Over reacting or not....

Re: Over reacting or not....

• Calypso1977 member

  

  January 2012

  its sort of 2 questions.
  
  should she wear this?  IMO, no.
  
  can you tell her she shoudnt wear this?  no.

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• Rebis58 member

  

  January 2012

  I agree with some of the PPs. SHOULD she wear this? Probably not, I wouldn't. Should you do anything about it? No.

  
  

  My mom planned to wear something fairly similar - white pants and a black top. She also mentioned if she gets hot later in the evening she would take the black top off and have a white lighter top underneath (meaning she would be head to toe white). 

  
  

  I really couldn't care less what my mom or FMIL wear, as long as they are comfortable and feel beautiful, but I also know my mom and know she would NEVER want to be centre of attention or have people side eye her. So when she mentioned this outfit plan, I gently suggested to her that there was the possibility that people might wonder about why she wore all white. I made sure to say several times that I was completely fine with it, I just wanted her to be aware of what it might seem like. She immediately planned to change the colour of the lighter top to beige or black, instead of white.

  
  

  However, if my mom was the type who wanted attention and I thought she was doing this on purpose, I definitely wouldn't have said anything. I just didn't want her to be embarrassed or for anyone to say/think anything bad about her. Let your FMIL do what she wants, she will be embarrassing herself, not you.

  

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• cindyn9178 member

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  I know you cannot tell her what to wear, but I would be annoyed with her choice to wear white, even if it is just a jacket. It is customary for the bride to wear white, and everybody knows they shouldn't wear white to a wedding.
  As for the material, I don't see any problem with that, and as PP's said, Black is a common color and many people will be wearing black. If your color was turquoise or lime green and she wore a dress of that color, that would be a little different.
  I also see no reason that she needs to "mesh" with the colors. My BM dresses were silver/grey. My mom wore Taupe and the MOG wore Black.
  
  ETA- I was a BM and we wore black dresses and the MOB wore black. Nobody cared.

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• juliebug1997 member

  

  January 2012

  My mom wore pink.  MIL wanted to wear red (the other color of the wedding).  After reading someone's comment the other day (a joke, I know) that any woman who wears red to the wedding is saying that she slept with the groom, I am now glad that DH talked her out of it. 
  
  

  Possible Infestation

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