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nekos2nekos2 member
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I will be getting married in July.  This will be my second....his first.  I have an idea of how i want the wording on the invites but im not sure how to list my name.  After my first marriage i  kept my married last name.  He would like me to use my maiden name on the invites and for the ceremony.  Can I do this?
Also should I list him first on the invites since this is his first wedding or should my name come first even though this is my second wedding?
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    You should use the name you go by.  If your name is your married name, you shouldn't put your maiden on the invitation.  

    I've never heard of the groom going first on the invitation regardless of which wedding it was for them.  
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  • squirrlysquirrly member
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    The bride is first, regardless, and strict etiquette states that you should use your First Maiden Married name.

    The pleasure of your company is requested
    at the marriage of

    First Maiden Married
    to
    Groom Middle Last

    Saturday, the eighth of May
    two thousand ten

    etc.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_names?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:a4ec9773-2503-4a6e-8154-06f9bbd99d1aPost:ddf7c795-a16e-4f96-b8a9-4b8a4674006c">Re: Names</a>:
    [QUOTE]Are you planning to put your parents on the invite?  If you list your parents as hosts, it is permissible to leave off your last name entirely, and just put your first and middle names.
    Posted by quotequeen[/QUOTE]


    Actually. . . the bride's parents should host her wedding only if she has never been previously married or is widdowed.  If divorced, she and her groom should host it themselves.  Again - strict etiquette rules.

    Still though - that's your NAME.  It's what people know you by.  I would use my legal name, if I were you.
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    Personally, I wouldn't want someone getting an invitation and going, "Nekos Maidenname?  Who the heck is that?"  If you don't go by your maiden name, don't put it on the invitation.
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  • janedoe1113ajanedoe1113a member
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    Yea, I think you should use your married name since that is your legal name.
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