The responses to this were somewhat divided, and I was curious about what all of you thought:
At this time in my life I dont know who else to turn to discuss this and I'm hoping you ladies would be willing to give your two-cents ...
H and I are living with my parents to save $$ for our own house. We've been looking and I contact a company for a preapproval on a mortgage, to make a long story short - on the credit report they found my H has a mortgage in foreclosure. H admitted to it and said he had been meaning to tell me btu did not know it was going into foreclosure (he had signed his parents' mortgage for them a few years ago)...
Met with a lawyer today, and bascially the ILs are so far into the foreclosure there isn't much we can do to save ourselves (well more so, my H). To protect our assets they need to be transferred to my name. Once the home is sold (we are pushing ILs to agree to this) it is likely a deficiency judgment will be made against my H to cover the remaining cost to the mortgage company they don't get from the sale, meaning they will garnish my H's wages - ultimately leaving H and I to live on my income alone.
Not only do I feel betrayed that H and his family never told me any of this prior to our marriage or anything ... but I also feel a huge black cloud over H and I for quite some time (10 years? due to credit).... How will we ever move forward in life ... How will we ever get a home of our own ... be able to afford starting a family ....
My parents feel it isn't in my best interest to stay with H due to deception of this information and the way he doesn't quite stand up for himself, show ability/motivation/determination to move forward in life start a family, have a house, etc. etc.
I dont' know what to feel ... one hand I'm super pissed and ready to boot him, next minute I feel it isn't entirely his faul he didnt ask Qs and he was just being nice signing the mortgage blah blah ....
Two-cents from anyone?
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Now, nighttime Knotties, remember, this is something I copied and pasted from another board. I do NOT have a husband who has a house in foreclosure, or parents who are advising me to divorce my husband for any reason. If you respond to the original post here, then the woman who is having this problem will never, ever see your pearls of wisdom. In order to grace her life with your advice, you will need to post here:
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/60716579.aspx
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All right, now tell me your opinion.