KPS Question

Moneypenny424 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]Our generation werent raging alcoholics sweetheart (whoever posted that), go watch mad men. THAT generation were raging alcoholics.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Maybe she's a lawyer--they're all cokeheads and alcoholics :).

jasmineh7777 · May 2010

I would say they were a generation of classy alcoholics.

I am pretty excited about the one with the simpson's picture. I just saw that episode the other day.

shellydiane820 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS Question : If I was better with photoshop, I'd have changed your hand in your pic to a Wolverine paw or something :)
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]
That would be hilarious!

RachNRich · May 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS Question : I know, that one is rough. I know you may lose a lot of money, but it is ALWAYS better to call off a wedding when you knew you shouldn't get married than get divorced, IMHO.
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]

You took the words right out of my mouth.

I can understand not wanting to disappoint my family, friends, his family, friends....HIM. But? Spending the rest of my life living a lie? I don't think I could pull it off....and by lie, I don't mean "lie about the cheating right before marriage" part, but lying to myself to convince myself the marriage was worth avoiding the demons in the first place.

aggiebug · May 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS Question : I know, that one is rough. I know you may lose a lot of money, but it is ALWAYS better to call off a wedding when you knew you shouldn't get married than get divorced, IMHO.
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]

Its a heck of a lot less money than you will lose in a divorce!

I know what its like feeling trapped in a situation because getting out will disappoint so many people. But those close to you will love you and support your decision.

arbolita · May 2010

Reading some of these secrets make me understand why the divorce rate is so high.

shellydiane820 · May 2010

I can't imagine marrying someone I don't like...let alone love. If you think about the rest of your life. You might be married 50+ years. Oh my.

shellydiane820 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]Reading some of these secrets make me understand why the divorce rate is so high.
Posted by arbolita[/QUOTE]
I agree.

RachNRich · May 2010

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[QUOTE]Reading some of these secrets make me understand why the divorce rate is so high.
Posted by arbolita[/QUOTE]
I couldn't agree more.

Moneypenny424 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]Reading some of these secrets make me understand why the divorce rate is so high.
Posted by arbolita[/QUOTE]

I completely agree. It also makes me realize that things definitely aren't always as they seem...

emarston1 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]Holy balls. The newest KPS is redic. Now THAT makes me sad---so for her, and her soon-to-be husband.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

It is really sad but it also makes me realize how lucky I am. I love FI and he loves me which apparently is a lot more than some people have.

And wow that sounded really "Susie Sunshine" of me but oh well.

MeaghanandMichael · May 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS Question : I agree.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

Screw our Hs, marry me instead?

katiewhompus · May 2010

I almost married someone I didn't love or really even like. (Not my post secret btw, just commenting). We started dating in college and continued afterward. Lived together, had pets we purchased together, etc. I figured it would be the best chance I had and "settled". About a month before we broke up he told me "tell him when I felt like getting married"
Thank god for Dh coming along and bringing me to my senses.

And yeah, I made much closer relationships with people I played WoW with than most people I have met irl in my old city. Take it how you want, but it's true.

Nebb · May 2010

I have to admit im jealous of all of these people engaged to peopel they dont love and in love with other people. I have only ever been engaged once and im married to him, no one else in mmy past even close wanted to marry me. Im jealous that some people have had multiple people want to do that.

katiewhompus · May 2010

In college I always wondered how girls had a bunch of random hook-ups. In my life I've had maybe...6 people who wanted to have sex with me, and only 3 who got the chance (the other 3 were my drunk make-out buddies). I was secretly jealous of my roomie who slept with a new guy every week, because obviously she had "something" that I didn't.

Now I'm happy I don't have a huge list of college hook ups though.

shellydiane820 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS Question : Screw our Hs, marry me instead?
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
OMG! Yes!

Isn't that legal in Mass?

katiewhompus · May 2010

And DC!!

kimheartsscott · May 2010

I'm worried I will feel the same way about our wedding as the most recent one. Except not involving the in-laws.

shellydiane820 · May 2010

I don't want to sound arrogant or anything, but has anyone else found that once you're engaged/married more guys are interested in you?

Edit: Reading womp's comment made me think about it.

katiewhompus · May 2010

Engaged yes, married no. I was lamenting to my friend the other day that no other guy has looked/hit on me since I got married and it made me feel like I lost my mojo. It could also be the 20 pounds I put on ...or the fact that I also am not looking at them to see them looking at me...

shellydiane820 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]Engaged yes, married no. I was lamenting to my friend the other day that no other guy has looked/hit on me since I got married and it made me feel like I lost my mojo. It could also be the 20 pounds I put on ...or the fact that I also am not looking at them to see them looking at me...
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

I've gone out a couple times with girlfriends, and I feel like they don't even care. Granted, these aren't classy fellas, they are like the creeps that you cover your drinks around.

emarston1 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]I don't want to sound arrogant or anything, but has anyone else found that once you're engaged/married more guys are interested in you? Edit: Reading womp's comment made me think about it.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

It does seem like more (or maybe I'm just noticing it more?) But it amazes me how they either don't notice a ring or don't realize what it symbolizes. I had one guy seriously say, "Engaged? Like to be married?" And no he wasn't drunk.

katiewhompus · May 2010

Bleh...maybe it's good I'm not getting the attention then lol.

I must admit, a few months ago I went out with Dh, sil/bil and some of her friends to a gay club in DC. After spending 2 hours not getting hit on by gorgeous men because they were gay and too busy google eyeing my husband, I was very happy when one said "You know, if I had a fucking hot wife like you I might be straight too". It made me feel warm and fuzzy.

shellydiane820 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]Bleh...maybe it's good I'm not getting the attention then lol. I must admit, a few months ago I went out with Dh, sil/bil and some of her friends to a gay club in DC. After spending 2 hours not getting hit on by gorgeous men because they were gay and too busy google eyeing my husband, I was very happy when one said "You know, if I had a fucking hot wife like you I might be straight too". It made me feel warm and fuzzy.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
That is so nice!

katiewhompus · May 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS Question : It does seem like more (or maybe I'm just noticing it more?) But it amazes me how they either don't notice a ring or don't realize what it symbolizes. I had one guy seriously say, "Engaged? Like to be married?" And no he wasn't drunk.
Posted by emarston1[/QUOTE]

Now that you say this...I had a guy do that when I was at my old job. I sold him a dog training class and he goes "So...would it be inappropriate to ask for a private lesson, maybe over dinner?" I just laughed akwardly and was like "Well it's against company policy and I'm married, so that won't happen". He goes "Oh...well...that's ok, I can just pretend you aren't married".

Um...excuse me? It doesn't work that way buddy!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2010

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[QUOTE]I thought thats what it was, but I wasnt sure. I didnt realize you could die from that. That makes that post so sad then. Its incredible how much strangers on the internet can touch someones life, huh.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

<div>It depends how severe it is. It's genetic - both parents need to be a carried for it to be passed on I (and you need to inherit a gene from both, so kids of 2 carriers have a 1 in 4 chance of getting it). Sometimes it's so severe that babies born with CF can't even draw their first breath because their lungs are so filled with fluid. It affects the lungs and the spleen and liver, I think. Nowadays there are a lot of treatments, and people with less severe cases can live a fairly long life with it, but others die in childhood or in their 20s or 30s. </div><div>
</div><div>I read a book when I was a kid called, "Alex: the life of a child" about a girl who died at age 7 or 8 of cyctic fibrosis, around 1979. It was written by her father. Obviously, treatments have come a long way since then, and now they have genetic testing, but you can still die.</div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS Question : You took the words right out of my mouth. I can understand not wanting to disappoint my family, friends, his family, friends....HIM. But? Spending the rest of my life living a lie? I don't think I could pull it off....and by lie, I don't mean "lie about the cheating right before marriage" part, but lying to myself to convince myself the marriage was worth avoiding the demons in the first place.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

<div>There's also the whole living your life after the fact thing. If you tell someone, "I was in a serious relationship for 6 years, we never got married," that's one thing. If someone told me they were engaged at one point, I'd raise an eyebrow and wonder why. If someone I wanted to date had been divorced, I would sincerely hope they had dealt with whatever issues led to the failed marriage. Different levels of commitment. </div>

megk8oz · May 2010

I know I don't play here much, but I'm hooked on the KPS.

... and I don't care if this gets ignored but I really just need to say that I seriously want to punch the baby of whoever called gamers losers.

katiewhompus · May 2010

Also I feel for the one who's afraid her fi/dh (I forget which) loves WoW more than her. That's part of why I left my ex, and why I still have major security issues when Dh get involved with video games, and also why I have huge pysco issues with porn.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2010

Holy crap, I just realized the author of that book on cystic fibrosis is this awesome sports commentator I listen to on NPR. I think my head is going to explode.

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