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Changing my name
After a month of being married, I am changing my name today! While I am super excited about this, for some reason it's a little bittersweet for me to be losing my maiden name. I am going to keep my maiden name as my middle name, but it's still a little sad to lose the name I've had for 30 years! I know that I don't HAVE to change my name, but I want to. These feelings are not enough to make me change my mind and not change my name, but it's just a little bittersweet.
Did/Does anyone else feel this way?
Did/Does anyone else feel this way?
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Re: Changing my name
I think keeping your maiden as your middle name is a good compromise if you want to change your name but will miss your old one.
Having said that, though, I'm also still, fundamentally, glad that I made the change. I love having the same name as H. So...yeah. I feel you, and I think it's ok to feel a bit funny about the whole thing, without feeling that you need to change your mind.
Planning Bio! Updated 05.02.12
[QUOTE]I'm probably one of the lone voices of dissent. H kinda talked me into adding his last name to mine, so now I'm Cackle Middle Maiden Married. H's last name is super common, and hearing my first name with his last name just makes me cringe a little. It's a lot like Jenny Johnson, in that my first name and his last name start with the same letter, so it's very sing songy. Also, like my mom pointed out, when they picked my name, they picked a more "plain" name because my maiden name is very unique - so pairing my first name with a "plain" last name, well, it just sounds funny to me, heh. So long story short, I added his last name so that if we have kids someday, I'll legally have the same last name. I'm still going by my maiden name professionally and socially though. And it's been 2 months and I still haven't offically changed anything, heh. I figure as long as I get it done by the time we file our taxes I should be fine, lol. :)
Posted by Cackle6[/QUOTE]
Just my .02 as a CPA, it doesn't matter at all what your name is, as long as you are legally married.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Changing my name : Just my .02 as a CPA, it doesn't matter at all what your name is, as long as you are legally married.
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]
<div>Well that's good to know! I guess for some reason I assumed I'd have to have changed my name in order to file together, good to know that's not the case, thanks! :)</div>
Planning Bio! Updated 05.02.12
[QUOTE]I'm probably one of the lone voices of dissent. H kinda talked me into adding his last name to mine, so now I'm Cackle Middle Maiden Married. H's last name is super common, and hearing my first name with his last name just makes me cringe a little. It's a lot like Jenny Johnson, in that my first name and his last name start with the same letter, so it's very sing songy. Also, like my mom pointed out, when they picked my name, they picked a more "plain" name because my maiden name is very unique - so pairing my first name with a "plain" last name, well, it just sounds funny to me, heh. So long story short, I added his last name so that if we have kids someday, I'll legally have the same last name. I'm still going by my maiden name professionally and socially though. And it's been 2 months and I still haven't offically changed anything, heh. I figure as long as I get it done by the time we file our taxes I should be fine, lol. :)
Posted by Cackle6[/QUOTE]
I did this too. I use my maiden name for work, and H's last name for everything else but legally I'm Amber Middle <Maiden H's Name /> for my last name. So far it seems to be working out well.
My boyfriend and I are getting married on June 1st, 2013. We've been engaged since August 1st. We've talked about everything for the wedding, and we've decided for me to take his last name. But I am sad, because I love my last name... What can I do?