My boyfriend of a little over 2 years and I have been talking seriously about engagement, but the only thing holding us back is that we don't know when we would want to get married. We are seniors in college and will graduate Dec. 2010. We want to have jobs and be somewhat stable financially before we have a wedding. Should we wait to get engaged or does it not matter? We know that we want to get married within the next couple of years, but just sure when.
Re: When to have a date set by.
FI and I set a date within a couple days after our engagement, and our engagement period will have lasted just over 10 weeks by time we get married. Neither of us wanted a long engagement or saw point in waiting several months. I realize that is short for many people, but just a comparison as to why I think a year is long!
We got engaged and planned on a year for the engagement (to save money and put me out of college) but then things changed and we've pushed back, and now we're just shy of a two year engagement. But it's been nice being engaged, I've had lots of time to plan snd save, and we'll be financially stable when we do tie the knot.
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An engagement can last as long as you want it to... just because you become engaged, doesn't obligate you to marry within a certain amount of time. My fiance and I will have a pretty long engagement, just about 3 years because I too would like to finish up with my degrees, but because our engagement is so long, it allows us to have an actual engagement party... You don't see it too often these days.. but its perfect for couples who have an engagement thats 18 months+. It'd be good for your situation as well,-its a fun way to celebrate with everyone and any gifts you may receive will be a big help in starting your lives together. [hope that doesn't sound greedy?
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Like everyone else is saying, you don't need to have a date set to get engaged. We have friends that got engaged 6 months ago or so, and they have not set a date and probably won't for another year or so.
My FI and I just got engaged on Nov 7th, and have already set a date. Mind you it is about 1.5 years away. Just so that we can save money, plus I really love the date.
If you two really want to get engaged, just do it. You can always change your dates around if things don't work out. Or just book the date for when you are done school and stuff. It can be 2-3 years down the line.
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[QUOTE] I personally don't get when people are "engaged" and not working towards anything, it's just like an extension of their dating life.
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</div><div>I don't get that either. My cousin was engaged 10 years then got married after 6 weeks of planning, it was very weird. </div><div>
</div><div>I have a long engagement, way too long, however I lost my job and we had to push the date back a year. </div><div>You're young I would wait until I could have the wedding I wanted and have money to start off your life together. </div><div>
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I'm engaged, and we don't have a date set. I rather wait until I graduate anyway.
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For us being engaged meant making a promise to each other that we will get married and it also tells everyone else that we are ready to make this commitment. Just because we are not finacially able to do this right now doesnt mean that emotionally we arent ready to make the commitment to each other. We love each other so much and wish we could get married tomorrow but since its better for us to wait we like being engaged.
Its all about what you and your FI want.
Why not get engaged shortly after graduation and then start planning and picking a date then?