How long after the wedding...

kaesha · October 2010

are you planning to take your honeymoon?

kara811 · October 2010

We're going a day or 2 after the wedding!

fallbride1109 · October 2010

We went the Monday after our Saturday wedding and that was perfect.

Heather822 · October 2010

We got married on a Friday, and left that Sunday.
IMHO ~ if you don't leave within a week of your wedding, maybe a month absolute tops, its not a honeymoon anymore.... just a vacation you take with your spouse.

SuMmErKuTiE · October 2010

We left the next afternoon on a 3:00 flight which worked out perfectly. We didn't want to go home, we wanted to just be whisked away and celebrate our marriage before going back into normal day to day life. We were able to sleep in, have breakfast with family, and hang out with my MOH and his BM again before going to the airport.

impslave · October 2010

We were married on 3/27/10 and are leaving for what DH is calling our "anniversarymoon" on 3/27/11. The law firm where I work doesn't give you vacation days until you have been employed for a full year, that didn't happen until this August.

We did take a quick trip to Disneyland over Memorial Day weekend, but that was still two months after our wedding.

kaesha · October 2010

I think a honeymoon is simply about a mindset rather than a set date. We stayed on Maui for 2 weeks after our wedding there, but I don't count that as our honeymoon at all as we were still entertaining wedding guests during that time. We'll be back on the islands next summer (2 years after our wedding) and we're calling that our honeymoon.

ButtonsPepper · October 2010

Got married on Sat. Left monday. It was great having that day.

Chasity08 · October 2010

We're going 4 months later due to visitation with FI's son and wanting to go after the tourist season dies down. So we're getting married in June and going in October. =]

alithebride · October 2010

3 weeks after.

christy7211 · October 2010

We're getting married 7/2/11 and going on our honeymoon 8/28/11. The price difference was almost $600 per person from one date to the other. Our family will also be here during the 4th of July and we want to stay and celebrate summer with them. We figure that waiting will give us one more fun thing to look forward to!

kaesha · October 2010

I think the concept of a honeymoon being taken right after the wedding being different from a romantic vacation is an archaic way of approaching the concept. This definition relies on how honeymoons used to be - a way for people to spend time together for the first time. So, if you're a Victorian (which is really when honeymoons became popular amongst the middle class), of course, the honeymoon is going to be a big deal. You weren't allowed to be alone in the same room together let alone go off on vacation together. So, your honeymoon was your first vacation together. And, given the difficulty in travel back then, couples often waited until balmier seasons to take one.

But, these days it seems most people live together before getting married. So, the question becomes what differentiates any romantic vacation you took together before getting married with the first romantic vacation you take after you get married? Is it the existence of your marriage certificate? Obviously not. You're excited because of who you're with and where you're going. It's special because you and your husband have decided to imbue this trip with meaning, not because it's an experience that's totally new and unfamiliar to you or because of some arbitrary deadline. And that's what I mean when I say it's a more a mindset. Equally, if you took a trip together right after your marriage and chose not to define it as a honeymoon, it wouldn't be one. Traditions are meaningless unless you choose to give them meaning, KWIM?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · October 2010

We left 2 days after the wedding. We had family in town and wanted to entertain them the next day, come home, and pack for the honeymoon after the wedding!

jemmini6 · October 2010

We are getting married on a Saturday and will leave either that Sunday or Monday. For us, it's not necessarily that we feel it has to be right after the wedding to be an actual 'HM', just that I absolutely do NOT want to get married on Saturday, and be back to work Monday morning. I want time to let the whole thing sink in and wind down from the stress of having a wedding in the first place. So yes, technically, it's just a vacation, but it's the first vacation where I get to call him my 'husband'.

njpabzy · October 2010

got married 10/10/10 and are leaving for HM on 11/18/10

Beverly8 · October 2010

our wedding is on a saturday afternoon...originally we were going to fly out sunday morning, the only reason we changed plans to monday was because we found airfare to be cheaper to fly out on monday instead of saturday/sunday. Im glad we are leaving monday now, i feel personally i would be sooo exhausted and stressed trying to leave the very next day!

sessionswedding · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_long-after-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:1e996bc1-71e1-49ab-be11-a14f6254fab5Post:c11febcc-ba08-469d-a9bc-58b2d874096c">Re: How long after the wedding...</a>:
[QUOTE]We got married on a Friday, and left that Sunday. IMHO ~ if you don't leave within a week of your wedding, maybe a month absolute tops, its not a honeymoon anymore.... just a vacation you take with your spouse.
Posted by Heather822[/QUOTE]
Amen, sister. If you know that you can't go on your honeymoon until fall, why get married in spring? FI and I literally picked our wedding date because it was the Saturday before a week during which we could both go on our honeymoon.

My FI and I will be leaving on Sunday late morning/early afternoon after getting married on Saturday in the late afternoon. We're driving to our destination (it's only 8 or 9 hours) so we can kind of leave whenever we're ready, so we can leave within 24 hours without feeling rushed.

MyWedding13 · October 2010

We are going 3 weeks later since we are both pharmacy students and that is when we get a break from class

cncatalano · October 2010

We got married on Sunday (10/10), and I had to go back to work Tuesday-Thursday, then we had a flight on Thursday night. OMG, I'd never do that again... DEFINITELY wish I didn't have to go back to work. But, being a teacher and getting married during the school year didn't work out so well.... could only take 2 days off of work

Thank god for my husband taking care of laundry and packing and everything!

SweetCharade · October 2010

Getting married on a Saturday (12/11/10) and leaving on Monday (12/13/10). We've got a 5:40 am flight...can honestly say I'm not looking forward to that, but we'll be at our destination by 1 pm (long layover in Charlotte, NC) so we'll still get to spend some quality time on the beach the first day there.

red1115 · October 2010

Kaesha: Amen sister!

FI is returning overseas for work within days after the wedding, so we won't see each other again until late next year - does that negate our "honeymoon"? I don't think so...

For those brides who can plan their honeymoon close to their weddings, good for you! Go for it! But for those of us who have to sacrifce such things so that our loved ones can ensure your freedoms to do so, don't negate our right to call our time together a "honeymoon". (whenever it we end up having it)

Middlesnpoddles · October 2010

We are having a wedding/honeymoon all in one.. going to hawaii by ourselves And then having a small reception when we get back!! It's so much cheaper and less stressful!

DanielleZZ · October 2010

We are getting married on a saturday and have to be at the airport for our honeymoon at 4am the next day, so right away.

Amber598 · October 2010

We are getting married on Saturday 6/4/11 and leaving for our honeymoon on Monday 6/12. We are taking a week in between so we can have time to wind down and also take a cruise to the Bahamas.

katheriner89 · October 2010

We are getting married 7/2/11, leaving for the honeymoon 10/20/11.
I don't really care if its "past time" to call it a honeymoon, we are paying for it, so it's going to be a honeymoon. My FI doesn't get vacation time until sept. so we planned it in Oct. hopefully the hurricanes are overwith by the time we get on our cruise ship.

julieandjojo · October 2010

our wedding 12/11/10 & the earliest we can take one is February due to our work schedules...that being said we live together and have "been together" and generally agree that the idea of a honeymoon is outdated and overrated for us... so we may go somewhere feb. or we may wait til the summer when it will be easier to get more days off. or we may find a house we want to buy and fore-go it all together!

needle&thread · October 2010

We're getting married and then, immediately after the reception, driving to Amish country for our "bed and breakfast, antiquing, shopping, home-cooking" honeymoon.

S and CJ

osumegs · October 2010

We are going 2 weeks after. FI is in the middle of his first year of residency. We are getting married May 15 and leaving Memorial Day weekend. He happens to have that holiday off, so he will only have to take 4 days of work off to go.

mandolinchick · October 2010

We're getting married Saturday, June 25, 2011 and planning to leave for the honeymoon on Monday, June 27.

lilcherub44 · October 2010

Unless we get some early monetary wedding gifts, we're looking to go 1 year after.

ShadowAP · October 2010

The people who say it's not a honeymoon unless it's right after the wedding are incredibly rude and thoughtless. You don't pick your wedding date because that's when you can go on vacation - the wedding is the important part, you should pick a date that is important and meaningful to you, and you fit the honeymoon in when you can. If that's right after the wedding, then great (although I think this is a terrible idea because it's so stressful). If it's later, then so be it. If it's years later, then what's the problem?

The FI and I are actually having TWO honeymoons (shock! scandal!). We're getting married 3/19/11 because it's close to my birthday and it's spring break for most of our family and friends so it is a super convenient (and cheap!) travel time, but we're both graduate students and we cannot take off in the middle of a semester. So we were originally planning a May honeymoon, right after school let out, but I'm a BM in one of my BM's weddings in May now, so the next time our Alaska tour package leaves is 6/17/11, so June it is.

On top of that, my grandfather gave us a week in a timeshare, specifically for our honeymoon, not knowing that we had already made Alaska plans. So we're taking a week in Florida in November, around FI's birthday, as a sort-of second honeymoon. I consider that one to be more of a vacation, but my grandfather specifically wanted it to be a honeymoon, so second honeymoon it is.

Break rules, I say! You're already blowing all your money on a vacation anyway (very irresponsible!), so why be all stuffy about it?

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