A feel good story

Re: A feel good story

• anna.oskar member

  

  November 2010

  Wow.  That's totally cool of her.
  
  You're totally right B. Definitely a feel-good story.
  

  
  
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• Steph0871

  

  November 2010

  I love that the employees were even given a Christmas bonus still.

  
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• HobokensFury member

  

  November 2010

  I wish there were more bosses like her.

   
   

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• AllAboutTheBenjamin member

  

  November 2010

  Wow, that's pretty incredible.  Hats off to her!
  
  Btw B - I love that the E-Thug is back!

  

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• betrothed123

  

  November 2010

  Thank you, AATB.

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  And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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• kd.joseph

  

  November 2010

  Thanks for sharing B.All too often these days you hear of the higher ups giving themselves raises while their employees are being layed off left and right.

  

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• beatlesgirl25

  

  November 2010

  What a wonderful thing for her to do. It must also make her feel good to still be involved in the company to a small degree (thought unpaid), and to feel like she could go back someday once things are better. I hope it happens!

  
  
  
  
  Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
  
  "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko

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• tinydancer842

  

  November 2010

  My boss hasn't been paying himself for a couple yrs now, but doesn't advertise it (I only know b/c the girl I work under is good friends with him personally) -- but he still runs the office. IMHO, I would have kept the same job at a lesser salary (similar to the one as a social worker) -- since I am sure she has more know how to run this business, etc. Also, am I supposed to feel bad that she had to downgrade from a mercedes to a BMW? 

  

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• betrothed123

  

  November 2010 edited November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:f7e527b5-fe01-40ce-94b2-df2c1c9447f0">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]My boss hasn't been paying himself for a couple yrs now, but doesn't advertise it (I only know b/c the girl I work under is good friends with him personally) -- but he still runs the office. IMHO, I would have kept the same job at a lesser salary (similar to the one as a social worker) -- since I am sure she has more know how to run this business, etc. Also, am I supposed to feel bad that she had to downgrade from a mercedes to a BMW? 
  Posted by tinydancer842[/QUOTE]
  I've also known people to do this without media attention, but that doesn't lessen what she's doing at all.
  
  And no, you don't have to feel bad for her, but you should recognize that there's quite the lifestyle change there.  I respect that.  The fact that she started out with a bit more money than some of us doesn't mean that her sacrifices should go unlooked.
  
  Beatles- I love tree kitty :D

  kd.joseph's wish is my command
  
  Just call me "Brothel"
  And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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• beatlesgirl25

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:4da21126-4b24-4ec0-bf40-c78e63c33615">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: A feel good story : I've also known people to do this without media attention, but that doesn't lessen what she's doing at all. And no, you don't have to feel bad for her, but you should recognize that there's quite the lifestyle change there.  I respect that. <strong> The fact that she started out with a bit more money than some of us doens't mean that her sacrifices should go unlooked.</strong> Beatles- I love tree kitty :D
  Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
  
  This. Of course I read her "adjustments" as lifestyle changes that are still above the way I live, but it's all relative to what you know. I think it's a humbling experience no matter what level you are at.
  
  And thank you B, I thought it was the right time to bring him out. I'm almost dreading putting up the tree this year because he is going to be living in it as soon as I do. It's funny though!
  
  p.s. Yay E-Thug bunny!

  
  
  
  
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  "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko

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• betrothed123

  

  November 2010

  I know what you mean.  I'm kind of glad we don't do the tree thing anymore because of my spawn of Satan kitty.

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  Just call me "Brothel"
  And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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• tinydancer842

  

  November 2010

  I don't view going from a mercedes to a bmw as a humbling experience, but that's just me. I think she should put her situation in perspective -- she left her high paying job for a lower paying job -- but she still has a job. I am not saying what she did is bad, but I don't find it to be the most inspiring story ever. 

  

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• beatlesgirl25

  

  November 2010

  Oh goodness KD! That would have been so terrible! No worries, Monkey has no collar. And that pic was taken during his first Christmas when he was still a baby. Now he's too big and fat to fit above the second tier of branches, so he doesn't have far to fall should something happen.
  
  Also, HI!
  

  
  
  
  
  Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
  
  "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko

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• betrothed123

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:f59e6282-cd5c-4a5d-a037-59f63111c148">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]I don't view going from a mercedes to a bmw as a humbling experience, but that's just me. I think she should put her situation in perspective -- she left her high paying job for a lower paying job -- but she still has a job. I am not saying what she did is bad, but <strong>I don't find it to be the most inspiring story ever.</strong> 
  Posted by tinydancer842[/QUOTE]
  No one said it was.
  
  I think you should gain some perspective.  It may not seem like a lot to you because you're looking at it form the point of view of never having had those things.  Look at it this way.  Let's say you or your SO lose your job.  It's not enough of a paycut to put you on the streets, but it's enough of a paycut to cut you down to one car, and force you to move from a spacious 1 bedroom apartment to a cramped studio apartment.  You still have a place to live, but it would be quite the change in your lifestyle.  The guy living on the street will look at you and say "Oh well am I supposed to feel bad for you because you still have a place to live and still have a car?" but you can't deny how big of a difference that would make in your life.
  
  No matter how bad you have it there's always someone else that has it worse.  That doesn't mean that huge change sin your life don't have a huge impact.

  kd.joseph's wish is my command
  
  Just call me "Brothel"
  And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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• betrothed123

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:23774ff9-dd9a-4fac-82b9-3bcf1d187905">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]Aw, no tree? I suppose it makes sense, given your feelings about Christmas. ;) We should share naughty cat stories sometime.
  Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
  I admit I kind of have a nagging feeling that I should put one up this year, but there's not really a point.  I just happened to find out fake tree and Christmas ornaments the other day so maybe that's why.

  kd.joseph's wish is my command
  
  Just call me "Brothel"
  And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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• beatlesgirl25

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:f59e6282-cd5c-4a5d-a037-59f63111c148">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]<strong>I don't view going from a mercedes to a bmw as a humbling experience, but that's just me.</strong> I think she should put her situation in perspective -- she left her high paying job for a lower paying job -- but she still has a job. I am not saying what she did is bad, but I don't find it to be the most inspiring story ever. 
  Posted by tinydancer842[/QUOTE]
  
  I think that's the whole point though, because your experiences have been different and (I'm guessing) not included downgrading through luxury cars. So it all might seem frivolous to us, but probably not to her. The whole "perspective" thing is relative to one's situation.
  
  If she was out there demanding special treatment because of all her sacrifices, then yeah I'd probably be less sympathetic. But she seems to be taking it in stride and has done a noble thing to save other families from potential poverty this winter. I don't feel sorry for her, but she doesn't feel sorry for herself either, so I don't think that's the point.

  
  
  
  
  Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
  
  "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko

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• beatlesgirl25

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:440632f4-6dcc-4569-9680-4adea01669a1">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: A feel good story : I admit I kind of have a nagging feeling that I should put one up this year, but there's not really a point.  I just happened to find out fake tree and Christmas ornaments the other day so maybe that's why.
  Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
  
  Sounds like they want to come out and play! But if you really don't want to, it would be a huge PITA. So I won't judge you either way. ;)

  
  
  
  
  Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
  
  "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko

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• tinydancer842

  

  November 2010

  But what is humbling about it? They are both luxury cars. Does she no longer have heated seats & leather interior -- I'm c'mon even if I was rich I would not view that as humbling. 

  

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• betrothed123

  

  November 2010

  H would laugh me out of the apartment if I suggested it, so I probably won't.  We bought the tree the year before we got married and that's the only year we put it up.  The next year I was laid up from my back surgery and then last year we just didn't have the energy.  I like to put it up because it reminds me of all the good times back when the family celebrated, but I feel like a moron having it up considering we don't celebrate and usually don't buy each other gifts.

  kd.joseph's wish is my command
  
  Just call me "Brothel"
  And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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• betrothed123

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:7cb15ef6-c8ec-46cb-a264-8cd25399e431">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]But what is humbling about it? They are both luxury cars. Does she no longer have heated seats & leather interior -- I'm c'mon <strong>even if I was rich I would not view that as humbling. </strong>
  Posted by tinydancer842[/QUOTE]
  I don't think you can say that at all.  Unless you've been there you don't know how you would view it.  I can damn near guarantee you if you were in that position you would view it as humbling.

  kd.joseph's wish is my command
  
  Just call me "Brothel"
  And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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• tinydancer842

  

  November 2010

  Just answer me how -- no one can seem to answer HOW it is humbling. 

  

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• betrothed123

  

  November 2010

  I have told you how twice now.  Stating it again will do no good if you haven't gotten it yet.

  kd.joseph's wish is my command
  
  Just call me "Brothel"
  And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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• beatlesgirl25

  

  November 2010

  I can understand that B. For me, putting up Christmas stuff is a fun and loving part of my childhood that I like to recreate every year, and I love looking at it from outside my window and every time I walk in the door. I'm atheist, and H is agnostic, so we don't celebrate Christmas either, but we love the season so it's worth it to us to put up the tree. I say you should do whatever makes you happy!

  
  
  
  
  Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
  
  "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko

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• K&J64 member

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:7cb15ef6-c8ec-46cb-a264-8cd25399e431">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]But what is humbling about it? They are both luxury cars. Does she no longer have heated seats & leather interior -- I'm c'mon even if I was rich I would not view that as humbling. 
  Posted by tinydancer842[/QUOTE]
  
  Who cares what the make of the cars were, the point was that she traded in to save $300/mo on her car payment. Would you not have an issue with it if it said she traded in her 2010 Highlander for a used Altima? Don't hate on her because she had a Benz and now has a BMW.

  
  

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• betrothed123

  

  November 2010

  Hm... maybe I'll do it, then.  I'll probably wait until a week before Christmas, though.

  kd.joseph's wish is my command
  
  Just call me "Brothel"
  And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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• tinydancer842

  

  November 2010

  wow I totally missed your response sorry...my bad

  
  

  I am not saying making less $ per yr is not humbling, but this particular story highlights how she went from a mercedes to a bmw. IMO they are both status symbols, both very nice cars, so she gave up some extra features? I can't say that is humbling. If she had to move, etc. I'd feel bad, but the article doesn't mention that this is the case.

  

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• beatlesgirl25

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:7b835c8d-a270-4b83-ba76-472c0863d231">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]Just answer me how -- no one can seem to answer HOW it is humbling. 
  Posted by tinydancer842[/QUOTE]
  
  Because being humbled is a subjective experience that is based on the baseline of an individual person, and their level of discomfort/distress as unexpected changes occur, AND what they learn and appreciate about themselves and life in general as a result of the changes. Is that better?
  
  So no, none of us can speak to how it would be humbling for his woman, or for you in her shoes, for the reasons stated above.

  
  
  
  
  Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
  
  "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko

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• K&J64 member

  

  November 2010 edited November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:e3040ce0-fed7-4616-a130-d6bf5b504b82">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]wow I totally missed your response sorry...my bad I am not saying making less $ per yr is not humbling, but this particular story highlights how she went from a mercedes to a bmw. IMO they are both status symbols, both very nice cars, so she gave up some extra features? I can't say that is humbling. If she had to move, etc. I'd feel bad, but the article doesn't mention that this is the case.
  Posted by tinydancer842[/QUOTE]
  
  The story doesn't give you the model of the cars either. She could have went from an E class mercedes to a 325i BMW, which are about $30K apart in MSRP, that's the difference between a KIA and an a Cadillac. The label on the car does not necessarily make it nice, there are different levels. Again, she's saving $300/month on her car payment, that was the point.

  
  

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• beatlesgirl25

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:e3040ce0-fed7-4616-a130-d6bf5b504b82">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]wow I totally missed your response sorry...my bad I am not saying making less $ per yr is not humbling, but this particular story highlights how she went from a mercedes to a bmw. IMO they are both status symbols, both very nice cars, so she gave up some extra features? I can't say that is humbling.<strong> If she had to move, etc. I'd feel bad</strong>, but the article doesn't mention that this is the case.
  Posted by tinydancer842[/QUOTE]
  
  I think making this distinction is missing the whole point of the article.

  
  
  
  
  Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
  
  "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko

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• beatlesgirl25

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feel-good-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:060630fa-d9fa-400b-97e1-cce5fe905ba0Post:f4739205-9136-4950-9071-86dad8d13e2f">Re: A feel good story</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hm... maybe I'll do it, then.  I'll probably wait until a week before Christmas, though.
  Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
  
  Sounds like fun! Make sure to kitty-proof the tree. ;)

  
  
  
  
  Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
  
  "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko

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