your own sn? Maybe not.

thesuninherhead · January 2010

If you can't afford the travel, why accept?

And if you can't have a conversation with him about who is paying when question comes up, I suspect your issues as a couple run deeper than the travel alone.

SummerBoston10 · January 2010

I guess that my experience and take on this is a little different than others here.

My FI and I have had to go to quite a few weddings over the past two years and we have had to fly somewhere for every one of them. I paid the major travel expenses (plane and hotel) for my friends' weddings and he did the same. Both of us could afford to pay our own way but this way seems a little more "fair."

I guess the difference is that each of us offered to do that without demanding or expecting that it be done. Have you had a conversation with your boyfriend about this? Explain to him how you feel about it. If he can afford it, and he wants you there, he should offer to pay.

KnDDay · January 2010

I expressed my concern to him when he invited me to the 4th wedding (about a month ago) For the previous 3, I was more than happy to split costs with him. But it's getting a bit much. So I decided to tell him. I felt like (and still feel like) if you invite someone to an event you should pay..... for example, when MY friend gets married in November, I'll sponsor that trip.

Originally I did decline the invitation, I wasnt trying to force him to pay. I just told him that unless he had a way for me to get there, I couldnt join him.

And actually, we later agreed to rent a car and drive and since he has family in the area, we'll stay with them.

I came to this community to see if there was an etiquette rule that says if you invite someone to an out of town event, should you expect to cover their expenses as well. I guess not!

Thanks for the advice!

cbvcru67 · January 2010

My boyfriend I and subscribe to the " You invite, you pay" school of thought as well. I think sometimes married folk forget what it's like to have separate bank accounts. My bf and I make roughly the same salary - him just slightly more, so its not a case of who can or can't afford it, more like who is the most interested party.

Like a pp mentioned, if we would have no reason to go to LA except for my cousins wedding, and he wouldn't know anyone else, of course Ill offer to pay - for both of us. Now, maybe he will decide he wants ot be a gentleman and impress my dad and pay for the whole thing anyways, but for the record I tried. When we go back to visit my family, I always try to pay - why, because no one would suffer that kind of crazy by their own choosing.

But obviously you two havent agreed to that yet - if ever. Tell him how you feel. The more serious you get, the more intertwined your money will eventually become.

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