Wedding Regrets

emeejeeayen · August 2012

I have a question for the married folk on this site. I should have asked it in the lurkers thread, but I don't think many people were interested in answering questions at that point anyway.

What, if anything, do you regret about your wedding? (Hopefully you don't regret the marriage!)

Do you wish you'd cared more during the planning process? Cared less? Wish you'd spent less? Wish you'd known or thought of something beforehand? Trivial to important, let's hear it.

Or maybe you had the ~most perfectly perfect day evar. I hope you did, but I'm sure there's something that still irks you a bit

Bonus points for comedy.

AdeleDazeem · August 2012

Wedding day? I would not change ONE THING. It was perfect. Of course there were mistakes (my make up person didn't show and our coordinator forgot to put something at the place settings), but it was awesomely perfect and I wouldn't change a thing.

Our AHR - I wish I had just cared more. It was fun, I had a great time! But, our DJ sucked balls and I hated (HATED) my hair. It makes looking at the pictures a little hard for me because I don't think I look good. Ah well.

Marrin713 · August 2012

Oh Stage, that is awful!

I regret the dress. It was a second wedding so I did not want a wedding gown. I so wanted a LBD and I found a great one at Nordstrom's. Everyone talked me out of it since a) it was black and b) they felt it was a little too fancy. I wish, wish, wish I would have just done it.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · August 2012

Stage I had legit fears about that at our wedding. A few of our groomsmen made a few comments about "decorating" our getaway car, which was actually going to be my car. One night out drinking I actually got in our best mans face and told him if they so much as touched my car I would have a nervous breakdown and my wedding would be ruined, lol. Clearly an exaggeration but, our getaway car was left untouched. The only thing that really went wrong at our wedding was that our flowers were not what I wanted but in the big scheme of things that's not a big deal. The florist screwed up my sister's flowers too so it was probably going to be wrong no matter what.

LetsHikeToday · August 2012

My only regret is the DJ I chose. He was fine with all the songs we picked and stuff but he was outside almost all night smoking. He was 30-40 minutes late starting our father daughter dance (which would then start the fun dancing) because he was outside.

Rosie109 · August 2012

I would have probably gotten a reception dress or something so that I could dance and not have to drag my dragon tail around with me.

OH I DO HAVE ANOTHER ONE. My H left when we were taking pictures to go grab his grandparents and he wasn't in the pictures with my nuclear family so that mad me sad

But he was in the ones we just took at my brother's wedding so that makes me happy

[Deleted User] · August 2012

Mu uncle's friends completely ruined his car. Put flour (or sugar?) in the air vents, which they could never get out, covered the entire back with Oreos, which led to lots of bird poop, put something slippery under the handles that got all gunked up. It was bad.

They also got into the hotel room and did the same. Flour on the ceiling fans, saran wrap on the toilet seat, etc.

He was so pissed. I made sure everyone at our wedding knew better than to touch either one of our vehicles.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · August 2012

Oh I have another one too. I definitely would have used a different photographer. We have some very nice pictures but most of them are kinda cheesy and weird. The guy is just too old fashioned. Plus he kept our disc for over a year.

chelseamb11 · August 2012

Ummmm I would have triple checked that I logged out of FB on my dad's computer two days before the wedding.

chelseamb11 · August 2012

I also agree with Rosie that I'd get a reception dress. My bustle wasn't holding so we had to safety pin it, but my dress was so heavy that they kept popping open. It was annoying.

Brandi0714 · August 2012

I wish we would have eloped. Yes, we are married so I should be happy, or whatever the party line is, is all fine and dandy but I spent months and a ton of money for our day to be a damn Jerry Springer episode. Better yet, I would have let the venue call the cops and escort them off to jail.

[Deleted User] · August 2012

I wish I would have gotten a videographer or at least borrowed a camera to set up for the ceremony. H and I have seven nieces combined, and they were all in the wedding. Apparently there was lots of cuteness when they walked down the aisle, that I didn't get to see since I was the last one in.

gurrlballa10 · August 2012

I would have tried on the dress that I couldn't get out of my head. Don't get me wrong, I loved my dress but I still think about the one I didn't try on.

I would have also stayed in the budget given to us, instead of spending a lot more than planned.

Oh, and as much as I loved my bm's dresses, I would have picked a color and fabric, instead of saying get whatever you want, as long as it has some yellow in it.

pirategal03 · August 2012

I wish we would have eloped. My Granny would have never forgiven me.

mehgank · August 2012

I also wish we would have gotten a videographer. Our wedding was earlier in the day (2pm, reception at 3:30pm), so the reception was over fairly quick and we had an after-party at H's parent's house. It would have been nice to have it on video, because I'm sure there was a lot I missed by being pulled in every direction.

I also wish I had put more thought into the decorations at the reception. I was unfamiliar with space since I planned the wedding from long distance, so our cake table wound up being set up in front of a display of little league plaque, so it looks kinda tacky. That would have been an easy cover-up had I had a better understanding the space.

KateJ10 · August 2012

I wish I would have had another pair of comfy shoes to change into at the reception, my heels were great but I ended up hurting at the very end. Also wish I could have warned h not to walk so damn close to me in my dress, he stepped on it a lot and the hem was ripped. It was an amazing day, and I loved having a day of coordinator because I just enjoyed my day instead of needing to be the point person.

LesPaul · August 2012

I wish I had gone with a different photographer. Our pictures are ok, but we missed most of the family pics I wanted to get, and they could have been better overall. I went with the less expensive option, and I wish I had spent the money for better pics.

I also would have hired a DOC or someone to help with setup, etc. I did it myself, and was too rushed getting ready.

I wish I had asked someone to video my daughter playing the processional on her violin.

I wish I had given my own camera to someone else. I asked my cousin to take lots of candids of everyone and everything - she gave it to her BF's 5 year old instead. I have 100 pictures of butts, chairs, fingernails, feet, teeth, etc.

KateJ10 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I wish I would have gotten a videographer or at least borrowed a camera to set up for the ceremony. H and I have seven nieces combined, and they were all in the wedding. Apparently there was lots of cuteness when they walked down the aisle, that I didn't get to see since I was the last one in.
Posted by anbass[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I like your sig pic! Love the back of your dress!</div>

jennamarie10 · August 2012

Different photographer FOR SURE. She charged us WAY too much, then moved to the other side of the country and didn't have "time" to edit our pictures correctly. She also missed alot of great shots. It makes me so gosh darn bitter when I see great pictures. I'd be ok with them if I had gotten a great deal, but this chick charged an arm and a leg.

I also probably would have shopped for my dress longer. I was just ready to buy and my mom and MIL liked it so I went with it, but it wasn't really "me"

jennamarie10 · August 2012

Oh and also, I would have not been such a freak during the dinner. I couldn't eat anything because we were unsure the DJ equipment was going to work and I was so worried evryone was going to be mad and leave. Every candid pic of me at the head table (gasp) is me scowling.

professorscience · August 2012

Not a reg here, so hope I'm not overstepping.

I would have either a) gotten the reception site to make to-go boxes for us with all the food or b) set aside twenty-thirty minutes for H and I to hide out in a back room somewhere to eat in private. I know we sat down and ate, I remember doing it, but I don't remember any of the food. And it was, by all accounts, delicious.

I also probably would have skipped the "grand entrance" at the reception. I didn't realize it until I was someone's bridesmaid, but the WP was just sitting around in the lobby at the reception hall waiting for us to show up so we could all go in, and they missed cocktail hour.

[Deleted User] · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Regrets : I like your sig pic! Love the back of your dress!
Posted by KateJ10[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Thanks! The back was my favorite part. Some of my favorite pictures are completely faceless.

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pirategal03 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Not a reg here, so hope I'm not overstepping. I would have either a) gotten the reception site to make to-go boxes for us with all the food or b) set aside twenty-thirty minutes for H and I to hide out in a back room somewhere to eat in private. I know we sat down and ate, I remember doing it, but I don't remember any of the food. And it was, by all accounts, delicious. I also probably would have skipped the "grand entrance" at the reception. I didn't realize it until I was someone's bridesmaid, but the WP was just sitting around in the lobby at the reception hall waiting for us to show up so we could all go in, and they missed cocktail hour.
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]

What is happening in your sig pic? And why? It's cute, but makes me wonder why.

bunni727 · August 2012

I'm sad that the photog didn't get to stay until the very end.

My MOH, who is not a mingle-and-drink-punch-while-other-people-do-work kind of gal, disappeared at the tail end of the reception.

I would give just about anthing to have a picture of her, barefoot, with her cocktail dress hiked up to her hind end, helping load the rental chairs into the trailer in the rain.

jcg98 · August 2012

I wish we had followed our instincts and gotten a different priest to do our mass. We had a photobooth for 3 hours and I wish we had sprung for a 4th hour. It was such a hit, I would have liked to get in there more than once.

professorscience · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Regrets : What is happening in your sig pic? And why? It's cute, but makes me wonder why.
Posted by pirategal03[/QUOTE]

<div>I used to row in college. One of my former teammates got married recently, and she had a bridal luncheon out on the Oklahoma River. Her photographer came along to take pics, and when it was over, we went into one of the boathouses to take some more pics. We were just goofing around. They're struggling to lift the boat and I'm supposed to be yelling at them.</div>

Poppy715 · August 2012

Our slideshow that I had spent hours on didn't work out. I was mad at the time and mostly irritated my coordinator couldn't figure it out. My photog also missed a few things I had worked hard on like handpainted direction signs. I didn't realize I should have specifically told her I wanted a picture of them. Our pictures took a really long time to get back. I think it was Nov. when we finally got them, we had a July wedding.

pirategal03 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Regrets : I used to row in college. One of my former teammates got married recently, and she had a bridal luncheon out on the Oklahoma River. Her photographer came along to take pics, and when it was over, we went into one of the boathouses to take some more pics. We were just goofing around. They're struggling to lift the boat and I'm supposed to be yelling at them.
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]

I knew there had to be a story.

azdancer8 · August 2012

My only regret is not having my grandmother in any pictures with me. She and my grandpa missed all of the family photos after the ceremony, and left the reception before we got there.

pretzelgrrl · August 2012

I regret the fighting among bridesmaids and wished I had listened to my fiance about who to choose (he loves all of them but knew they wouldn't get along).

I wished I stalked some more photographers websites so I could steal some ideas I have seen afterwards. I loved my pictures but I have seen some really unique ones I wish I had. I also wish I had paid more attention to the proof when making the album the pics were small and I accidently put 3 wrong photos in (bridesmaid eyes closed, not the one I looked better in, etc).

I loved my flowers but I really, really wish I hadn't given the florist my mom's headpiece ( a bow) to put on the bouquet because she lost it. I was really upset but thankfully my mom was calm so it didn't dampen the day.

Oh, and my biggest regret not having formal pictures with my dad beforehand. I got some casual photos of us but not posed. he wasn't feeling well after ceremony so I never got them

VeggieLove1022 · August 2012

My only regret is not getting a great photographer. We ended up getting only a handful of good pictures from a friend of mine and that makes me pretty sad.

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