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The waiting is killing me

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  • SwazzleSwazzle New Jersey member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:452a96a7-7cb1-4c50-9966-2fef3fdfc837">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]Now I'm being told to "grow the f*ck up"?  Yeah, because saying that to me is really mature of you. Every relationship is different and everyone has different beliefs.  I have no issue with anyone having a different belief than me if it's communicated in a friendly manner.  But for people to make assumptions about my <strong>boyfriend </strong>"not being ready" and me planning behind his back is completely unnecessary. Anyway, I'm not going to be concerned with what a bunch of strangers on a message board think of my relationship with someone I have been with for 3.5 years and known for even longer.
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    <div>You mean fiance?</div>



  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:673ec517-d755-4ebf-bf47-b3eded273c24">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: The waiting is killing me : You mean fiance?
    Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

    I guess that depends on your definition of engaged.  See new thread <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
  • ravenrayravenray member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:452a96a7-7cb1-4c50-9966-2fef3fdfc837">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]Now I'm being told to "grow the f*ck up"?  Yeah, because saying that to me is really mature of you. Every relationship is different and everyone has different beliefs.  I have no issue with anyone having a different belief than me if it's communicated in a friendly manner.  But for people to make assumptions about my boyfriend "not being ready" and me planning behind his back is completely unnecessary. Anyway, I'm not going to be concerned with what a bunch of strangers on a message board think of my relationship with someone I have been with for 3.5 years and known for even longer.
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    <p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="line-height:115%;font-family:'Arial','sans-serif';color:#1f1f1f;font-size:8.5pt;">There is no reason for you to plan before you get engaged.  NONE. I planned a wedding in two days; you can do it in 6 months.  You are cheating yourself out your engagement time. I feel sorry for you.  There is no need to rush something that will come with time. </span></p>
    "Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained"-C.S. Lewis

    Married! May 27th, 2012

  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:452a96a7-7cb1-4c50-9966-2fef3fdfc837">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]Now I'm being told to "grow the f*ck up"?  Yeah, because saying that to me is really mature of you. Every relationship is different and everyone has different beliefs.  I have no issue with anyone having a different belief than me if it's communicated in a friendly manner.  But for people to make assumptions about my boyfriend "not being ready" and me planning behind his back is completely unnecessary. Anyway, I'm not going to be concerned with what a bunch of strangers on a message board think of my relationship with someone I have been with for 3.5 years and known for even longer.
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    Okay, First, chill the eff out.
    Second, what you originally came in here saying was that you <strong>BF</strong> has not proposed, and hasn't told his family/friends or anything that this is going on. We are a very understanding group. We just know what BSC behavior does to people. Planning before you and BF are on the same page is NOT bad advice. You made a statement, we responded. Simple as that...
    If you don't want to listen to the advice of seasoned women, who have been here a while, and know what we are talking about...then don't post on our board. I shall reference Cschiano's LOLCat...GTFO with your fail, then.
  • CASK85CASK85 member
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    edited December 2011
    GTFO= get the eff out. 
  • edited December 2011
    Ummm...we are on the same page.  Didn't I just say that when I said he's involved?

    Planning a wedding is a decision to be made by the couple.  WE have made that decision to begin planning.  He actually suggested a JOP but I refused as I want my parents there which is why we agreed on destination and sooner rather than later. 


    This is fun.

  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:57ab7ce4-6494-4ea7-80a8-49cac35eadba">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]GTFO= get the eff out. 
    Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

    Oh....so you aren't telling me to shut up, you're tellling me to leave.  Got it.  Sooooo sorry to misinterpret your rudeness.  It's a public message board, sweetheart.  I don't have to go anywhere. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
  • edited December 2011
    You know what I just realized.................look at what it says at the top of this board! Hahahahahahahaha! 


    Not Engaged Yet

    You've planned your flowers, found a gown...but no ring (yet)? Welcome to NEY.

  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    You girls are such BITCHES that the poor OP had to go cry about it on another board.

    http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_destination-weddings_even-other-boards


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  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:64646f8e-f656-44b5-b70c-30d046380311">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]You know what I just realized.................look at what it says at the top of this board! Hahahahahahahaha!  Not Engaged Yet You've planned your flowers, found a gown...but no ring (yet)? Welcome to NEY.
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    TK supports BSC. We, however, do not.

    You are contradicting yourself all over the place!! You say he hasn't proposed, which according to your other thread, doesn't equal you being engaged.

    Planning, and all the prep work for a wedding, doing that before actually being engaged = BSC

    Quit acting like we are stupid.
  • ahampton27ahampton27 member
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    edited December 2011
    I hope he gives you the ring before the date you have planned for the wedding....
  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:2457f1cc-d962-475d-8b98-dbfd86a34a0c">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]You girls are such BITCHES that the poor OP had to go cry about it on another board. <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_destination-weddings_even-other-boards" rel="nofollow">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_destination-weddings_even-other-boards</a>
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

    I <3 you. Perhaps we are BITCHES...but its fanfreakingtastic to be such :)
  • csousa1csousa1 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:2457f1cc-d962-475d-8b98-dbfd86a34a0c">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]You girls are such <strong>BITCHES</strong> that the poor OP had to go cry about it on another board. <a rel="nofollow" href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_destination-weddings_even-other-boards">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_destination-weddings_even-other-boards</a>
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

    When Desert calls me a bitch, I feel all warm and fuzzy inside :) If I get nothing else done today, I still made that accomplishment :)
  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:c8ecafc7-0573-4f31-b559-dbcf8796c5e9">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: The waiting is killing me : When Desert calls me a bitch, I feel all warm and fuzzy inside :) If I get nothing else done today, I still made that accomplishment :)
    Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

    Glad I'm not the only one!
  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:64646f8e-f656-44b5-b70c-30d046380311">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]You know what I just realized.................look at what it says at the top of this board! Hahahahahahahaha!  Not Engaged Yet You've planned your flowers, found a gown...but no ring (yet)? Welcome to NEY.
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    Hilarious.

    Do you feel all validated now?

    Because I'm sorry, but it IS weird to me that anyone would have a dress, shoes, venue, etc and then come crying about not having a ring.

    You were okay doing all those things without the ring.

    YOU made that decision.

    YOU.

    Grow up and learn to live with the consequences of your choices.

    No one here is going to feel sorry for you, especially if you're going to refuse to see that you might have made a bad choice in proceeding without the ring/being engaged if those things are important to you.
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  • SKP82SKP82 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:64646f8e-f656-44b5-b70c-30d046380311">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]You know what I just realized.................look at what it says at the top of this board! Hahahahahahahaha!  Not Engaged Yet You've planned your flowers, found a gown...but no ring (yet)? Welcome to NEY.
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    That is something TK puts on there to get BSC pre-planning girls to buy their crap.  We don't endorse it and can't change it.

    You would have known all of this had you read the sticky at the top of the page that says READ BEFORE POSTING!

    You and your BF can be on the same page, but you should not plan a wedding before you are engaged.  You yourself said you will not consider yourself to be engaged until you have a ring.  That's fine, but you shouldn't plan until you have the ring, then.

    You're putting the cart before the horse and living in the future when you should be enjoying your relationship with your BF and letting things happen in their own time.  What's the point of him proposing to you if you've already planned the whole damn wedding??
    IMG_6364
    "Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make life so, right in the middle of it we die, lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce." - Natalie Goldberg
  • wink0erinwink0erin member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:75e8b094-8fad-4228-922d-86d63f05ac59">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]I hope he gives you the ring before the date you have planned for the wedding....
    Posted by ahampton27[/QUOTE]

    <p>I hope he waits and gives her the e-ring AFTER the wedding date. </p>
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  • lilphillips14lilphillips14 member
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    edited December 2011
  • edited December 2011
    Well, pardon me for posting on a board that as advertised as being for this exact purpose.  Stupid me.  ::sarcasm::

    And yes, I did post about my experience in another thread.  So what?  I just find it amusing that you all think you know more about my relationship than I do. It's truely laughable.  I'm actually LOL as I respond.  Not upset.  Not angry.  It's a message board and a bunch of strangers.  I just enjoy egging you all on.  Keep it coming, ladies.

  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:2a099066-5d08-4de2-b018-25a55848641a">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: The waiting is killing me : Hilarious. Do you feel all validated now? Because I'm sorry, but it IS weird to me that anyone would have a dress, shoes, venue, etc and then come <strong>crying about not having a ring</strong>. You were okay doing all those things without the ring. YOU made that decision. YOU. Grow up and learn to live with the consequences of your choices. No one here is going to feel sorry for you, especially if you're going to refuse to see that <strong>you might have made a bad choice in proceeding without the ring/being engaged</strong> if those things are important to you.
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

    I wasn't crying.  I was expressing my excitement and anticipation. LOL
    And <strong><u>WE</u></strong> are planning it together.   How many times do I need to explain that? 
  • wink0erinwink0erin member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:93aa8137-b270-4c46-8128-04448bd91daf">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well, pardon me for posting on a board that as advertised as being for this exact purpose.  Stupid me.  ::sarcasm:: And yes, I did post about my experience in another thread.  So what?  I just find it amusing that you all think you know more about my relationship than I do. It's truely laughable.  I'm actually LOL as I respond.  Not upset.  Not angry.  It's a message board and a bunch of strangers.  I just enjoy egging you all on.  Keep it coming, ladies.
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    YOU said you're NOT engaged.

    Yet you have planned the whole wedding.

    So what is the engagement period for then?

    Enlighten us, plz.
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  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:13038224-37b7-4f34-ac3d-2043c6cd9b87">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: The waiting is killing me : I wasn't crying.  I was expressing my excitement and anticipation. LOL And WE are planning it together.   How many times do I need to explain that? 
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    She isn't saying you aren't planning it together. She is saying that YOU AREN'T ENGAGED! The planning comes after the engagement! That's all.
    Let me break it down for you-
    Proposal
    Engagement time - this includes planning
    Wedding

    Those are the steps
    Chill out and quit acting like a bratty child.
  • edited December 2011
    Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee............................................this is fun.  Don't worry ladies, I'll be sure to come back with some e-ring pics for you!
  • wink0erinwink0erin member
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    edited December 2011
    Good lord, I think I'm in middle school.
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  • ravenrayravenray member
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    edited December 2011

    Just because you are planning together doesn't mean anything.... If you are not engaged you BOTH are BSC.  (Bat Sh!t Crazy)  We aren't upset, we are enjoying this as much as you are :D

    "Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained"-C.S. Lewis

    Married! May 27th, 2012

  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:e8633696-0dc3-4136-932a-e77a66f30965">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee............................................this is fun.  Don't worry ladies, I'll be sure to come back with some e-ring pics for you!
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    You seem to think at this point we give a rats patootie about your e-ring. We don't mind when other ladies post AW pics of their e-ring and we are genuinely excited for them. You, however have shown ZERO respect for us, and our board. Therefore, our level of give a damn = null.

    The last time I saw this type of behavior, it was in a chat room - my younger sibling was talking in one and the people in it acted like you - like a child.
  • SwazzleSwazzle New Jersey member
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    edited December 2011
  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:13038224-37b7-4f34-ac3d-2043c6cd9b87">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: The waiting is killing me : I wasn't crying.  I was expressing my excitement and anticipation. LOL And WE are planning it together.   How many times do I need to explain that? 
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    You're clearly NOT planning the proposal together.

    The title of the post is "The waiting is killing me." Your OP also mentions going CRAZY.

    Sounds pretty damn whiny to me.

    Look, you're certainly allowed to be anxious about a proposal.

    But most people have the sense NOT to book venues, buy dresses and shoes, etc. until they have that proposal. Just like most people have the sense to lurk a board and read the stickies before posting.

    SECRET planning? Is lamesauce.

    Part of the joy of being engaged is sharing the excitment and planning and happiness with the people you love.

    You have denied yourself that.

    You made a bad choice.

    I'm glad you're laughing and enjoy this thread. I hope it makes your wait better.
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker


  • SKP82SKP82 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:e8633696-0dc3-4136-932a-e77a66f30965">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee............................................this is fun.  Don't worry ladies, I'll be sure to come back with some e-ring pics for you!
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    I'm starting to think OP is maybe FOR REAL crazy...
    IMG_6364
    "Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make life so, right in the middle of it we die, lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce." - Natalie Goldberg
  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-killing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7eefe3ab-d255-42e8-b195-c0d869fe5036Post:75efc439-a321-4783-b846-969205544405">Re: The waiting is killing me</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: The waiting is killing me : You're clearly NOT planning the proposal together. The title of the post is "The waiting is killing me." Your OP also mentions going CRAZY. Sounds pretty damn whiny to me. Look, you're certainly allowed to be anxious about a proposal. But most people have the sense NOT to book venues, buy dresses and shoes, etc. until they have that proposal. Just like most people have the sense to lurk a board and read the stickies before posting. SECRET planning? Is lamesauce. Part of the joy of being engaged is sharing the excitment and planning and happiness with the people you love. You have denied yourself that. You made a bad choice. I'm glad you're laughing and enjoy this thread. I hope it makes your wait better.
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

    Such a wise Jedi :)
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