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mkrupar
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Thoughts
So there's this couple that's getting married on 10/10/10, which I know lots of girls are. They, however, are having their reception/dinner first, then having their ceremony at 10:00pm by candlelight, so they can tell everyone they got married on 10/10/10 at 10 (which FI points out that it's really 2200 hours).
So, I ask the following:
Are numbers in dates really that important to you? ie: when you were planning was the date or order of numbers super important?
As a guest, would it be strange to have reception/dinner first, then ceremony?
My answers:
1) I think the event is what makes a date special, not the other way around.
2) I think I might be a little drunk by the time the ceremony rolled around, or tired. I don't know what they're doing after the ceremony, but it feels a little anti-climactic.
So, I ask the following:
Are numbers in dates really that important to you? ie: when you were planning was the date or order of numbers super important?
As a guest, would it be strange to have reception/dinner first, then ceremony?
My answers:
1) I think the event is what makes a date special, not the other way around.
2) I think I might be a little drunk by the time the ceremony rolled around, or tired. I don't know what they're doing after the ceremony, but it feels a little anti-climactic.
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Re: Thoughts
I would most likely be drunk by the time a ceremony rolled around at 10pm
Nope.
As a guest, would it be strange to have reception/dinner first, then ceremony?
Nope.
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Unless it was a very close relative or friend I wouldn't go to a wedding that was a 10pm on a Sunday when I have to wake up at 5am the next day. Just my opinion though
The date didn't matter to us but we wanted the Sunday of a holiday weekend for religious purposes and because we have a large OOT guest list. But the fact that it was a special arrangement of numbers did not amtter at all.
I've been to one wedding like that, but it was a small NYE wedding at the couple's home, where they had the actual ceremony at midnight. They did that for tax purposes; it made more financial sense to get married 1/1/10 than 12/31/09. I didn't think it was weird then, but just to get married at 10:00? Yeah, that's odd. I roll my eyes at that type of "logic."
It's just that 10-10-10 was convenient to what I wanted. I'm from upstate NY, so the middle of October is the most beautiful time of year. I've always wanted to get married in October. FI is from MA and feels the same way. The second or third weekend of October worked for us. The second weekend happens to be Columbus Day and a lot of people have off. 10-10-10 is a Sunday, so slightly cheaper, and yes, it seemed fun.
I am going to be exhausted by the end of the day. I am going to be SO ready to get out of my hair, clothes and makeup by the end of the reception. This is also why we're doing pics in the afternoon - that's when I'll look my best.
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So we changed it to a random day in May.
Our date was random - we wanted May so that we had a 1 year engagement and that was a Saturday in May. (lots of thought behind that. lol)
I'm not sure I'd enjoy being a guest at a wedding that was at 10pm. If I had a few drinks and a full belly and then had to sit and be quiet I'd probably fall asleep.
At the time we set the date, I was planning on being in school the next year and I would have had the month of August off so we planned it for then. We were also originally going to do Friday the 13th of August because it fit, we started dating on a Friday the 13th and it was cheaper. In the end we wanted a Saturday to accomodate our OOT guests easier so we just pushed it back a day.
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In hindsight, we should have put more thought into our date. I'm a nerd. He's a nerd. It never occurred to us that we were booking the same weekend in the same city as the FBR Open or the day before the Superbowl.
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[QUOTE]Oh, and as far as your friends wedding... I kind of think a candlelight ceremony would be beautiful. But, 10 is not late to me, although it is to lots of people.
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I think it's great, but at that time of year, you can do it at 8 and have a dessert reception. I wouldn't do the reception before.
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But I didn't seek out that date or anything. My cousin is getting married 12-11-10 and she's all excited about it. Meh.
And 10pm for a ceremony? I'd definitely have had one too many drinks by then. And on a Sunday even? That's a bit rude.
ETA: since the price of our parking depends on if the Reds are in town, I'm glad that we went with May 21. They will be out of town, so parking at the football stadium will be $4/car not $10/car! WAHOO!!
Maybe if I was dead set on a may wedding and my birthday was on a saturday that year perhaps we'd chose that date. Or if we wanted to get married in November and the 28th (our dating anniversary) was a saturday, then maybe yeah we'd chose a specific date.
But the whole 10.10.10 @ 10pm thing is silly. IMO. It's kind of juvenille or something... I can't think of the right word. Trying to hard? IDK. I just think it's stupid.
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Dates don't mean that much to me. I knew that I didn't want to wait until next year to have the summer wedding that I always wanted and I didn't want to have it too late in November cause with Chicago weather, you just never know. So the first Saturday in November sounded good. Hopefully the weather cooperates.
And a reception first and then the wedding is totally as$ backwards IMO. People are going to be too tired to sit through the ceremony, no matter how short it is, not to mention drunk. They are just gonna party and then go home and say the hell with the wedding.
2. Ceremony after the reception? I would think it's odd. True story.
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My FI chose the date. I couldn't care less about the number. I agreed to the date because it gave me 9 months to plan, and October in California is beautiful. Having a 10pm ceremony on a Sunday is amazingly inconsiderate, in my opinion.
I don't think I'd like the reversed ceremony/reception.
We chose our date somewhat randomly, but based on weather mainly. We wanted to get married when it was warm but not overbearingly hot, and before the Florida summer daily showers. That pretty much left April and some of May, but H is super busy in May. We didn't want to get married on Easter weekend or my dad's birthday, so that left April 10th. The date itself didn't matter to us.
There is no way I would attend a wedding at 10pm on a Sunday. Thats past my bedtime.