tossing glitter

abouttime915 · December 2010

Honestly, I agree with her on this one being unconstructive and mean spirited. Don't know the girl, but perhaps the "rain on my parade" comment was not meant to be taken quite so seriously. It got a little ugly after she said that...and I think that unfortunatley online comments can be taken out of context. We are all brides to be just trying to create the day of our dreams...can't we all just get along and live by the saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"? Constructive comments were asked for and received...but a few of those jabs were unnecessary in my opinion.

abouttime915 · December 2010

"So sorry. I suppose everyone should have written, "Wonderful idea. Because it's your special day nobody is going to care that they will be digging glitter out of places glitter should never be. The venue won't care that they won't be able to clean up the mess and the reception hall won't care that glitter is going to be all over their site because it will be all over you, the WP and the guests. Who cares if a glob of it gets a little slick and great aunt Betty falls and fractures her hip. Glitter in the eyes? Hell, everyone should know to bring eye wash to a wedding. All that matters is that your pictures look great."

This is the one I thought was uncalled for and took the post to an ugly place. Could have just said, like others did, the venue may not allow it and the guests may have a hard time getting it out of clothes/hair/etc. "All that matters is that your pictures look great...not classy at all and very mean.

huney_bunches2003 · December 2010

glitter is really hard to get rid of and both you and your venue might regret this decision. A close alternative would be to get metallic confetti to throw.

MrMrsE · December 2010

I honestly know at least 2 people who have a phobia of glitter and will fight anyone who intentionally uses it knowing they don't like it. That being said, it would throw the lighting off in your pictures as well if you are doing an afternoon wedding. BUT if you want something like that, maybe shiny confetti? It's larger, easier to clean up, and doesn't usually stick to people, and maybe in little paper cones so your guests don't have to touch it and run the risk of it getting stuck to their hands.

usasynchrokate · December 2010

try throwing sequins:)

eng1203 · December 2010

Maybe sequins would be just as effective and not as difficult to clean up or wash off?!?!

courtney1188 · December 2010

Lots of venues don't allow glitter, mine doesn't because they said it's a pain to clean up, ends up everywhere (usually even in the food!), and if it's wet outside at all bigger pieces can cause people to slip.

And no one was really mean until you got all mad that no one liked your idea.

Scuttlekid · December 2010

Stop blaming everyone for "ruining your experience." You post an idea publicly, you may get opinions you don't like. NO ONE was giving you attitude- not anyone posted here, nor any made up posts you allegedly deleted. They were just disagreeing with you and you took it offensively. Grow up.

BethanyRB1216 · December 2010

Thanks for raining on my parade...
Posted by nallm1

I know how you feel - I posted one question on a message board and every single reply went along the lines of "No! Don't do it! That's a terrible idea ad your guests will hate you!" I don't know why, but every bride-to-be was very negative and not one bit helpful.

So here is my helpful advice: first, as some people have suggested, check with your location to see what can and can't be thrown. Then, if you are allowed to throw small particles, maybe think of confetti as an alternative to glitter. Confetti comes in a large variety of sizes, shapes, and colors and would give you the sparkle you are looking for. And it is much easier to brush off of your gown, face, and hair than microscopic glitter.

I'm thinking about having my guests throw paper airplanes - they'll be super easy to clean up afterwards and I think they will make for cheerful pictures.

mklanich · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tossing-glitter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:0bc7cbd5-d2f6-4d5e-895d-96f4c1d674f3Post:e3eae19f-20a9-41cc-9766-06a557b32581">Re: tossing glitter</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for raining on my parade... Posted by nallm1 I know how you feel - I posted one question on a message board and every single reply went along the lines of "No! Don't do it! That's a terrible idea ad your guests will hate you!" I don't know why, but every bride-to-be was very negative and not one bit helpful. So here is my helpful advice: first, as some people have suggested, check with your location to see what can and can't be thrown. Then, if you are allowed to throw small particles, maybe think of confetti as an alternative to glitter. Confetti comes in a large variety of sizes, shapes, and colors and would give you the sparkle you are looking for. And it is much easier to brush off of your gown, face, and hair than microscopic glitter. I'm thinking about having my guests throw paper airplanes - they'll be super easy to clean up afterwards and I think they will make for cheerful pictures.
Posted by BethanyRB1216[/QUOTE]

Great advice. Definitely check with the venue to see what is okay and what isn't. I know confetti or rice like things aren't allowed for mine. Stinks but oh well I guess.

And I think the paper airplanes idea is way cute, Hadn't heard of it really before! Hope it looks awesome for ya!

jlrowell · December 2010

you could get the confetti launchers that are metallic- at my graduation they gave us the confetti sticks so we wouldnt throw our hats and it was so pretty underneath - you couldnt see past the confetti and it was so beautiful and the pieces are big enough to not get stuck on clothes and in hair, but still has a glittery effect

trix1223 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tossing-glitter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:0bc7cbd5-d2f6-4d5e-895d-96f4c1d674f3Post:e3eae19f-20a9-41cc-9766-06a557b32581">Re: tossing glitter</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for raining on my parade... Posted by nallm1 I know how you feel - I posted one question on a message board and every single reply went along the lines of "No! Don't do it! That's a terrible idea ad your guests will hate you!" I don't know why, but every bride-to-be was very negative and not one bit helpful. So here is my helpful advice: first, as some people have suggested, check with your location to see what can and can't be thrown. Then, if you are allowed to throw small particles, maybe think of confetti as an alternative to glitter. Confetti comes in a large variety of sizes, shapes, and colors and would give you the sparkle you are looking for. And it is much easier to brush off of your gown, face, and hair than microscopic glitter. I'm thinking about having my guests throw paper airplanes - they'll be super easy to clean up afterwards and I think they will make for cheerful pictures.
Posted by BethanyRB1216[/QUOTE]

You do understand that sometimes, the correct answer IS "No, don't do that. It's a bad idea", right? Sometimes we have to tell children "No" and they throw tantrums because they REEEEEAALLLY wanted to do **whatever**.

But as experienced people, we know better. Start to understand the difference between blunt advice and being "mean".

reason00 · December 2010

I'm extremely easy-going...and I appreciate all aspects of everyone's choice in wedding-related stuff...but...as a guest, I think I would be a little bit pissed off if someone threw glitter all over me and my fancy clothing. My date (fiance) wouldn't appreciate looking like a twilight vampire, either.

I was also going to recommend those little metalic foil papers, too. Like confetti.

Another thing...just in case you didn't know, glitter is usually made of glass or metal. So you can see the concern with the eyeballs is a bit more than just dust in the eyes.

I think my venue would fire me as a customer if I used glitter for anything. Wedding over.

beckyjotucker · December 2010

I completely agree with this. Some comments are unnessessary and mean-spiritied. It's fine to give your opinion but there is no need to be sarcastic.

I actually like the glitter idea, it seems like it would be kind of cool. And if it was outside, the mess would not be as big of an issue.

flerlgirl · December 2010

My fiance got a card from his boss in late NOVEMBER that had glitter on it. I just saw another piece of glitter on his cheek yesterday. It's never-ending.

asmaruszewski · December 2010

She probably blocked the ones that she found embarassing or rude...you can do that.

Confetti/confetti poppers are a good alternative to the glitter...at the end of the day its your wedding, do what you want.

asmaruszewski · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tossing-glitter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:0bc7cbd5-d2f6-4d5e-895d-96f4c1d674f3Post:db484c22-bfb7-4d95-95c3-070058aab6f6">Re: tossing glitter</a>:
[QUOTE]Honestly, I agree with her on this one being unconstructive and mean spirited. Don't know the girl, but perhaps the "rain on my parade" comment was not meant to be taken quite so seriously. It got a little ugly after she said that...and I think that unfortunatley online comments can be taken out of context. We are all brides to be just trying to create the day of our dreams...can't we all just get along and live by the saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"? Constructive comments were asked for and received...but a few of those jabs were unnecessary in my opinion.
Posted by abouttime915[/QUOTE]

Agreed!

asmaruszewski · December 2010

Here is another option...

http://www.chicoparty.com/Just-Married-Confetti.aspx

GOOGLE metalic wedding confetti...it is another great option instead of the glitter.

Just look at all of your options, you have PLENTY of time!

trix1223 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tossing-glitter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:0bc7cbd5-d2f6-4d5e-895d-96f4c1d674f3Post:40539191-17f7-47a7-ae92-9fb2d3d27d4d">Re: tossing glitter</a>:
[QUOTE]I completely agree with this. Some comments are unnessessary and mean-spiritied. It's fine to give your opinion but there is no need to be sarcastic. I actually like the glitter idea, it seems like it would be kind of cool. And if it was outside, the mess would not be as big of an issue.
Posted by beckyjotucker[/QUOTE]

Being outside doesn't change the fact that glitter sticks to hair spray, perspiration, clothing, shoes, etc. It goes down the bodice of the bride's dress. It sticks to the bouquets and then is carried elsewhere. It's tracked into people's cars and the next venue via shoes.

It gets in eyes, ears, noses, and mouths. Thowing glitter is just a terrible idea, inside or outside.

And I work in a church. If someone threw glitter outside of our church~on our sidewalks, there would be unhappiness. It doesn't just sweep away. It's a mess to clean up. A mess.

Tell you what. Go to your nearest craft store. Buy a tube of glitter. Pour a handful into your hand. Now try to throw it~up in the air please. Stand under it as it comes down.

Now look at the hand holding it. I promise you that it's still covered in glitter. And then go look in a mirror. You'll have glitter everywhere on you. And now look at the carpet that you walked on to get the mirror. And the floor where you're standing. There will be glitter everywhere.

Yes, reception venues will be very, very happy with glitter all the freak over their venue.

Beachy730 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tossing-glitter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:0bc7cbd5-d2f6-4d5e-895d-96f4c1d674f3Post:c090de66-253a-4b06-8756-da00603c9d31">Re: tossing glitter</a>:
[QUOTE]She probably blocked the ones that she found embarassing or rude...you can do that. Confetti/confetti poppers are a good alternative to the glitter...at the end of the day its your wedding, do what you want.
Posted by asmaruszewski[/QUOTE]

You can block them on your own computer, you can't block them to everyone one. So her reasoning would still be a moot point because the rest of us can see every post. Only a mod can delete other people's posts, and as there is no mod on this board, it didn't happen.

WTH is with the huge of influx of newbs coming in telling us how mean we are? Toss glitter at your wedding, and let us know how the venue and your guests react. if you don't like the advice you found on this thread, I highyl suggest trying weddingwire.com or another site, or sticking to your month boards, because clearly getting sensible and helpful advice isn't your thing.

JloveB · December 2010

try party streamers... you can have really shiny small ones that people throw or you can have big ones taped to sticks that they can wave at you...you can buy some that have sparkle if you still want the spakle effect...that way streamers are easier to clean up ...lots of places don't allow you to have glitter and like it has been said...glitter is bad ideal.

JloveB · December 2010

http://www.squidoo.com/use-streamers-at-wedding

here is a site with streamers to give you an ideal.... good luck on your planning.

tldh · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tossing-glitter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:0bc7cbd5-d2f6-4d5e-895d-96f4c1d674f3Post:f5e88dcb-e614-4aa2-9183-51a6f3d1f268">Re: tossing glitter</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: tossing glitter : You can block them on your own computer, you can't block them to everyone one. So her reasoning would still be a moot point because the rest of us can see every post. Only a mod can delete other people's posts, and as there is no mod on this board, it didn't happen. WTH is with the huge of influx of newbs coming in telling us how mean we are? Toss glitter at your wedding, and let us know how the venue and your guests react. if you don't like the advice you found on this thread, I highyl suggest trying weddingwire.com or another site, or sticking to your month boards, because clearly getting sensible and helpful advice isn't your thing.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

The point of my "sarcastic" posts.

dnbeach, it's happening all over the boards and is getting really annoying. If the newer ones would lurk, they'd see nobody pulls out the sarcasm until somebody starts stomping their foot.

Folks, none of us know you and we aren't emotionally invested in your feelings. When we tell you something is a bad idea, it's because we're looking at it from a point of view other than the bride's. In this case, we are looking at it from the view of the ceremony and reception site owners, your BP, your officiant, your guests, pretty much everyone but you. Don't complain that we are raining on your parade or being mean. We're trying to stop you from making the yourself the example your guests will use when telling future brides what not to do.

asmaruszewski · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tossing-glitter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:0bc7cbd5-d2f6-4d5e-895d-96f4c1d674f3Post:f5e88dcb-e614-4aa2-9183-51a6f3d1f268">Re: tossing glitter</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: tossing glitter : You can block them on your own computer, you can't block them to everyone one. So her reasoning would still be a moot point because the rest of us can see every post. Only a mod can delete other people's posts, and as there is no mod on this board, it didn't happen. WTH is with the huge of influx of newbs coming in telling us how mean we are? Toss glitter at your wedding, and let us know how the venue and your guests react. if you don't like the advice you found on this thread, I highyl suggest trying weddingwire.com or another site, or sticking to your month boards, because clearly getting sensible and helpful advice isn't your thing.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

Did not realize...I figured blocking the post on the forum would block it completely. Now I know!

She's also just starting her planning (I assume) so she's tossing ideas around. And she might not have found a venue yet so she probably can't check first. I'm thinking she might have been looking for "while it would be pretty think logistically. It gets every where blah blah" and then "try these options instead etc"...she got those later on but in the beginning she got all DO NOT DO THIS!!! I understand both sides of this as I don't think glitter is the best option and since she's early on in her planning, she might have been taken back a bit. I am only assuming this as I don't know her, but when ppl poo poo'd my ideas in the beginning stages I got defensive as well.

MattandTracy82910 · December 2010

It's always interesting which boards turn into a big heated debate that started over a simple question...

I think the whole sensitivity is just based on how the opinion comes out- if your boss were asking the same question about using glitter at the holiday party would you say "no no no this is a terrible idea and if you do it the whole office will be talking behind your back about how much they hated it for years to come?" -probably not- you would probably say - Ok I understand you want it shiny and sparkly but there are a few concerns with using glitter such as it is made out of glass/metal that could be a health risk if somehow got in someone's eye, and the venue may not appreciate the clean up involved or even allow it so what if we used confetti or something else that sparkles instead?

I agree everyone who posts on here wants opinions I think they are just hoping the opinions would come with a little more respect (which I think quite a few of the original posts were- stated the potential negatives of using glitter then offered alternatives). I just think everyone wants their day to be beautiful and like one of the PP mentioned you get stuck on the photos and a month after you've had the idea you realize logistically it probably wouldn't work but that first time you see the picture excitement rules out logic.

As far as the question/post itself- on confetti the only hesitation on that would be if it's outside in the heat/humidity- a few times we used it for sporting events and it stuck just as bad as glitter did because of all the sweat/dew in the air. The streamer idea others have mentioned could be really pretty. Also I thought the picture of the rose petals looked really pretty as well. I'm hoping for the whole sparkler idea personally but it would be after the reception when it's dark out (that's still an I'm in love with a photo I saw and can't decide if it will actually work out logistically).

aerinpegadrak · December 2010

I have a personal investment in phrasing something diplomatically when it's my boss's suggestion. I have no such investment in strangers on the internet. There are other sites out there that will hold your hand and sugarcoat things for you, but frankly if you're mature enough to be getting married, you should be mature enough to handle blunt honesty. I was told during my planning that a lot of my ideas were flat-out bad. I didn't pout or cry about it, I just reassessed things and kept going, and I think my wedding was much better for the input that I got.

MattandTracy82910 · December 2010

I just find it interesting that it seems as though unless someone has something vested in it (a job and being respectful to a boss) he or she would rather be rude and sarcastic in responding to someone's idea than just being polite in giving feedback. Blunt honesty does not equate to being harsh. And as I stated before I think many of the responses did exactly that- stated that the idea probably isn't as great as it sounds and offered alternatives and when the OP seemed to take offense instead of offering up other ideas and explaining why the glitter may not work many people just started attacking for taking offense to it. Some people are more sensitive than others but who am I to judge or criticize someone for taking offense to something that I wouldn't have.

I just don't get why some people choose to be so harsh and sarcastic with their words when they can get the exact same point across in a friendly manner - especially when it is on the internet- would you be so harsh with your words to the person if you were speaking face to face or would you try to be a little more tactful in your approach. (This is meant at no one directly just an observation on various boards in general- not just TK)

I just think weddings are such a beautfiul joyous occassion surrounded by love and I try to keep that in mind when I read someone's post that sounds ridiculous- in her mind it's gorgeous so I'll be blunt in that I would not do the same and list the reasons as to why but I will try to leave the sarcasm and jabs behind. Or if enough people have said it's a bad idea I won't bother commenting at all.

candie&blake · December 2010

if you thought it was such a great idea why did you ask?
you apparantly have reservations on the glitter idea so go with your instinct of it not being such a great idea, im sure you were just wanting your fh to be involved a little bit more by taking his ideas, which is great! not all ideas are winners! good luck

Beachy730 · December 2010

I was just asked the same question on another board yesterday. I don't have balls only because I'm hiding on the internet, I will say the same thing to someone's face. I am very blunt and honest, and most people appreciate that. If a friend told me that she wanted her guests to throw glitter at her on her wedding day, I would tell her the same things we told the OP. And if she said I rained on her parade, I would go buy glitter and throw it at her and prove my point.

As aerin said, of course I'm going to be nicer to my boss because there is a whole lot riding on that. Strangers on the internet have no control over my financial security or whether or not I'll be receiving a paycheck.

And most people started out nice and gave reasons why it was a bad idea. But when an OP comes back to argue her idea after being told by everyone that it's a bad idea, then it's just plan annoying.

aerinpegadrak · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_tossing-glitter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:0bc7cbd5-d2f6-4d5e-895d-96f4c1d674f3Post:560d2a12-ac73-4604-9f24-14e2ffaa7c1f">Re: tossing glitter</a>:
[QUOTE]I just find it interesting that it seems as though unless someone has something vested in it (a job and being respectful to a boss) he or she would rather be rude and sarcastic in responding to someone's idea than just being polite in giving feedback. Blunt honesty does not equate to being harsh. And as I stated before I think many of the responses did exactly that- stated that the idea probably isn't as great as it sounds and offered alternatives and when the OP seemed to take offense instead of offering up other ideas and explaining why the glitter may not work many people just started attacking for taking offense to it. Some people are more sensitive than others but who am I to judge or criticize someone for taking offense to something that I wouldn't have. I just don't get why some people choose to be so harsh and sarcastic with their words when they can get the exact same point across in a friendly manner - especially when it is on the internet- would you be so harsh with your words to the person if you were speaking face to face or would you try to be a little more tactful in your approach. (This is meant at no one directly just an observation on various boards in general- not just TK) I just think weddings are such a beautfiul joyous occassion surrounded by love and I try to keep that in mind when I read someone's post that sounds ridiculous- in her mind it's gorgeous so I'll be blunt in that I would not do the same and list the reasons as to why but I will try to leave the sarcasm and jabs behind. Or if enough people have said it's a bad idea I won't bother commenting at all.
Posted by MattandTracy82910[/QUOTE]
By all means, you can continue to type wordy, roundabout novels that bury your main point beneath a wall of text that people will just skim if that's what floats your boat. But it's quite presumptuous to come in as a brand new poster and tell everyone else how they should be doing things. If you don't like the vibe here, you're welcome to go elsewhere. It's not going to change for you.

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