I got married month's ago but this subject still bother's the crap out of my DH and I. Not a single one of my bridesmaids got me a gift for my wedding, not even something as little as a card to say congratulations. These are long-time friends! Ontop of that, they didn't even put any effort into my bachelorette party. One of them didn't even come! They took me out to a local bar-that was it. I asked if we could do dinner or bowling or something beforehand and I was told "if you don't like it don't come." They finally agreed that we could go out to dinner and took me to some sketch dive where I paid for my own meal and drinks. As we proceeded to the bar, I paid for my own cover and drinks to the 2 bars we went to.
This whole situation irks me especially with my MOH. Not only has she been my best friend since birth, but for her wedding I had to spend an arm and a leg on the shower present, the wedding present and the Cache bridesmaid dress all while being a broke college student...and she didn't even ask me to be her Maid of Honor - that was a blow. I was underage for her bachelorette party so I didn't get to go to that.
Instead of a shower, my DH and I had a Jack and Jill. My MOH was in charge of buying cups and plates and what-not and had the nerve to tell me that she didn't get paid for the $50 worth of cups and plates that she bought for our Jack & Jill so we had to pay her for it afterwards out of the money that we made.
On top of that, my girls offered to help get things together the day before the wedding (it was all a DIY wedding at my house) and no one showed up to help! They came at 4:30 when the rehearsal dinner was at 5 asking if I needed help. Two of them even had the day off.
While my bridesmaids didn't do a darn thing, my husband's groomsmen set the whole tent up (lights, tables, chairs, flowers, tableclothes), helped with hours of yardwork in prepartion for the wedding, threw my husband an amazing bachelor party in Boston with limo transportation and the whole deal, AND they all pitched in together to get us a grill for our wedding present.
I am not one who expects gifts what-so-ever but these are long-time friends that didn't do a single special thing for my for my wedding. I actually cried over it for hours at the time of my wedding (not on my actual wedding day) and I will probably never say a word about it to them but it stills hurts and bothers me like crazy.
Whats your opinion?