I posted this in the "Wedding Party" forum too, but you ladies are so wise I had to post here too....
So FI's cousin came over last night and we were talking about the wedding and he bluts out all excitedly: "So I know I'm your best man right?!" Babe actually laughed out loud, until he realized his cousin was serious then he got serious too and said "C'mon man, you know my twin is gonna be my best man."
His cousins response: "Well, I know I better be in the WP!"
Babe response: "Why don't you just pay for everything that way we can make sure we have everything the way YOU want."
Cousin: (looking confused) "seriously tho, I'm not a grooms man."
Babe: "The wedding is more than a year away, but if you must know, my GM will be D (his twin), D2 (his older brother) and S (his older cousin)."
His cousin was pissed about this and left b/c Babe hadn't chose him as a GM.
First off: How rude to put someone in that position and second, Babe is trying to figure out how to "make things right"... Any suggestions?
Re: FI's cousin demands to be Best Man
Who the heck demands to be a BM or in the bridal party for that matter. On the other hand, i hear him on feeling left out .... but his behavior is unacceptable. He needs to grow up!
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How old is this cousin? If he's early 20s or younger, I'd say he is just immature. If he's older than that, then he really needs to get it together!
I think its nice that fi is trying to make it up to him, he honestly cares about his cousins feelings. In stead of calling him an usher, maybe he can be a host with usher duties.
(I must be in a good mood today, lol)
We just had lunch and FI said his cousin called and apologized about storming out, but he had assumed he would be included, (annnd the alcohol didn't help lol) FI said he apologized for not thinking to include him and that he would find another way to make sure he is involved... So I guess, crisis averted for now lol...
Im glad he called tho b/c FI really cares about all his family and tries to be super considerate of everyone (it gets on my nerves sometimes, but is one of the things I love most about him lol) :-)
FI can say: "we figured you'd enjoy being a guest rather than having so many responsibilities" (finacial and otherwise).
or
"we decided not to have a huge wedding party, so we didn't think of it as a big deal"
sometimes when wedding parties are so huge, ppl that weren't asked feel left out; just say you guys wanted to keep it minimal.
That was rude on his cousin's part. My FI and I agreed that we didn't want our relatives in the wedding because they are not the most dependable people when things need to get done. His cousin needs to learn that you don't ask to be in someone's wedding party! I understand that he's excited, but there are ways to handle this type of issue.
Be prepared for when you have children. He might ask if he's going to be the godfather.
[QUOTE]That was rude on his cousin's part. My FI and I agreed that we didn't want our relatives in the wedding because they are not the most dependable people when things need to get done. His cousin needs to learn that you don't ask to be in someone's wedding party! I understand that he's excited, but there are ways to handle this type of issue.<strong> Be prepared for when you have children. He might ask if he's going to be the godfather</strong>.
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OHMIGOODNESS!!!! he already did that when I was pregnant! Lol... FI cut striaght to the chase with that with a resounding NO! lol...
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