ceremony invites VS reception invites

Re: ceremony invites VS reception invites

• aleighk1

  

  May 2011

  You either need to cut your guest list down to 100 people or find a bigger venue. 

  
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• thesequel

  

  May 2011

  You don't have tiered weddings.  

  
  

  Basically you are saying you are good enough to buy us a gift, but not see us get married.  

  
  

  Reduce your list to 100.

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  May 2011

  My only advice is cut the ceremony guest list to only immediate family *maybe* add in aunts/uncles.

  
  

  Then have everyone else come to the reception..

  
  

  I've been invited to 2 such weddings (both of which I've had to fly to) and I have not been offended.

  
  

  guests are more understanding when it's a 25/75 ratio ceremony to reception.  If it's 73/25 ceremony they are less likely to understand.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• LP11509 member

  

  May 2011

  I agree with PPs that you need to either cut the ceremony to immediate family only, or find a new ceremony site.  If I was one of only a few guests not invited to the ceremony, I'd honestly be a little offended.  But if the ceremony was literally only immediate family, I'd be much more understanding. 

  

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• emyinpink

  

  May 2011

  I wouldn't be offended if it was just family only. We went to a wedding where there was a chapel on the bride's parents' property. It was big enough to fit all of the guests inside, so we had to stand outside with the rest of the "non-important" guests. Honestly, I would have much preferred she just did immediate family only for the ceremony, and has us come for the reception.

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• XCaribeans member

  

  May 2011

  Thanks for the feed back, we will probably just do immidiate family for the ceremony. i wanted something small and private anyhow... its just sooo hard to not offend people now a days. specially in the giant family i have. but i'm sure they will be understanding.

  

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• J&K10910 member

  

  May 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ceremony-invites-vs-reception-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ce9e0741-dfd1-489a-8019-fd2dc2101764Post:58be69c5-7536-4023-9c27-d488259fcbc4">Re: ceremony invites VS reception invites</a>:
  [QUOTE]Thanks for the feed back, we will probably just do immidiate family for the ceremony. i wanted something small and private anyhow... its just sooo hard to not offend people now a days. specially in the giant family i have. but i'm sure they will be understanding. :)
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  So if you do that, then I'd just make the invitations for the reception, and put an insert with the ceremony info in the invites for immediate family.

  
  
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