S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony

midgetthemighty · March 2012

So the 2-3 months out what stresses you thread has caused me to think about drinking prior to the ceremony. I know of people who do this and others who don't and I'm curious as to your thoughts.

I think it's a completely inappropriate time to be drinking. I just don't get it at all.

edw7479 · March 2012

I'm on my phone and it won't let me vote. I think as a whole it's inappropriate. I guess if someone has crazy nerves and a glass of wine actually helps that it doesn't for me then I guess one would be okay. But, I think you should be sober and take in all the awesomeness of exchanging vows with your FI. Now, after, have all you want and party down if you want to!

KrisKenny · March 2012

My FI and the guys (as well as us girls) may have 1, just to get our nerves under control. I don't feel that anyone should have more than 2 tops!

amonis · March 2012

Haha I want him to be sober and aware of his decisions while we are getting married

I also want him to be coherant and in his right mind! But... FI doesnt drink at all. In fact he has had only one sip of alcohol in his ENTIRE life and that was the night he proposed to me. We shared a glass of wine (he only took a sip haha) because he wanted to share that "first" with his future wife, something he told me from our first date.

KDough · March 2012

Ill probably have 1 drink before the ceremony, just to calm my nerves mostly. Im guessing the guys will do the same

Ash61612 · March 2012

My girls and I will drink a couple Mimosa's as we are getting ready. But once we get to the venue, I don't think we will be doing any drinking. I am going to try and limit the amount of drinks (alcoholic and non-alcoholic) because going to the bathroom is going to be a chore in my dress

sleblanc72 · March 2012

I voted a few but really for us it depends on the person. The majority of our girls and guys can absolutely hold their alcohol and I wouldn't mind them having a drink but then there are some that cannot hold their alcohol worth crap and I will do my all to make sure they don't have anything. That said we are also making sure there's plenty of food and plan to make sure that everyone will be eating for the day.

daria24 · March 2012

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a glass of champagne or a beer while you are getting ready, especially if your ceremony isn't until the evening. I think a mimosa while you are getting your hair done sounds nice! But I probably won't be drinking until the reception because a) it is going to be nearly impossible to get myself to eat or drink anything, so I better stick to water and b) if I want alcohol while I'm getting ready I have to get it through the venue and I am not paying $10+ for a damn glass of champagne!

MMRoberts11 · March 2012

I see myself and the BMs having a mimosa or two in the morning but knowing the guys, I don't think they'll have anything before the reception.

midgetthemighty · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_so-drinking-prior-to-the-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:ba7c9669-199e-47ed-9992-7d1d3b8d7207Post:f9b00bd1-e791-4861-94b9-26690e5b8479">Re: S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]Haha I want him to be sober and aware of his decisions while we are getting married :) I also want him to be coherant and in his right mind! But... FI doesnt drink at all. In fact he has had only one sip of alcohol in his ENTIRE life and that was the night he proposed to me. We shared a glass of wine (he only took a sip haha) because he wanted to share that "first" with his future wife, something he told me from our first date.
Posted by amonis[/QUOTE]

That's adorable!

ncd5015 · March 2012

I think 1 or 2 is fine, but anything over that is not! I will be having a mimosa in the morning and I know FI will have a beer to calm his nerves. I remember how nervous he was when he proposed!

Sabriel14 · March 2012

The girls will probably be having a mimosa or two while getting ready (food will be provided as well). I'm not sure about the guys as they are not all of age. No one can be impaired in any way or the priest will refuse to marry us, but a little bit of champagne won't lead to that level of intoxication in our group.

cwill6212 · March 2012

I want him to be sober and know what he's getting into! :P <jk> I think a drunk S/O would ruin the whole thing for me... While I can understand a drink to calm the nerves on either side, anymore than that is inappropriate.

niknik15 · March 2012

I'm sure I will have a drink before hand along with throwing a few at my dad, because he is a nervous wreck in front of people. As far as my FI goes, I'm sure he will have a couple shots before hand, but I know he won't go over board.

peachykeen26 · March 2012

I personally think its inappropriate. FI thinks otherwise, but I told him if I could smell alcohol on his breath, I would not sign the paperwork until he was sober. Mostly because I don't want to be married to someone who can't remember marrying me! Which is extreme, I know. But still.
We are not having alcohol at the wedding because it isn't allowed at the venue, so he definitely should NOT come after a drink or two. Same goes for the GM's. Just inappropriate.
I am putting my foot down.
There are very few things with this wedding that I have absolutely demanded my way with and this is one of those things.

HarperBargo · March 2012

1-2 drinks is fine by me. I know me and my girls will have mimosas as we get ready. I think FI and guys will probably have some good bourbon. Nothing overboard and I'm really not worried about it.

chelseakopperud · March 2012

I think drinking just to drink is highly inappropriate before the wedding. However, we are doing a champagne toast before we all head outside to the ceremony site. It will be just a few sips and a cool photo

Teep · March 2012

We're also doing mimosas / tequila sunrises as we get ready. FI doesn't really drink, so I know that I don't have to worry about him. The best man will probably be hammered by the time of the reception (5:30) but I don't mind. I voted "let's party" haha

ETA: I think if we were having an afternoon ceremony at a church, I wouldn't drink at all. We're getting married at the same venue as our reception, the enitre ceremony should last about 20 minutes.

Zimsgirl · March 2012

I think just 1 is ok to calm nerves. Something like a mimosa, not hard liquor. I don't think anyone will be a problem with drinking except maybe the best man at the reception. In my final meeting with my reception coordinator I'm going to make sure bartenders check Ids and know when to cut people off

kelsey+brandon · March 2012

I think ONE drink is okay. It'll help to relax everyone a little bit. I'm sure the guys will be feeling awkward about being in front of the church and one drink can do nothing but help ease all of their nerves.

I think I'm going to make them all a bourbon bouquet...one mini bottle of bourbon each. I almost feel like me saying it's okay for them to have one drink will take some of the fun out of "sneaking in a drink."

I won't be drinking before the ceremony just because it would be champagne, which sometimes causes me to bloat.

kathleenkmm · March 2012

Our priest won't marry us if we've been drinking beforehand. You wouldn't drink before a normal church service, so why would you here?

acaponi87 · March 2012

I will probably have a mimosa or bloody mary in the morning with my ladies but my ceremony isn't til 6. I used to do 2 shots before my music auditions. It helped a lot. However it is very important to us that we be sober when we say our vows.

midgetthemighty · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_so-drinking-prior-to-the-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:ba7c9669-199e-47ed-9992-7d1d3b8d7207Post:8b5bedf9-c9c2-4c94-b878-cdbc6a898ca4">Re: S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]Our priest won't marry us if we've been drinking beforehand. You wouldn't drink before a normal church service, so why would you here?
Posted by kathleenkmm[/QUOTE]

Ding ding ding! Now that's a zinger question.

Especially one where you're promising to love your best friend through thick and thin, no matter what. I also think there are 48758924789347 other ways to calm your nerves that don't involve alcohol. This is one of those things where as long as the B&G are okay with it, fine. If either one of them isn't and someone still chooses to drink, I think that's incredibly disrespectful.

chelseakopperud · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_so-drinking-prior-to-the-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:ba7c9669-199e-47ed-9992-7d1d3b8d7207Post:3414eae5-13ca-4100-9abd-dc849d08e1ea">Re: S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony : Ding ding ding! Now that's a zinger question. Especially one where you're promising to love your best friend through thick and thin, no matter what. I also think there are 48758924789347 other ways to calm your nerves that don't involve alcohol. This is one of those things where as long as the B&G are okay with it, fine. If either one of them isn't and someone still chooses to drink, I think that's incredibly disrespectful.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

I couldnt agree more!!!

MiksChick23 · March 2012

There is a HUGE difference between getting tipsy and having a drink to calm your nerves. I know FOR A FACT that I will be having atleast one drink within an hour of my ceremony. I do not want to be a bawling mess walking down the aisle, so my MOH is set with the task of finding me the nastiest shot she can so I'm thinking of that as I walk down the aisle instead of blubbering like an idiot.

We will also have mimosas while we get our hair done in the morning...but no one is going to get drunk. I agree that would be super inappropriate.

FI will probably also have a shot, I am providing him with one in his "groom" kit.

Know what bugs me a ton though? People who do their bachelor/bachelorette parties the NIGHT BEFORE the wedding and get hammered. My cousin's BMs couldn't even walk straight at her wedding b/c they were so hung over. Lame.

Shelly527IN · March 2012

I've never had a drop of alcohol in my life and can't see me starting then! I could see FI possibly having a beer with the GM, but I doubt he will. I don't think our Baptist preacher would like us drinking in the basement of the church as we get ready!

MiksChick23 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_so-drinking-prior-to-the-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:ba7c9669-199e-47ed-9992-7d1d3b8d7207Post:3414eae5-13ca-4100-9abd-dc849d08e1ea">Re: S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony : Ding ding ding! Now that's a zinger question. Especially one where you're promising to love your best friend through thick and thin, no matter what. I also think there are 48758924789347 other ways to calm your nerves that don't involve alcohol. This is one of those things where as long as the B&G are okay with it, fine. If either one of them isn't and someone still chooses to drink, I think that's incredibly disrespectful.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. I think its something to discuss with your FI prior to the ceremony and you should respect each other's wishes. If you are both ok with the other getting sloshed before saying your vows, then you should rethink marriage b/c you certainly aren't very mature!

Sabriel14 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_so-drinking-prior-to-the-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:ba7c9669-199e-47ed-9992-7d1d3b8d7207Post:8b5bedf9-c9c2-4c94-b878-cdbc6a898ca4">Re: S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]Our priest won't marry us if we've been drinking beforehand. You wouldn't drink before a normal church service, so why would you here?
Posted by kathleenkmm[/QUOTE]

There are times I'll go to a 7pm Sunday service. I don't consider a beer at 3 or 4 in the afternoon to be drinking before church, so I guess I apply the same logic to the wedding. If I have a mimosa at 10 or 11 and my ceremony isn't until 2, then it's still 3 or 4 hours before. Different views, I guess.

That said, if FI said he had an issue, I wouldn't drink.

sleblanc72 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_so-drinking-prior-to-the-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:ba7c9669-199e-47ed-9992-7d1d3b8d7207Post:3414eae5-13ca-4100-9abd-dc849d08e1ea">Re: S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony : Ding ding ding! Now that's a zinger question. Especially one where you're promising to love your best friend through thick and thin, no matter what. I also think there are 48758924789347 other ways to calm your nerves that don't involve alcohol. This is one of those things where as long as the B&G are okay with it, fine. If either one of them isn't and someone still chooses to drink, I think that's incredibly disrespectful.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]
I absolutely agree with this, it's a complete respect thing.

janeash · March 2012

I see both sides of the issue. I want to be sober and I know FI does too, but I will still be having a champagne with my girls when we are getting ready. I do come from a huge drinking family and so does FI though. I know the boys will probably be having a beer or two, but really, we are on a beach in Maui, on holiday and I really don't mind if they have one or two while they are getting ready.....I know they are smart enough not to do anything stupid!

I like Kelsey's idea!! might send a 6 pack over to them during "getting ready time" just to ruin their "sneaking a drink" fun!

michellep1 · March 2012

I don't think its appropriate to get wasted or drink just to drink before the ceremony, but I don't see anything wrong with a mimosa or two. We'll be having mimosas and bellinis (because I don't like orange juice, a bellini is basically any other fruit juice & champagne) while getting ready at the salon. We'll also have bagels & fruit and other snacks though so I don't think anyone will be overdoing it. I also don't want to have to go to the bathroom too much once my dress is on, since it'll require extensive assistance!

I have noooo idea what FI will be doing. I haven't talked to him about it, although I probably will after this discussion. He doesn't even know where he's getting ready yet which really bugs me but he likes to wait until the last minute to decide things.

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