So, I'm well aware that BMs are not free labor, and that the wedding is mine and my FI's. However, two of my four BMs are acting like they're meant to be my slaves. I went to a bridal fair with them back in september, and any time vendors gave me stuff, they'd immediately snatch it out of my hands and insist that "We're the bridesmaids, we can carry it". I made it very clear to my BMs that I won't choose a dress unless everybody is happy with it. I decided to go the online ordering route, so I sent my BMs (who are spread far and wide), lots of different links to dresses I liked, and told them to tell me if they saw something they liked. My FSIL is very sensitive about her body (for no reason, I assure you!), and I especially don't want her to feel uncomfortable. My two BMs whom I will now refer to as Friend #1 and Friend # 2 both responded telling me that as a bride, I should be saying that they'll wear what I tell them to wear, and like it.
This whole thing makes me uncomfortable; I'm not used to so much attention and I really don't want to turn into a bridezilla. I've told Friend #1 and Friend #2 that just because they're BMs, they don't need to act like slaves. Friend #1, whose never been in a wedding, says that I just need to get used to it. Friend #2 was a bridesmaid a couple years ago in her sister's wedding, who was a self proclaimed zilla. I fear that this has made Friend #2 expect that BMs are really required to act like ladies in waiting. I feel like if I say anything more, I'll come off as ungrateful, because they've helped so much already, but this has got to stop. I feel like the next thing I know, they'll be lying over rain puddles for me and tasting my food for poison!