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NWR: Giving used gifts

What is the etiquette on giving used items?

My situation:  Books are a huge thing in my family, every birthday and Christmas my mom (and now me too, since I'm old/have enough money to give gifts) get the gift reciever a book.  For special occasions, they are always new books.  But, I also tend to give books for occasions that don't usually require gifts.  Like, a little get well basket with flowers and a book, or for a new mom, a favorite children's book and outfit for the baby plus a freezer ready casserole or gift certificate for delivery.  For these situations I tend to give used books, especially if they are the type of book you read once then you're done with, not a book you cherish.  

Is this okay?  Should I always be giving new books?  
I like giving (and the people I give books to like getting) books, and it has never mattered to me if it is new or used, but I don't want to do something that is not up to etiquette standard.

Re: NWR: Giving used gifts

  • If it's between family members, I don't think it's a problem - but I wouldn't give a used gift to friends or aquaintances.  
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  • I think it's fine between close friends too, as long as the book is in good condition. But I love gettin the books, so I don't really care if they're used.
  • I'm going to say that it depends on the person. Like pp, I love books and I dont' care if they're used or previously owned or whatever. But some people might.
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  • Personally, I wouldn't give a used book as a gift.  To me, that's just something you pass on for friends/family to read.

  •  I "pass along" used books all the time. But if it was an actual gift, then I would give a new book.  A "get well basket" or something for a new mom, I would consider a "gift."  I think in Stage's situation, used books are fine because they are out of print.  
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  • So here's the weird thing: I wouldn't think twice about giving a gift I purchased at a used book store.  I buy my dad books at used book stores pretty frequently.  But I would feel weird pulling a book off my shelf and giving it as a gift.  I lend books to family frequently; and frankly most of the time I don't particularly care if I get it back, but I wouldn't characterize it as a gift. Bit of a double standard I guess... 
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