I've ventured back to this board as my wedding has just passed the 365 days to go mark. Things are getting done. Everything's going great. And I wanted to address something I see here a lot: preplanning.
There's a lot of preplanners. And a lot of angry anti-preplanners (many of whom seem to already be married). I preplanned LIKE A CRAZY PERSON. and I wanted to talk about the results of that.
It was the best thing I could have done for this wedding.
Once I got engaged yes, there was a couple weeks of excited open planning and getting to ask the fiance about his ideas. But then it slowed down and I got over it. If I had not preplanned I do not think this wedding would go off with the same order, lack of panic, etc. Once you're engaged suddenly the wedding is just...a thing. It's not some crazy change in your life, that's marriage. My priorities right now are with my job and with my relationship. I pretty much stopped caring so much about the wedding as soon as that ring was on my finger. Luckily I had already thought through most of the logistics, so the fact that I'm not thinking about it every second isn't going to stop me from having a good event.
I'm just happy to be with him, for the rest of my life, and we could go to the courthouse tomorrow and that would be fine with me. Just not with our mothers heh...
AND, I've admitted my preplanning to my fiance. And while he teased me for being an OAG, he was still happy to have something to start with, cause let's face it...boys have NO IDEA what's going on. He didn't even know engagement photos were a thing.
If you're a crazy preplanner and that's a deal breaker, maybe he didn't like your personality to begin with.
And if you're already married why the hell are you on a wedding board criticizing other girls for their choices? That's CRAZY. Like...get a job. or a baby. or whatever it is you need to do to have something better to do with your time.
Un-engaged girls: daydream away. and don't let people tell you you're a bad girlfriend or whatever because you preplan. It's a WEDDING WEBSITE with a NOT YET ENGAGED board. It SHOULD be a place specifically for preplanners, not vultures.