Interesting blog

ricksang · March 2010

It's by the OP if anyone is bored

http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/34000191.aspx

Can I just say that the mistress in this situation is a huge c#nt. The blogger handles herself well.

CaptiolBride · March 2010

I'm reading it now... wow......sad huh? and yeah, I'm bored too

ricksang · March 2010

I should be studying but meh lol! It is sad amd she seems to be blaming the mistress more than her douchy husband.

btrflykate1230 · March 2010

Wow. (I should be paper writing). I can't get over how strong she was, when that woman told her all the dirty little details. I would not have been able to be that level headed.

CaptiolBride · March 2010

yeah it is sad... I just sat here and read like 4 of the post... wow, I can't even imagine her pain but the husband is definately the only person she should be angry at. He is the only one who made a promise to her. DAMNIT Ricksang... I should be working... but noooo, you;ve got me hooked on this soap opera!!!

laurenclaire1386 · March 2010

How horrible for her. I get wanting to write as a way to keep sane, but I don't know that I'd be airing my dirty laundry all over the internet. This whole thing is really sad. Cheating in a marriage is one of those oh my god I can't even imagine something so terrible things. I really have little to no sympathy for people who cheat in a marriage.

ricksang · March 2010

Hahaha look at all of us procrastinating. School work just is not fun!

Yeah, I think my temper would get the best of me and I don't even have a bad temper! Meanwhile her recipes look delish!

ricksang · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_interesting-blog?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:28428113-c76b-4e9b-b522-b00aed5cdedfPost:ec5938c0-d5d4-41ef-9bef-c07cb4eca089">Re: Interesting blog</a>:
[QUOTE]How horrible for her. I get wanting to write as a way to keep sane, but I don't know that I'd be airing my dirty laundry all over the internet. This whole thing is really sad. Cheating in a marriage is one of those oh my god I can't even imagine something so terrible things. I really have little to no sympathy for people who cheat in a marriage.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

I know AND there are pictures of them and her son in her blog. I bet old dude is going to get the old evil eye in his area a lot more lol!

AmoroAgain · March 2010

Ya know. I would have kicked him in the balls (with steel toed boots) and then filed for divorce. No WAY would I think "Hey! Let's fix this!" Fuuuuuuck no.

ricksang · March 2010

I hear you Amoro! Especially since he was cheating on his wife with her fucking hard earned money.

I feel that the other woman will contact him again and there will be yet another fling.

mwhitson14 · March 2010

Wow, bless her heart. That's heartbreaking to read.

laurenclaire1386 · March 2010

And word on the ball kick then file for divorce. I don't stick around for that shiit. That's a big fat deal breaker for me.

AmoroAgain · March 2010

Yep. He's not done yet. He may be pretending along, but he's not done yet. That last entry was terrible. Like, hey!! My husband cheated cause I got fat and stopped wearing lipstick. Um, no. That's when husband says, "Honey, how about we go out tonight, just the two fo us, and we get dressed up?" Or, "You look so beautiful today" when she's done herself up a bit. It's called positive reinforcement, not "Instead of showing my wife how much I love her by being supportive, I'm going to go pick up an easy piece and pretend to be in love with her while we're having sex."

I just cannot FATHOM sharing my husbands diick. That is MINE and no one else's. It just completely grosses me out.

ricksang · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_interesting-blog?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:28428113-c76b-4e9b-b522-b00aed5cdedfPost:e72dc6d1-c394-419b-86d2-60a2e8871c48">Re: Interesting blog</a>:
[QUOTE]Yep. He's not done yet. He may be pretending along, but he's not done yet. That last entry was terrible. Like, hey!! My husband cheated cause I got fat and stopped wearing lipstick. Um, no. That's when husband says, "Honey, how about we go out tonight, just the two fo us, and we get dressed up?" Or, "You look so beautiful today" when she's done herself up a bit. It's called positive reinforcement, not "Instead of showing my wife how much I love her by being supportive, I'm going to go pick up an easy piece and pretend to be in love with her while we're having sex." I just cannot FATHOM sharing my husbands diick. That is MINE and no one else's. It just completely grosses me out.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

Exactly. And I looked at her picture and she is not fat, nor ugly. She is reflecting this too much upon herself!

ricksang · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_interesting-blog?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:28428113-c76b-4e9b-b522-b00aed5cdedfPost:5dc34d22-a2d3-409c-9a89-8b1271e16ffb">Re: Interesting blog</a>:
[QUOTE]I saw a link to it yesterday on the Whats Cooking board. I can't imagine. I don't know if she's staying with him because she really loves him and wants it to work or because they're living paycheck to paycheck and she knows she can't do it without him.
Posted by lovethebeach16[/QUOTE]

Yeah good point!

CaptiolBride · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_interesting-blog?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:28428113-c76b-4e9b-b522-b00aed5cdedfPost:9820c173-730e-4750-841a-0f62c0d4fa6e">Re: Interesting blog</a>:
[QUOTE]Ya know. I would have kicked him in the balls (with steel toed boots) and then filed for divorce. No WAY would I think "Hey! Let's fix this!" Fuuuuuuck no.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

hahahah I would have had the EXACT same response

AmoroAgain · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_interesting-blog?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:28428113-c76b-4e9b-b522-b00aed5cdedfPost:9fbf66d7-c4bb-4096-b797-5aa81450ba84">Re: Interesting blog</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Interesting blog : Yeah good point!
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

I don't know. She's making money on her own, and is working part time basically. If she went full time, things would change. She may not have a house and the gorgeous garden, but I'd rather have my pride than the house a man who doesn't respect me pays for.

nda_roxybabe · March 2010

So sad. I feel horrible. How old is her son?

AmoroAgain · March 2010

2 I think.

nda_roxybabe · March 2010

Oh gosh. Shes a good writer too

kd.joseph · March 2010

Her cakes are great she is obviously very talented. I dont know why people stick around. I was cheated on more then once with my ex. Who knows why I stayed. My son I guess, and that may be her reasoning too.

AmoroAgain · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_interesting-blog?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:28428113-c76b-4e9b-b522-b00aed5cdedfPost:1f68f472-b5fa-415c-bc6c-b2ff85158acc">Re: Interesting blog</a>:
[QUOTE]Her cakes are great she is obviously very talented. I dont know why people stick around. I was cheated on more then once with my ex. Who knows why I stayed. My son I guess, and that may be her reasoning too.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

That's good of you, but having a son didn't stop your ex from cheating in the first place- why should it stop you from leaving? (I'm not attacking you, I'm just stating my opinion)

kd.joseph · March 2010

It's has more to do with keeping your family together. She obviously had a hard ltime having him to begin with, so I can see why she would have a harder time leaving.

L-Bride · March 2010

I wish I didn't read her blog since all it did was make me hate some guy I don't even know. Interesting though.

jasmineh7777 · March 2010

Reading that made me sick to my stomach.
I think he deserves a swift kick in the diick as well, but it's only been a few days, right? It would be hard to just stop loving someone after 17 years, or at least to accept that he isn't the person you used to love.

AmoroAgain · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_interesting-blog?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:28428113-c76b-4e9b-b522-b00aed5cdedfPost:f7f669ad-916f-43f0-95d8-a00ecb760a83">Re: Interesting blog</a>:
[QUOTE]It's has more to do with keeping your family together. She obviously had a hard ltime having him to begin with, so I can see why she would have a harder time leaving.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

My mom stayed with my dad for 28 years to "keep the family together" and it was miserable. The funny thing is, growing up, my sisters and I always wished they would get divorced because they weren't happy, and my dad was mean.

(Course, the story is messed up now, but that's because of how the divorce happened and how our parents dragged us into it)

jasmineh7777 · March 2010

It's entirely likely that her son will someday be able to find this on the internet and know all the dirty details of his dad's affair.

kd.joseph · March 2010

Well believe me when I say I'm sorry you had to go through that. My ex and I divorced when my son was about 9. And it was actually amicable. And we have kept it that way for the sake of our son. He's has made amends to me more then once for the way he treated me, it has made it easier to move on. I was able to forgive him, and get on with my life. His life on the other hand has been miserable.Because he hasn't dealt with who is, and tried to fix it.

Not my problem any more and why he'll be divorcing wife #4 soon. I was # 2, and we've been divorced for 10 years.

AmoroAgain · March 2010

Beach, yes, mom thought she was doing the right thing by staying. Well, that and she was scared of my dad. I just think that parents don't recognize how observant their kid is, and that even at 2, her son knows something isn't right. He might not know what, but he knows it's wrong at home. My mom was surprised that all three of us knew they had a bad marriage.

Kd, it's amazing you two were able to keep it amicable. The stress put on us kids from our parents has been absolutely amazing.

kd.joseph · March 2010

Well there were times it wasn't easy. And it got easier as the years went on. I think time kind of took care of things.
I've read some of your other threads, and I don't know the whole story but I grasped from a few days ago that your Dad is ill. And he's still kind of sticking it to your Mom? Is that right?

See that kind of animosity I cant live with. It's so unhealthy for everyone involved.
So, I'm surprised I lasted as long as I did in that marriage. But I don't know how anyone lasts for 28 years.

I like to think I grew up and learned from my mistakes. Or as I tell my FI, "I fixed my picker".

AmoroAgain · March 2010

Yes, dad has cancer, and only has a few months left to live. He is, as you said, still trying to stick it to my mom and making us kids choose between him and her. Well, I'd chosen... I guess her (though it wasn't really like that, it was more that I chose myself and my sanity). They decided to get divorced when I was in my 2nd year at university, but the divorce wasn't finalizd until after I'd been out of college for 2 years, and he's spent a lot of time dragging my mom back to court every couple of months.

I guess that sometimes, people are so eaten up with animosity that they just can't let go. I believe in, not necessarily forgiving, but moving on. Letting it go. Not saying, "He was a douche once, oh well, moving on" I mean, DEALING with it. Making the best decision for you and going from there.

I think that's probably what bothers me about this lady. She deserves so much more, and so does her son. Her husband wasn't thinking about his marriage and their son when he fucked another woman. By sacrificing your own happiness, you end up sacrificing pretty much everyone's in that situation. When the mom (or dad!) is unhappy, it gets taken out on the whole family. Forcing a marriage, forcing a committment never ends well for anyone.

Interesting blog

Re: Interesting blog

Choose Another Board

Search Boards