In early March I was asked to be a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding that is in August. She was in my wedding that actually took place this past month. She currently lives in Washington DC, but will be having her wedding in Boston, where I and her other bridesmaids live. She traveled to my wedding this past month.
Last month, she asked me if I could afford to attend a bachelorette party in Las Vegas. I looked up ticket prices and found they were around $450-500 range, and between drinks and meals for the whole weekend, it would be over $800 for the weekend, and I just knew that wasn't doable. I let her know right away that I couldn't afford it.
After my wedding, my new husband and I went to Galveston for a few days to get away because my sister works for a hotel chain and got us a terrific rate, plus my husband travels often, and we got cheap tickets through using his Airline miles. Also, my parents are graciously paying for us to go to Maui this summer as an incredible wedding present, and we are super grateful.
Two days ago, my friend texts me and says, "Wow, that's nice you can go to on two trips when money is so tight." I was very upset because she knows nothing of my finances. My husband and I have a mortgage, car payment, utilities, etc. every month. Before all this happened she and I were planning a trip in which I was going going to visit her in DC for a weekend and party. I've been saving up for this trip for three months now, putting away some money each paycheck, but now I feel this is not going to be good enough for her. Should I suck it up and put a trip to Vegas on the credit card or stand my ground? Thanks!