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calindi
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Need to be Held Accountable
Hello, my name is Cate, and I'm addicted to biting my nails.
Seriously, though, BF and I once again spoke about getting engaged and married this weekend, and I know it's coming fairly soon (at least in the next 6 months). So I want to stop biting my nails! Will you ladies help me? Check in on me once in awhile to make sure I'm behaving myself? I feel like I'll be better about it if I have to report to you guys and feel the shame of failure if I destroy them yet again.
And while we're at it, anyone else need to be held accountable for something? Diet, exercise?
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Re: Need to be Held Accountable
I'm sure you've tried this already, but when I was trying to grow my nails out, I painted them with colored polish (nothing too bold, just a light pink). When I had the urge to pick at my nails (I've always picked them off rather than biting them), I would scratch at the polish instead. It didn't look that great to have chipped up polish all the time, but my nails got longer than they've ever been before.
A month from this day I’m gonna make you post a pic of your hands.
They better be ring worthy… or else…..
*insert ominous music here*
Edit: You too Abigail
[QUOTE]A month from this day I’m gonna make you post a pic of your hands. They better be ring worthy… or else….. *insert ominous music here* Edit: You too Abigail
Posted by SenoritaCupcake[/QUOTE]
Haha, Cupcake, I <3 you.
ETA: This is a good idea! Let's check in with each other on the 24th of each month and see how everyone's doing!
I need to be held accountable for not letting negativity take over my brain and suck out my productivity. Also for treating my life like I'm in charge of it. For short, Marley's Asskicking Project, or MAP.
Blog: A New Yorker in Duluth
Updated 8/8/11
I've done the colored nail polish trick too.
Loves2shop and Calindi - I'm a nail-biter, too. I used to just get fake nails to cover them up, but about 8 months ago I said 'Goshdarnit I'm 34 years old, i should be able to stop this.' It's a day-to-day battle, but a couple things have helped: 1) a product called Control-It! that I found on ebay. It cost $10. I put it on my fingernails every day. It tastes gross, so when I'm mindlessly chewing my nails, I get that first taste and know to stop. 2) manicures
I fell off the wagon last week while on vacation (lots of reading by the fire meant lots of biting off my nails). I went to my nail salon this weekend and got a manicure even though half my nails are crazy short. As elle said, it just makes another layer to get through.
Let's all do this together!
Still here and still fabulous!
Pepper polish doesn't work - I'll bite right through it. The only thing that really works is regular manicures. Apparently there's this polish that is hardened by UV light so it's as hard as a fake nail, but not damaging (like the glue from the fake nails) and it just coats your real nail like polish. I totally want to do that, but it's more expensive - which I can justify since I'll only need a manicure once a month. But I need to grow them out a bit to do that manicure in the first place, so I guess I need a normal mani first.
My nails were long and beautiful when we went to Europe, for pictures and in the off chance that he'd ask me there (I doubted it severely, but just in case). Then on our flight back, the couple behind us had just gotten engaged and were being totally obnoxious (like reflecting the light from the window with her diamond on the ceiling over my head and writing down a minute-by-minute account of their whole trip... out loud). And so I bit all my nails off in frustration and annoyance.
That’s it, on Feb 24th I’m making all you biotches post pics of your hands. I’m making a list.
Marley,
There’s a book I really want you to read called “Why I wore lipstick to my mastectomy.” If you can’t find it I’ll send it to you. I thought of you a lot during the first few chapters, I think it would really help with your ass-kicking.
I really think Elle's suggestion is a good one. One other thing I've heard to do, Cate, is give yourself a reward after you've achieved a certain length of time of not biting them. For example, you can treat yourself to a manicure after not biting them for a month.
[QUOTE]I've been biting my nails as long as I can remember. I've stopped, sometimes for a few months, but I always have started again. Pepper polish doesn't work - I'll bite right through it. The only thing that really works is regular manicures. Apparently there's this polish that is hardened by UV light so it's as hard as a fake nail, but not damaging (like the glue from the fake nails) and it just coats your real nail like polish. I totally want to do that, but it's more expensive - which I can justify since I'll only need a manicure once a month. But I need to grow them out a bit to do that manicure in the first place, so I guess I need a normal mani first. My nails were long and beautiful when we went to Europe, for pictures and in the off chance that he'd ask me there (I doubted it severely, but just in case). <strong>Then on our flight back, the couple behind us had just gotten engaged and were being totally obnoxious (like reflecting the light from the window with her diamond on the ceiling over my head and writing down a minute-by-minute account of their whole trip... out loud).</strong> And so I bit all my nails off in frustration and annoyance.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
I would have been irritated by that, too. Barf.
Blog: A New Yorker in Duluth
Updated 8/8/11
My Bio - updated 26/3/2011
[QUOTE]My name is Abigail. I also bite my nails and have been stopping periodically for the past 2 months. I fell off the wagon 2 nights ago...my poor fingers look terrible. My parents have been trying to get me to stop since they successfully broke me of <strong>picking my nose</strong>...I was 5. I really want to stop as well.
Posted by AbigailMS[/QUOTE]
Is this a bad thing?
I'm not a habitual nail biter but I do bite them sometimes. I did catch myself trying to bite them when I actually went in for the manicure. The fact that it's much more expensive than a normal one also kept me from biting them.
I haven't bit mine in over a month now, so they're all pretty. I'm bribing myself with a manicure in the near future. And any time I think of biting my nails, I think to myself "Remember how it feels to crunch a nail right off? Ew, that's so gross. I hate that feeling." It works.
We joined on Dec. 28th and I've been "maybe" 5 times. I need to go, I'm heavier than I've ever been before and I hate it.
I cried last weekend when none of my dresses fit me when getting ready for BF's company holiday party yet, I have been to the gym (which is 3 blocks away from our house) ONE stinking time since then.
WTH is wrong with me? What will motivate me?
I feel like I look horrible and I know I am not my normal self, but BF says, "you look great, I love you, don't change a thing".
I'm not looking to lose 50+ pounds at all, but I am not a tall girl and I don't want to get to a point where I feel like losing the weight is a lost cause.
I am NOT making excuses but I feel like I'm under scrutiny when I go because I go alone (recently moved back to my hometown area and don't really know anyone, all of my friends are in my hometown 30 minutes away and are married with kids so not available to be a gym buddy) and I feel like I look ridiculous. BF joined with me but has had MAJOR drama at work so by the time he is done with his 10+ hour days he's wiped out, which I don't blame him for.
Anyways, any help appreciated and I'd be more than happy to reciprocate.
THANKS. :O)
[QUOTE]I bite my nails, too! One time a family member told me that no man would ever want to marry me because I bite my nails. I think there was probably a more effective way of getting me to stop than by telling me that. I really do want to stop now though. I really think Elle's suggestion is a good one. One other thing I've heard to do, Cate, is give yourself a reward after you've achieved a certain length of time of not biting them. For example, you can <strong>treat yourself to a manicure after not biting them for a month</strong>.
Posted by sparkles88[/QUOTE]
Cate - if you're anything like me, you deserve an award for not biting them for 2-3 days. One thing that might help is to determine when you bite them. Is it when you're nervous? Excited? Bored? My habit is boredom... so if I'm reading anything, watching tv, etc. that leaves my hands free. So the pepper stuff works for me because it's a huge light-bulb saying 'don't do this!' You might need something different, but if you know what triggers it, that could help you figure out a way to avoid the situation altogether.
Though no amount of planning can avoid obnoxious, newly-engaged couples like on your plane.
(Off topic - my BF and I went to Spain in 2009 and I was hoping he would propose then, and I was thinking we'd get married in October 2010. He didn't (which was fine) but a month later my girlfriend from college and her BF went to Spain... and got engaged... and got married in October 2010. Ouch)
Still here and still fabulous!
Also, find something you enjoy. If you feel uncomfortable at the gym, look into a dance class or yoga. Swim. Whatever works for you!
Bren - I actually like biting my nails. I find it oddly soothing. I'm weird like that.
cu79tiger - you're absolutely right, 2 days would be a good start!
Married Bio
[QUOTE]I could never be a nail biter. The number of gross, germy, nasty things (that don't necessarily look nasty) that I or anyone touches in a given day is more than enough to deter me. Door handles? Sign for a delivery and use that guy's pen? Drinking fountains? Think about the grossness under your nails - even if you wash your hands regularly, are your nails really clean? gag.
Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]
Good point. It's actually against the rules for hospital employees to have nails longer than just a 1/4 of an inch because of the copious amount of bacteria that congregate under there.
I'm telling you nail biting ladies, I was a staunch nail biter for 20 years and the only thing that successfully broke me was the UV gel manicures.
Still here and still fabulous!