FFF/LFF

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:d8e5aaf1-9350-4549-8ef0-018f4ea63663">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : I agree with this. I could be wrong but, I thought a bridal shower was to shower you with gifts? What's the point of having a part if you don't open your gifts and thank your guests.
Posted by steign[/QUOTE]

To spend time with your guests. The point of the shower like this to spend more time with hanging out your guests not opening presents.

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:d62356a1-1438-4587-acbb-a98ab10a16b0">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm a little late on this one but.. Oh no she didn't just diss upstate New York! ::head weave::
Posted by PreDempsey[/QUOTE]

Excuse me... where did I say i HATED upstate NY? I said upstate depends on downstate's revenue.. which it does. I lived upstate for 5 years. I had to move back downstate for work. I would go back upstate in a heartbeat if I could get work.

Wow.

KnotIrene · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : WHAT HAVE I SAID TO YOU THAT WAS RUDE PERSONALLY REGARDING YOU? MAYBE YOU THINK MY IDEAS ARE RUDE, FINE, BUT I HAVE NEVER SAID ANYTHING RUDE ABOUT YOU. AT LEAST IF YOU CAME TO WEDDING I WOULD BE NICE TO YOU. YOU SEEM LIKE A REALLY INSECURE PERSON.
Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

<div>Just in case you didn't know, typing in all caps is considered yelling and no one likes to be yelled at. Thanks.</div>

Sara G to be · March 2013

I flame people who make posts about FIL's financial situations. It is none of your buisness, or ours. You should just be worried about things you can control.

steign · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:15ae1c04-ebf4-4a1f-80ff-6e0d194c4a98">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : To spend time with your guests. The point of the shower like this to spend more time with hanging out your guests not opening presents.
Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

<img id="irc_mi" style="margin-top:84px;" src="http://i43.tinypic.com/4k77zr.gif" alt="" width="300" height="225" />

Um, okay. Literally every shower I've been to takes less than an hour to open gifts. Considering most showers are anywhere from 3-4 hours this still leaves plenty of time to mingle with your guests and hang out. Granted I haven't been to a huge extravagent shower like some of the other ladies have been but, I find it hard to believe you wouldn't find adequate time to speak with your guests.

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:9f100548-a886-4290-9b6b-57d5203a8e09">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : What you are describing is a bridal lucheon, not a shower. A luncheon is fine, but don't call it a shower when it is a different type of party.
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

Fine then. It's a luncheon. I don't need to be flamed because you all don't agree with it. I want to hang out with my guests- not waste an hour opening presents.

I never said it is the right way. It is the way I am doing MINE. I never said anyone should do it this way. It might be a luncheon, I was not aware there were seperate terms- but my mom send out the invites and she called it a shower. That is not my fault.

This is becoming more and more common with "luncheons" (showers) now a days. It's a very new concept.

lilphillips14 · March 2013

I LFF Liatris for putting me in her signature and allowing me to totally be a secret AW.

Also, I flame anyone who types in all caps.

misshart00 · March 2013

In Response to Re:FFF/LFF:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF:In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : What you are describing is a bridal lucheon, not a shower. A luncheon is fine, but don't call it a shower when it is a different type of party.Posted by Liatris2010Fine then. It's a luncheon. I don't need to be flamed because you all don't agree with it. I want to hang out with my guests not waste an hour opening presents. I never said it is the right way. It is the way I am doing MINE. I never said anyone should do it this way. It might be a luncheon, I was not aware there were seperate terms but my mom send out the invites and she called it a shower. That is not my fault.This is becoming more and more common with "luncheons" showers now a days. It's a very new concept. Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

Honeymoon registries are a new concept too. It doesn't make them a less inconsiderate.

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:038de2a7-ec0e-43b6-95f9-be5753c0b15d">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : Um, okay. Literally every shower I've been to takes less than an hour to open gifts. Considering most showers are anywhere from 3-4 hours this still leaves plenty of time to mingle with your guests and hang out. Granted I haven't been to a huge extravagent shower like some of the other ladies have been but, I find it hard to believe you wouldn't find adequate time to speak with your guests.
Posted by steign[/QUOTE]

I have 3 families. I am having 80 people at my shower. I do not want to spend all the time opening presents when it can be spent hanging out with them. What is so rude about that?

AddieCake · March 2013

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[QUOTE]I don't like to interrupt, but I'd like to request that you please just focus flames (unless they're LFFs) on ideas not people. Thanks.
Posted by Knot Irene[/QUOTE]

Can we still link the threads the ideas are in?

steign · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : I will have 3 families when I am married. I am having 80 people at my shower. I don't want to waste timer opening presents when I can be hanging out with them.
Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

So what is the point of the shower then if all you're doing is hanging out with them? Like I said earlier isn't it to SHOWER you with gifts?

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:11cc1d29-be45-4489-8bd6-d6c43183ca9c">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : So what is the point of the shower then if all you're doing is hanging out with them? Like I said earlier isn't it to SHOWER you with gifts?
Posted by steign[/QUOTE]

To get everyone together and shower me with well wishes. People come b/c they care about the bride. The gifts shouldn't the center of it.

Maybe a luncheon is a better term but my mom called it a shower on the invite so I can't do much about that. I'll call it a "luncheon" if you all prefer.

KnotIrene · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:848ac94f-a363-49df-8418-a66c2b027bc2">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : Can we still link the threads the ideas are in?
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]
Yes,

AddieCake · March 2013

I don't get the spending time with guests INSTEAD of opening gifts argument. Every shower I have been to, those 2 things have happened simultaneously. The bride has always chatted and visited with all of us as she opens her gifts.

rachelm13 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:3093172e-b40b-4352-8107-9625598b6a99">Re:FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF: Why I it that just because she is uncomfortable with something, suddenly no one can do it? And I hate that she always brings up how Long Island is 'different.' Basically saying that weddings there are the only proper way. Now I'm just getting nit picky, but I really can't stand her attitude.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

I am getting married on LI... My FI is from LI, I have never heard of the not opening the shower gifts thing or a few of the things she mentions, but, I also never heard of a dollar dance before joining TK.

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:9ae5e1e7-a9df-4379-b8bd-0686b9ded7b9">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't get the spending time with guests INSTEAD of opening gifts argument. Every shower I have been to, those 2 things have happened simultaneously. The bride has always chatted and visited with all of us as she opens her gifts.
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

ok.. were there 80 people there? If I opened 80 plus gifts at my shower that would be cutting into a lot of time hanging out with my guests.

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:ea3b7360-cbfc-43b1-8278-a5460f64a312">Re:FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF : I am getting married on LI... My FI is from LI, I have never heard of the not opening the shower gifts thing or a few of the things she mentions, but, I also never heard of a dollar dance before joining TK.
Posted by rachelm13[/QUOTE]

It is new. Within the last year or so people have started doing it more and more.

KnotIrene · March 2013

Isn't this horse dead yet?

ETA Just so no one misunderstands, I mean the horse in the shower.

misshart00 · March 2013

In Response to Re:FFF/LFF:[QUOTE]I don't get the spending time with guests INSTEAD of opening gifts argument. Every shower I have been to, those 2 things have happened simultaneously. The bride has always chatted and visited with all of us as she opens her gifts. Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

Yep. This. Owningahome, did your mom put registry information on the invite? Between calling it a shower and including that info, I would say its definitely about the gifts.

staar987 · March 2013

LFF to PreDempsey for giving me my first LFF!

I flame all the BSC posts this week. I think they've all been mentioned at this point. After reading through all of those posts during the week, I was wondering "Is this real life?"

lilphillips14 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]Isn't this horse dead yet? ETA Just so no one misunderstands, I mean the horse in the shower.
Posted by Knot Irene[/QUOTE]

<div><img style="-webkit-user-select:none;" src="http://awesomegifs.com/wp-content/uploads/dead-horse.gif" alt="" /></div><div>
</div><div>Have to be sure about it!</div>

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF: Yep. This. Owningahome, did your mom put registry information on the invite? Between calling it a shower and including that info, I would say its definitely about the gifts.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

No registry info but she did put a link to our website which has registry info.

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : Just in case you didn't know, typing in all caps is considered yelling and no one likes to be yelled at. Thanks.
Posted by Knot Irene[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry. That really wasn't intentional. I realised it and took it off, my apologies.

ladytori · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF : It is new. Within the last year or so people have started doing it more and more.
Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

I disagree. Just because it's a new trend doesn't mean it is right.

One of the newest trends is sending out "you are not invited" cards. Would you send these cards out to guests who not invited since it's a new trend? Any gracious brides' and grooms' answer should be no.

Why wouldn't you open your gifts at a shower when your guests spent so much time and money on them? Giving the excuse of "this is the newest trend" doesn't make this proper etiquette.

kmbryant2413 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF : I disagree. Just because it's a new trend doesn't mean it is right. One of the newest trends is sending out "you are not invited" cards. Would you send these cards out to guests who not invited since it's a new trend? Any gracious brides' and grooms' answer should be no. Why wouldn't you open your gifts at a shower when your guests spent so much time and money on them? Giving the excuse of "this is the newest trend" doesn't make this proper etiquette.
Posted by ladytori[/QUOTE]

<div>She's going to do what she's going to do, and that is all there is to it. She's made it clear at this point, so there's no sense in trying to beat it into her skull. Some people just want to be rude.</div>

OwningAHome1981 · March 2013

Where did i say it was proper etiquette? Please show me.

PrettyGirlLost · March 2013

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[QUOTE]Isn't this horse dead yet? ETA Just so no one misunderstands, I mean the horse in the shower.
Posted by Knot Irene[/QUOTE]

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steign · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF : It is new. Within the last year or so people have started doing it more and more.
Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

I've never heard of it and I would think it'd odd if I went to a shower and just chatted with the bride to be.

Do what you want though.

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kmbryant2413 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF : I've never heard of it and I would think it'd odd if I went to a shower and just chatted with the bride to be. Do what you want though.
Posted by steign[/QUOTE]

<div>You win the internets today, steign!</div>

KnotIrene · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : 400 × 268 - dreamstime.com
Posted by cmsciulli[/QUOTE]

<div>You are too funny! Love it!</div>

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